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News I wasn't expecting

soreknees: I was saddened to read about your news. I hope that all goes well, and that the surgery achieves it's goals with no lasting side effects.

I was diagnosed with PC in February of '09 after a biopsy confirmed the findings of an elevated PSA level from a routine physical in November of '08. Before I could get any sort of treatment however, I was laid-off from my job and lost my health insurance - I've since started a new job with health insurance benefits, but I fear that because of the pre-existing condition exclusions that I shall still be unable to have any treatment whatsoever . . .
 
Hippa 1996................
 
DaddyBadger said:
soreknees: I was saddened to read about your news. I hope that all goes well, and that the surgery achieves it's goals with no lasting side effects.

I was diagnosed with PC in February of '09 after a biopsy confirmed the findings of an elevated PSA level from a routine physical in November of '08. Before I could get any sort of treatment however, I was laid-off from my job and lost my health insurance - I've since started a new job with health insurance benefits, but I fear that because of the pre-existing condition exclusions that I shall still be unable to have any treatment whatsoever . . .
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Good luck to you. I thought the open enrollment feature of a new job covered all pre-existing conditions. I hope you get the treatment you need. It's a shame that we don't have universal health coverage. Best wishes and thanks for your kind words.
 
I am very sorry to hear about this, especially about a person whose posts on these forums I find extremely helpful and insightful. But you do sound very optimistic and with that attitude, I have faith you'll be okay. Let us know how everything goes with both you and your family
 
All my best to you soreknees & to everybody who is met with this diagnosis. Good, positive thoughts are what I'm sending your way. And I wish you love, courage & the strength (both mentally & physically) required to set you on your path towards a full recovery.
 
So now that the wedding is over it's time to tell family and friends that I have stage 1 prostate cancer which was diagnosed early. I'll be having surgery at the end of the month to remove the prostate. Recommended treatment options are based upon age. My age suggests it ought to be removed in order to prolong life expectancy. I'm scared of the process of surgery itself. My first goal is to survive the surgery.

Some of you have faced this and some of you will face it. I'm being public with it here to help deal with my fear and to chronicle my experience, which might be of benefit to someone else.

I'm going to visit JUB as much as possible beforehand.
 
Well,

The most challenging obstacle has been met and overcome. Congrats to the

newlyweds.

This other thing should be easy in comparison......but will still keep those

positive affirmations flowing your way.....You got lots of support and love man...

nothing to fear when you have that.

(*8*)
 
Good luck with the surgery. Have a friend who had the surgery at 41 yrs old. He's doing fine, and its 4 yrs later.
 
Sorry to hear that Brother, about the cancer, feel free to write me , i had a stage 4 cancer, not the same type, but lets say i been through it all, if i can help you anyway let me know......Do as the drs say and stay strong, you will be ok, i am 14 years past cancer now
 
Dear Mr. soreknees, et al:

Many thanks for all of your kind wishes and positive thoughts. (*8*) I just thought I would give you an update on my situation. I was finally able to see an urologist last week. I was told that under Texas state law and insurance regulations, life-threatening conditions (such as PC) are not allowed to be excluded from treatment under pre-existing conditions exclusions. <Huge sigh of relief>

It's time for me to have another biopsy next week as I continue my watchful waiting plan of treatment. I am sure to have surgery, sooner rather than later, but for now there seems to be time for me to just monitor things.

I hope that you're still well on the mend from your surgery, Mr. soreknees.

Sincerely,

DB
 
Well I'm revisiting this thread after ignoring it for awhile. Again, I appreciate all your kind words and DB, I am happy you have insurance coverage again. I wish you the best.

The major issues possible after prostate removal are, reoccurrence or continued presence of cancer, bladder incontinence, and erectile dysfunction.

Well, I guess two ought of three isn't bad. I'm cancer free, but will be tested again next month. Incontinence isn't much of an issue. I did wear a pad for a time, but did not go through two packages of 50. I may still have a dribble now and then and I need to be mindful of regular toilet visits as the urge means, get that dick over an urinal or toilet.

Trying to have sex has been frustrating. I have not yet have a garden and surgery was 20/28. When masturbating I can have an orgasm, but it's with a dick that chubs up but doesn't get hard. All the while I leak urine and when I cum I shoot urine. Nice, huh?

I see the doc next month and he has spoken to me of ED options. BTW a Cialis script to the tune of $250 didn't work except for severe backaches. Viagra doesn't work for me either.

Thank god I've got an understanding partner, but it's not pleasant as he is strictly a bottom. For anyone reading this that is all top or all bottom I'd suggest working towards versatility. Frankly I'd be ok with switching roles, but it's not going to happen.

The last resort ED solutions are penis injections,! REALLY,? or an implanted pump!! O-o. I've have also been on an anti-depressant for unrelated reasons and I an being weaned as most have sexual side effects.

I was going to wait until my next doctor's appointment, but if there is still interest I'll keep posting regarding my progress.

By the way, I had a quick physical recovery only to be brought down by acerbated depression. Surprisingly as I have been weaning from the medication, I feel better, but the dick hasn't been helped.

L
 
Congrats on getting to this point - that was one of your goals in the autumn :)

Don't forget that depression itself can cause erectile variability all on its own, medicated or not, so managing and recovering from that is probably important too. Even if only to nail down any physiological aftereffects of the surgery compared with any consequences of the depression.

Anyway take care. You're boldly going where most other men must eventually go, and your wisdom is appreciated.
 
thanks for being so open with this. I am sure it will save lives and inform us all to not be so afraid of having our prostate checked regularly.

I am sure you will overcome the vestigial obstacles that the surgery left you with.

You can't keep a good man down, and you seem like a good man.
 
soreknees said:
I've have also been on an anti-depressant for unrelated reasons and I an being weaned as most have sexual side effects. [...]
I had a quick physical recovery only to be brought down by acerbated depression.
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Well, keep in mind that your situation can be depressing for obvious reasons, first of all. . .and that depression and/or being uncomfortable with your body ITSELF causes sexual dysfunction in men. Secondly, i've actually known quite a few people who USED to be on anti-depressants, but stopped taking them due to the side-effects, namely the sexual side effects. Many people - men and women - had their doctor wean them off, because they were unable to sustain en erection or have an orgasm.


The reason I say you should hold out hope, is because i've actually spoken to a couple of men who've had their prostate removed, and they were actually able to have orgasms and sex, just without ejaculation.
 
Years ago when I lurked it was strictly for the porn and the sexual forums. Little did I know I'd find guys here I'd like to think of as friends. Too bad I'm not around the corner for a quick coffee and a laugh or two. I appreciate the support. Thank you.
 
Just stumbled on this thread, and I'm truly moved by your openness and strength through this journey.

I'm sorry to hear that sex between you and your partner has been effected. I hope he continues to be supportive, and that perhaps this twist will strengthen your bond, somehow.

soreknees said:
Little did I know I'd find guys here I'd like to think of as friends.
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It's so interesting to hear you say that. Though I've been here for just under a year now, you've already posted your way into my heart with thoughtful, sensitive responses. Who wouldn't want to be your friend? :wave:

Surprising when JUB (or any good forum) emotionally inspires our day-to-day, isn't it? I love it. Good luck, and don't hesitate to share something if sharing is helpful for you - we'll always be interested, and probably helped as well.
 
soreknees said:
Years ago when I lurked it was strictly for the porn and the sexual forums. Little did I know I'd find guys here I'd like to think of as friends. Too bad I'm not around the corner for a quick coffee and a laugh or two. I appreciate the support. Thank you.
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hello soreknees
i just wanted to thank you for the words of kindness you gave me about my cancer and it's aftermath. I know how tough it must be for you with yours not precisely mind you but i get the idea. It actually does do a bit of good to come here and know there friendly folks you can chat with about these things.
 
Well, I'm back with an update. I had another PSA reading if zero which us what the doc expects will continue to be the case. I haven't had an erection, but the ole boy is chubbing up a lit more. :) I have been having orgasms masturbating and staying soft and leaking and shooting urine. It took 5 hours to orgasm last November. YIKEES! That is now down to my usual half hour. I'm been weaned off the anti-depressants. The doc wants me to try the erection injection, which I hadn't heard of until he spoke of it. To tell the truth I'd love to chase my partner around the dininig room table with a hardon and preferably, mine. Hehe.

ANYWAY GET THIS.

I woke up a month ago with a tingling in a couple of fingers. I have had back/neck pain for a long time. It seems as if I'm going to have to have neck surgery to alleviate the pressure on the nerve affecting my arm/hand. I'm thinking, WTF? Wouldn't it be nice to have six months, at least, between surgeries?

Apparently this problem was long in the making And something happened in the night which was the last straw. My hand won't do what I want it to do and has already atrophied. Thank god it's not my dominate hand, but, still. Really?!?

I'm getting a second opinion next week. I want my hand back, but this might be permanent damage.

Thanks guys for letting me dump this.
 
I'm glad the PSA is down. I'm sorry to hear about your hand though. I hope it turns out to be nothing. (*8*)
 
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