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New relationship problem

Yes it is.

And, btw, anyone who tells you "I love you" on the first date (or even the first month) is full of shit.

Love comes with time.
 
I feel so ashamed and used to let him top me now. But it was something I was always curious about, and even though it didn't turn out so great, now I just have to step away and learn from my mistake.
 
blahman16 said:
I told him this in the car when he was driving me back home, and I got out of the car still having tears running down my face. what have i gotten myself into, being so worked up over someone i like but who i have so much reservations for.
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There are a lot of times in your life where you will be faced with compromises in relationships.

But there are just some things that you shouldn't compromise on. If your values tell you that you want a committed relationship in which you're the center of your partner's attentions, then you shouldn't compromise.

It's not a lesson that a lot of people learn at an early age, so give yourself credit for putting it out there and telling him how you feel.



blahman16 said:
I feel so ashamed and used to let him top me now. But it was something I was always curious about, and even though it didn't turn out so great, now I just have to step away and learn from my mistake.
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Listen: learning is a process of looking backward but living is a process of moving forward. It's done. You did what you did and hopefully, looking back, you've learning some things in this whole process.

But it's time to move on. Let all of this go and just work on finding someone with the same values as you.
 
Not to defend the creep but if you're not currently exclusive he can talk to and see and have sex with whomever he likes. It totally disrespects you though for him to tell you about it.

If you decide you can't live without him. Give him what he says he wants, commitment. Then see how long it lasts (him not seeing other people) then drop his ass and tell him I told you so and call him a liar.

Cause in actuality, it's not wrong to date other people unless you're offically together, which you're not.

So leave now and forever hold your peace (cut off all contact) and get zero closure or plop your heart right on your sleeve and expect it to get shot off, but you'll get the closure you might be looking for (albeit the hard way)
 
Thanks everyone.

I know he's juggling with several open game no commitment relationships right now, and I can't see him anymore, not until he decides who he wants to pick (I know he's juggling between several relationships, including the one from Canada), and that I can't handle open relationships.
 
Lube said:
Yes it is.

And, btw, anyone who tells you "I love you" on the first date (or even the first month) is full of shit.

Love comes with time.
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Also very true.

I've been seeing a guy for about a month, and I like him, but I'm nowhere even close to the love stage yet.
 
Finally, he admitted it.

He is not willing to see me without sleeping around with anyone else, and he told me I shouldn't commit just to him either?

He and I do not value a relationship the same way. When I like someone, I do not ever consider sleeping around with anyone else, period.
 
hahaha.

even if he does truly have feelings for me, he doesn't have the same type of feelings I have for him because he wouldn't commit.

i know that he is going on a 3 week vacation in another country next month, and the idea of not able to have random sex with people there is something he can't give up afterall.
 
blahman16 said:
Finally, he admitted it.

He is not willing to see me without sleeping around with anyone else, and he told me I shouldn't commit just to him either?

He and I do not value a relationship the same way. When I like someone, I do not ever consider sleeping around with anyone else, period.
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As the saying goes, "One door closes, another opens...".

Now, stop waiting, move on.
 
I feel free. Even though this was a hard ordeal, it was better to find out early on that he can't stop sleeping around, than to get myself into more trouble later on when I have even more feelings for him.
 
I officially told him I'm not going to see him anymore.

He didn't believe me, and said I was making "nothing out of nothing." The fact is he can't stop seeing others.
 
2 weeks ago he blocked my emails and calls because he thought I was sleeping around with someone else (I did not), and then he texted me and said I don't have the same feelings for him as he does for me.

Now, it's pretty clear he is the one who doesn't have the same feelings.

He can't stop having random sex. It's better that I know now so I can move on.

OK this is the last post regarding this.
 
Glad you're moving on and learned this important lesson without getting hurt too bad.
 
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