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jeffhardylover8472

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This past year, I actually started dating, however everything has just been a one-night thing. All the guys in my area just seem to want one thing (yes, I'm talking about sex). I can't find what I want around here. It seems I have to look farther.

I had a crush on a guy I went to school with a few years ago. I found out he was bi earlier this year, but at the time he had a girlfriend. I heard different things about him, that he broke up with his girlfriend to be with a guy, then the guy moved away. I wanted to ask him out, but I was told by his brother that he just went back to liking girls, which then put me in a weird place.

I can't seem to win with any guy. I didn't think being gay was gonna be this difficult. I think I should just give up and be a loner for another while.
 
How are you meeting guys?
 
Define "dating sites".
 
Have you thought about going out to bars, doing some volunteering, joining a gym, taking up a sport, or attending a book club?

These are all ways you can meet other guys. Because I'm not from Sydney, I'm not much help when it comes to dating websites.
 
jeffhardylover8472 said:
I can't seem to win with any guy. I didn't think being gay was gonna be this difficult. I think I should just give up and be a loner for another while.
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It's not a matter of being gay. It's just as tough for anyone - gay or straight - to find someone that they click with.

Part of the problem is your age group- most guys your age are still fumbling through figuring out the rules of dating (and many gay guys in particular don't date until after age 18.) and many young people just want to play the field for a while until they're ready to settle down.


jeffhardylover8472 said:
This past year, I actually started dating, however everything has just been a one-night thing. All the guys in my area just seem to want one thing (yes, I'm talking about sex). I can't find what I want around here. It seems I have to look farther.
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Well of course they wanted sex. Who doesn't?

It's up to you to find the happy medium. Dating is supposed to be about meeting people, hanging out and having fun (in bed and out of bed).

Go in with lowered expectations and a lot of the pressure is off everyone. Accept that you're not going to like everyone you go out on a date with. Keep in mind that some may become friends but aren't boyfriend material. And just be open to the idea that while no one will ever be the perfect guy for you, there will be a few that are worth seeing again.

The internet has just become the new version of a gay bar- the impersonal nature just encourages people who are horny and want to get off. Where possible, try to meet guys in person at places where you have something in common with the group- like volunteer work, gay social groups or the Gayborhood in your city.
 
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