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Nice while it lasted

I don't understand what "drives" someone to leave a forum.

Whatever happened to just taking a break and returning after a bit?

-d-
 
blackbeltninja said:
I don't understand what "drives" someone to leave a forum.

Whatever happened to just taking a break and returning after a bit?

-d-
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A dramatic exit is required. Didn't you read the handbook? :)
 
>>>If you just disappear, people start threads asking what happened to you...

I took a rather long JUBbatical recently, several months long. Didn't do a big goodbye or anything - just stopped cold. Only recently did I come back and resume posting. After posting for a bit, I saw a thread similar to this one - which got me wondering...

Did anyone miss me?

That wasn't the point of my disappearance, or re-appearance. But I was human enough to wonder if anybody missed me enough to actually mention it here on JUB. So I did a search.

No thread devoted to my absence. I didn't even show up in the "People You Miss Seeing on JUB" thread. Two people mentioned me in passing - hotdog and (I think) bi-now. But both brief mentions, no discussion.

It might be that that means I haven't made much of an impression. But I think it means that my theory is correct. That anyone's absence on JUB will only be felt if it's highlighted. Otherwise, JUB simply moves on. :)

Lex
 
G-Lexington said:
>>>If you just disappear, people start threads asking what happened to you...

I took a rather long JUBbatical recently, several months long. Didn't do a big goodbye or anything - just stopped cold. Only recently did I come back and resume posting. After posting for a bit, I saw a thread similar to this one - which got me wondering...

Did anyone miss me?

That wasn't the point of my disappearance, or re-appearance. But I was human enough to wonder if anybody missed me enough to actually mention it here on JUB. So I did a search.

No thread devoted to my absence. I didn't even show up in the "People You Miss Seeing on JUB" thread. Two people mentioned me in passing - hotdog and (I think) bi-now. But both brief mentions, no discussion.

It might be that that means I haven't made much of an impression. But I think it means that my theory is correct. That anyone's absence on JUB will only be felt if it's highlighted. Otherwise, JUB simply moves on. :)

Lex
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Perhaps it has something to do with the size of the community, or maybe it's my absent-mindedness, but I'm much more likely to notice a presence than I am to notice an absence. I can't count how many times I've visited the "People you miss seeing on here" thread and suddenly realized that someone I really like hasn't been posting for a few months. But once that person returns, I *do* notice, and I often make a forum comment or post about it.

There have been a few times when I needed to stay away from JUB for a week or two at a time because of travel or work, and people's responses have always baffled me. If I post a thread announcing my impending absence, there are still some people who post or message me to find out why I haven't been posting. If I don't announce my absence, nobody seems to notice.

Moral of the story: I have peach ice cream, and I kind of want a bowl.
 
Understood. The way I see it, all ice cream containers are single serving...

Lex
 
>>>I hope you never buy those giant vats that the ice cream shops serve from...

Not yet. :)

Lex
 
I don't particularly agree with the assumption that making a 'goodbye' thread is always solely for attention (though perhaps the attention is a factor). I don't always let everybody know that I appreciate them around here (though I'm a bit of a sap, and I do my best dammit :lol:).
I like the idea of a 'goodbye' thread because it could give me the opportunity to let somebody know how highly I think of them if I hadn't yet had (or taken) the opportunity to do so in the past.

G-Lexington said:
Did anyone miss me?
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It's a bit of a cheesy sentiment, but I would miss you if you left. I always enjoy reading your posts - whether you're giving sound, rational advice, or just contributing your thoughts and opinions to a debate, it's always good to read (plus, your voice in the 'post your voice' thread made me melt :luv:). Even though we haven't yet spoken, if ever you do decide to leave (you don't have to make a thread if you feel like it's seeking attention, but) feel free to send me PM saying goodbye :D
 
sixthson said:
If you announce you are leaving, people accuse you of seeking attention.

If you just disappear, people start threads asking what happened to you.

Either way, you just can't win.
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Just privately tell the ones that matter to you :)
 
cityboy-stl said:
I wish people who post these goodbye threads would also say WHY.
So OK, you feel "my time here has come to an end"...WHY?
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I think the only reason could be that he no longer feels the need to post...or something like that. At first I agreed that he should have said why, but I thought about it. The only thing I could've thought of is that he thought it was time to move on. Maybe he was tired of checking new topics and keeping up with the forum. I have to say, though, that it was nice of him to say goodbye. Even though I would've rather he kept his account inactive I guess he'll do what he finds best.
 
sixthson said:
If you announce you are leaving, people accuse you of seeking attention.

If you just disappear, people start threads asking what happened to you.

Either way, you just can't win.
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I never made a thread I just said fuck it and deleted my account, nobody made a thread about my disappearance. I was only mentioned in the People you miss seeing on here thread. Took them a couple of months to notice.
 
Wouldn't it have been better to just send a PM to those people rather than start a thread?
 
If I ever left (and there are some right now that probably wish I would! :lol: ) I'd start a thread out of courtesy just to give my reason/s and thank people for their friendship, support and advice etc. There would be some that I'd remain in touch with anyway, but I wouldn't want to just not post again and leave people wondering.

I wouldn't however, do it, and then continue posting in the thread and then change my mind and stay, or start a thread saying that I'm thinking of leaving just so that everyone begs me not to! THAT'S attention seeking. :)
 
Did the lovely Hunter leave on the 14th because he couldn't top that picture on the 13th?

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