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newbie bi-curious guy need help

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I'm a newbie at being bi-curious I have never been with a guy but I would like to try it.I don't now where to start I'm so scared of being with someone that is wanting sex right off the bat.Here is my question, How do you deal with guys that are pushing me into anal sex which I'm not sure of because I hear its painful.What is the best way to find the right partner that will take it slow and easy.How should I start a relationship with another guy.What the best way to tell a guy is bi/gay/or in the middle of the road like me from the way they act.
Can someone please help
 
First off, never do anything with which you are not comfortable. If someone pushes you, simply say 'NO'.

Right now, I would recommend looking for some group in which you can involve yourself.

Get to know more gay and bi people. Through that you may meet friends. And possibly you can meet a special someone.
 
Because we do not wear badges, and it is simply unacceptable to just out and say 'are you gay?' under the slightest suspicions, you are probably going to have to go to where the population might logically be expected. Where this is varies from place to place, if you have an intimate knowledge of your home city you might know a spot or two.

The only other option I can give you is the internet, which is probably your best bet for finding anyone. Get on a nice reputable personals site and see who you can snag. Be very open and honest about what you want, and make sure the guy understands that before you even meet. Meet publicly if that is how you feel comfortable, if he really wants to meet you he'll agree, and check him out. Despite the stereotype of online guys all being lonely trolls who have nowhere else to turn, I have found a lot of great men who were exactly as they said or better. The stereotype really does not hold true for bisexual or gay men, as even the hottest, most caring guys often get frustrated with inability to find a partner, and the internet is really the only way. Usually the trolls are the guys at the bars.

You should not find it too hard to get someone who will ease you into it. I would encourage you, however, to experiment with yourself to see if you really don't enjoy anal sex or not. You might be surprised, and you'll be able to be much more relaxed with the uncertainty out of the way whether you do or not. And by no means do all gay men enjoy anal sex, so relationships do happen where that isn't even a factor. Or perhaps you will find topping enjoyable (if you have sex with women you probably should), it takes both roles to get it done, you can play the other side just as easily.
 
Just go out and meet people. And remember, until you feel comfortable, say no. If they aren't willing to wait, then they aren't worth it
 
I'll be your friend BiVirgin, were kinda in the same boat, I know i'm bi, but i've never been with a guy, but would sure as hell like to try it.
 
As a lot of guys say Just get out and meet some people, also there are websites all over that has guys like yourself on it, looking to have that first Gay Experience, As a gay guy I personaly have had no problems when it comes to sex, I am not into anal, But we are all different, and as some of the guys say Never let anyone force you into anything that your not 100% sure of and dont do anything that you don't want to, Be yourself and Have fun BTW where are you from....Davie x
 
I would also recommend the online thing.

I have a really hard time finding guys because people don't suspect I'm bi, I tend not to fit the stereotype at all, and I date girls sometimes, so most guys would just assume I'm not interested.

But I've had fairly good luck online...I've met a couple guys. The first was cool to hang out with, but things didn't really click...the second went really well.

If you make it clear that you want to meet for dinner or a cup of coffee..then that should weed out most of the creepy people. Even if you'd be ok going someplace private after, meet publicly first, and it should be fine...it also gives you the chance to cut things off early if things don't seem right.
 
It sounds like everyone gave you good advice bivirgin. I'm in the same boat looking to try it out. If you do meet someone to hook-up with being honest about what your willing to do from the first, it'll save time and frustration later on. Good luck!
 
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