Never had a reletionship

[elaktronnye]

Hey guys, Im a newbie here. Im 20 and never had a relationship nor a tiny approach to a guy. The thing is that the gay scene doesnt interest me so much. I'm just a regular guy who loves to hang out with friends. I dont go to clubs very often (like once every 3 months or so), or even go out that regularly since the university takes most of my time, so its kinda hard for me to meet guys at all and Im also shy...

The thing is that no guy has ever shown interest in me, and its kinda discouraging. Im young and I dont think I'm bad looking. Do I need to have gay friends and go out to make myself available? Its not that I need a guy, but it can be nice to have someone or just have fun from time to time... What do you think I should do?

ps: thats me in the attachements...

 

[WYSIWYG]

Well sounds like to me that you need to make SOME effort to get out and meet people shy or not! Yes, some guys will approach you, but if you look like your not approachable, it ain't going to happen!

Does your University have any gay clubs or social activities? If they do check it out mate! Waiting for something equates to nothing happening......

 

[bluedragon4]

I was the same way when I was younger. But as a got older it wasn't that way. I think when people think you may be under age they avoid you. You look young so that could be the problem. Or maybe guys are intimidated by your looks?

 

[elaktronnye]

Yes, I need to make myself more approachable... The only way is to go out more, I guess... And bluedragon4 do I look underage? and what looks? Im regular looking hehe

 

[bluedragon4]

Yes, I need to make myself more approachable... The only way is to go out more, I guess... And bluedragon4 do I look underage? and what looks? Im regular looking hehe

STOP!! You know your hot. Look at those sexy glamour shots you got going on.

 

[elaktronnye]

STOP!! You know your hot. Look at those sexy glamour shots you got going on.

hahaha ok, thanks. I kinda blushed... You're hot too, but I see youre taken hehe

and thanks the_pianist I hope I get noticed sooner than later

 

[boy0boy]

I was the same way when I was younger. But as a got older it wasn't that way. I think when people think you may be under age they avoid you. You look young so that could be the problem. Or maybe guys are intimidated by your looks?

God knows I've run into that problem. Oh well their loss.

 

[elaktronnye]

I like my hair... but thanks for the advice. And Im kinda amazed that you guys find me hot or attractive. Ive never seen myself in such a way. But big thanks again hehe. And I dunno if I look that underage...

 

[rareboy]

Try not to be so serious. Smile lots. Make friends whenever you can with guys of all ages. Study hard.

You'll get laid soon enough.

 

[megustamyn]

First, let me say that you are adorable and there is nothing wrong with your hair. A young man as cute as you should not have a problem meeting guys. On the other hand, you live in Venezuela where you probably do not have a lot of community centers and gay organizations that meet to fun things other than the club scene. I do know that there is a Metropolitan Community Church in Caracas (ICM Caracas) MCC or, ICM en español, is a church comprised primarily of gay people. I know some of the people from ICM Caracas and they are primarily young people who provide a great deal of support for each other functioning as more than just a worship group. You might want to contact them at icmvzla [at] cantv [dot] net. Even if you’re not interested in church, they may be able to put you in contact with other groups of young gay people.

As usual, Rareboy’s advice is great.

 

[maxpowr9]

Just keep your spirits up and Im sure you will find a guy. Just avoid the desperation that some guys face and hooking up over the internet, it really is a dark place.

 

[Oden_grey]

...so its kinda hard for me to meet guys at all and Im also shy...

The thing is that no guy has ever shown interest in me, and its kinda discouraging...

An observation I've found true in my life is that adult shyness can be taken as an aloof air. In other words maybe shyness makes you seem disinterested in the approaches of others.

For me, public speaking helps put shyness at bay. I'd suggest joining toastmasters or the debate team at your university. You may never lose the shyness, but if you work hard at it, you can turn it off when you need to.

 

[silentalk]

I have the same problem. Only I can almost pinpoint the reason: I have to be out there!

So I guess you have to try a bit harder.

 

[elaktronnye]

Well my public speaking is fine. Im part of the Havard National United Nations Model delegation at my University, so yes, Im learning to get my shyness expelled when needed.
And dont worry, Im not desperate to start hooking up online.

megustamyn, thanks for the nice compliments and advice... Ill take note and check out what ure telling me

 

[martin6]

I guess I don't really have much to say that hasn't been said, so I'll just say this: You are damn cute!

 

[elaktronnye]

thank u so much for the compliment martin

 

[spreadeagle]

Judging from the thumbnails you'll have no difficulty making a positive initial impression - but that's not the same thing as a relationship.

I don't think you need to be in too much of a hurry - if you reach 25 without being laid, maybe yes. It's crazy to put yourself into an environment in which you feel uncomfortable in the hope of finding a boyfriend because you'll feel like a fish out of water and the cards will be stacked against you ...and you're shy.

Play from your strengths - do what you're doing now, going out with friends and having fun, when you're comfortable, relaxed and animated you're at your most attractive. In that safe environment practise talking more, initiating conversation and expanding your comfort levels. If you let your friends know you're looking then they can arrange introductions.

Your chances of finding someone you like are greater if you meet them pursuing an interest you have in common, rather than if you meet them in the random, looks-oriented, meat market of the gay scene.

 

[rareboy]

So, now you have reassurances that you are good looking and you obviously are erudite. I would think you'd be every gay student's dream catch.

I suppose you live at home though?

You are going to have to go out into the world and meet guys. You should travel to other countries on your own, particularly North America and Europe to expand your horizons.

Eventually, you'll feel confident enough to be the one initiating conversations and relationships.

 

[glorificus]

I was thinking about getting a hair cut like that ^^

wow, this is something i'm gonna be going through, I haven't been hit on by guys before, at lease I don't think I have, so I'm gonna have to take everyone's advice here.

 

[elaktronnye]

yup... I live a t home. But not with my family since I go to the uni in another city. Well, traveling to Europe has been a goal for me for some time now. On February Im going to the States for a week, but just to the Harvard convention. Although, while in Boston, Im sure Ill have some time to go out and explore. I could use a guide there... Anyone interested?