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New BF is uncomfortable with farting in my presence and in bed

I think there has to be a middle ground. I wouldn't want to be around a guy who continously lets foul-smelling farts and thinks its cute. On the other hand, I think one can be overly prudish. I work in health care, so I smell other people's shit all the time--it's part of the package we call life.

If two people are in a relationship, have seen each other's naked bodies, fucked, eaten each other's asses and ingested their cum, that's about as intimate as it gets. If you plan to live together for any length of time, you'll have to live with each other's quirks, and bodily functions are part of that.

Having said that, I know how embarassing it can be to come out of a bathroom after stinking it up. I think the best advice on this comes from married couples, who were also prudish about farts, etc., early on and years later don't really give a shit (no pun intended).
 
Queerwitch said:
I think there has to be a middle ground. I wouldn't want to be around a guy who continously lets foul-smelling farts and thinks its cute. On the other hand, I think one can be overly prudish. I work in health care, so I smell other people's shit all the time--it's part of the package we call life.

If two people are in a relationship, have seen each other's naked bodies, fucked, eaten each other's asses and ingested their cum, that's about as intimate as it gets. If you plan to live together for any length of time, you'll have to live with each other's quirks, and bodily functions are part of that.

Having said that, I know how embarassing it can be to come out of a bathroom after stinking it up. I think the best advice on this comes from married couples, who were also prudish about farts, etc., early on and years later don't really give a shit (no pun intended).
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I agree. Non-sexual bodily functions are something you get used to over time, and that includes stinking up the bathroom without the need for hiding the evidence or not being embarrassed/afraid to let one fly (but not a silly high school boy game to see whose farts are the loudest or smelliest). I guess it takes time for some guys, me, not so much. Maybe it's because I am more attracted to 'macho' type men that really don't give a shit.
 
Why, pray tell, do you think that has anything to do with masculinity? I was more macho than my last boyfriend, but he was the one that was more comfortable farting, not I.

If somebody is uncomfortable about something, the correct, empathetic response to their behavior is to agree with it, and go along with their suggestions, otherwise you won't keep any relationship. People do have weird quirks and fears about stuff and stuff, and you just have to let them have their silly fears you know? I understand this can be kinda hard to learn when you're still young- but you have to let people be themselves.

I'm a Capricorn, I'm kinda naturally uptight and stuffy about a lot of stuff. People remember those who aren't considerate to their feelings...so I think the best advice I could give you is to simply let it go and be lucky you even have a boyfriend!!!
 
I'm really sensitive to shitty smells. As in they are so yucky and I don't want anything to do with them, farting is gross. I guess a lot of guys do make it into some erotic game, I read a lot of fan fiction about how guys were so turned on cause a 'straight guy kept farting in class' and I just kinda laughed at that.

I admit one time I got turned on (in fantasy) farting when a dude was fucking me, but my 'fantasy farts' smell all great, my real life farts smell well, like shit. So it's one of those things I like to jerk off about as a fantasy but irl it's no way lol.
 
It is what it is. My relationship is not a gay one but it really doesn't matter. I won't fart in front of my girl. It has nothing to do with her being a girl. As a matter of fact, she has let a couple slip here and there. With me, it's been far less. When you're asleep, you can't help it. I think my whole problem with it comes from a past gf who would fart in public and embarrass me to no end. She had no couth and I found it very unattractive. I don't want to be that person.
 
It's honestly not that big of a deal unless you are trying to get intimate. As long as it doesn't stink, just shrug it off.

If you or your BF are honestly that sensitive about this sort of thing, you are gonna go through a lot of relationships just because you nitpick at somebody's flaws; either accept them for who they are or move on.
 
Some people are just uncomfortable doing that in front of others. Be grateful it isn't the opposite, some guys really enjoy the process. You might have gotten a boyfriend who enjoys shoving your head under the blankets and playing "Dutch Oven"...
 
Eventually, all couples come to grips with this.

They sort of become one.

It's a natural thing and no big deal.
 
When I was much younger I let a great guy go because he farted in front of me and giggled about it like it was the funniest thing he's ever heard.

Of course I feel stupid about it now, but at the time in that moment I was just grossed out.

My reaction probably wasn't atypical considering I was still dealing with denial and what not at the time, but I'm the type who will hold gas in until I'm alone too.

This guy was like my perfect match and I totally tossed him aside over some gas and giggles. Fart is a powerful thing.
 
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