No Idea What To Do!

[madman789]

Okay, here goes!

In my old high school there was THE most amazingly handsome gym teacher. He never taughtly creamed my pants).

WELL, I've been having on and off fantasies about him ever since I laid eyes on him 10 years ago and he still teaches there now. I'm at University and I wondered if I could possibly use the same gym and see him work out there and maybe get chatting to him etc. Only problem is, he has a wife and two grown kids. I know it sounds crazy but this man is just pure heaven. I would do anything to have him. There's times where I would get a bit stalkerish and start trying to find out where he lives...I know...I'm sad and pathetic..don't judge me please!

Recently I got in contact with him by school email asking about the gym in which he gave me a call and I honest to god for the life of me can't remember what he said because I was entranced by his deep sexy voice! I had to have a wank after that...

So here's the problem...Do I tell him how I feel about him, or do I just keep all this fantasy crap in my head?

Thanks for reading

[Photo deleted] - Yep, that's him!

 

[palbert]

Keep it in your head. You need more than you have to go further. It's called a crush.

 

[Daetjo]

i dont think telling him how you feel would be any good, or maybe you are lucky enough he is bi or something and you get a shag lol, but you will likely scare him away.
i used to have a crush on this guy who used to be a pro footballer but a knee injury and his gaming addiction made him lose all he had so he worked in a supermarket across the street from where i work (a coffeshop) and he went there everyday to have a beer, i was crazy about him and since im into football and i used to play myself i decided to become good friends, instead of telling him i had a major crush on him (he was divorced and had 2 grown up kids and was talking about women all the time) so i tought i never had a chance sexually, we became good friends, that time i was playing football at my local club and invited him to train with us, just give us some advice and tips (i was 19 years old) he accepted and for a whole season he went training with us, well just some runnings and playing a bit football for fun, and at the end he showered with us, so for almost a year i got to see him like 2 times a week naked, time passed and he moved somewhere else, and even tho i would definitly do him anytime of the day my crush kind of fade away.
my point is, maybe try to become friends, know what he is into, etc, who knows what you find out, just dont scare him away.

 

[Rolyo85]

Obsessing on straight people is self-destructive. Are there no attractive fit older GAY men where you are? Either way, you can't have him and you shouldn't try.

 

[Seasoned]

Let this go for your sake.

 

[jensu846]

have you sent out a vibe too him or have you gotten any vibe from him? I say go for it, but be very discreet and careful about it.. very down low.

 

[Illmatic]

Im having a crush on my boss who is married and has 2 kids and Ive been thinking about telling him many times but why would you? You would deffinately ruin things. So, in my opinion, keep it in your head. It will slowly fade away (luckily) as it did for me.
If youre never gonna see him again you CAN give it a shot but be prepared for a let down

 

[rareboy]

Let this go for [STRIKE]your[/STRIKE] HIS sake.

Please.

He isn't the only hot bod to crush over. There are lots of other straight gym bunnies out there for you to obsess over.

 

[KaraBulut]

WELL, I've been having on and off fantasies about him ever since I laid eyes on him 10 years ago and he still teaches there now. I'm at University and I wondered if I could possibly use the same gym and see him work out there and maybe get chatting to him etc. Only problem is, he has a wife and two grown kids. I know it sounds crazy but this man is just pure heaven. I would do anything to have him. There's times where I would get a bit stalkerish and start trying to find out where he lives...I know...I'm sad and pathetic..don't judge me please!

Not judging... but 10 years of fantasies, knowing where he works out, knowing where he lives, knowing about his family... this is gone beyond a fantasy into the territory of obsession.... and since you've already used the word, yes, "stalkerish".

This is teetering on the point at which you either need to walk away and avoid all future contact with him (for everyone's sake) or you need to get counseling to move on from this. If this continues in the direction it is going, it will not end well for anyone.

 

[Ganoderma]

(...) Only problem is, he has a wife and two grown kids. I know it sounds crazy but this man is just pure heaven. I would do anything to have him. There's times where I would get a bit stalkerish and start trying to find out where he lives...I know...I'm sad and pathetic..don't judge me please! (...). So here's the problem...Do I tell him how I feel about him, or do I just keep all this fantasy crap in my head?

hi Madman789,

Are you open & out, what's your age, and what's your experience with guys until now? Excuse me very much, but I agree with all other people over here that you should (=must) forget about him. So you are a student at a university. Is there any sort of GSA, is there any sort of gay club?

Do I tell him how I feel about him? No & never. or do I just keep all this fantasy crap in my head? No. You must forget about him. Easiest done by becoming friends with other gays (and hopefully finding a special one).

Good luck & take care. Feel free to react, as I can imagine very well that you feel quite lousy right now. Don't forget that this guy is (1) straight, and (2) married.

 

[madman789]

Thank you so much for your help guys...

By the looks of things, it's clear that I should leave him alone.

I will have to keep all this in my head.

Thanks again, for all your help/ experiences shared and advice.

Oh and Ganoderma - I'm 20, from UK, closeted-ish...Been with one guy.

 

[Ganoderma]

hi madman789,

Thanks for your friendly reply and good to read that you have concluded to leave him alone. Thanks as well to tell us abit more about your background. I would like to advise you to open yourself (abit more), in order to get more easily contact with other gays over there. Do you have any idea if there is some sort of gay club, gay/straight/alliance at your university? I think its good to join such a club, and to start socializing with some gay guys.

Definately, there will be other gay students at your university. How do you think that they can find you? Tough / impossible (because you are hiding that you like guys)? Please be aware that most people (definately all students at a university) will be aware that a certain amount of guys is gay. Well, you are just one of them. Would you mind to tell us abit more if there are certain reasons why you would prefer to keep -more or less- pretending that you are 'straight, single, and looking around for a nice girl'?

Hey man, there is right now in the UK a huge debate about the same-sex marriage. Your goverment will soon open the marriage for same-sex partners, and the big majority of the people is supporting this policy. So all people in the UK must right now be very aware that there are gay people all around.

Best wishes, and feel free to react and/or ask additional questions.