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he's 'not been feeling well' and not been in the mood for sex, but i found pics of his dick on his phone today. several years in. Ignore it, Address it, or live with it?
 
Found by accident or because you were snooping? Snooping is the otherside of the cheating coin. I'm not saying dick pics are necessarily cheating unless the two of you have that excluded from your relationship expectations.

If you can address this from the standpoint of missing sex with him. Ask him how and when he's been taking care of himself. Unless he's on his deathbed he ought to be able to tolerate being close or even helping you get off.

There seem to be red flags.
 
No one has the right to look at other peoples messages without there permission, stop it and work on your relationship more. Do not lose a good thing!
 
You have to figure out what the real issue is before you can address it.

If the issue is that you're not satisfied with your sex life, address that.

If you think he's cheating, address that.

The snooping issue... well, that has been addressed by other members already. :)
 
The paranoia/emotional distance death spiral is very common. He pulls further and further away, you go through his things, obsess over his movements, etc.

You stop that by taking Kara's advice.

So many people ignore small fixes and they become major issues. If he's going to leave, he's going to leave. Period. You can't stop him, you can't nag him into loving you more.

It took me a long time to realize that a big part of a successful relations is striving to create an atmosphere of trust and affection, you don't always succeed, but working towards that is much better than him in a bar at 8:00 p.m. because he doesn't want to come home and be nagged at.

Do you understand what I'm saying?
 
TX-Beau said:
The paranoia/emotional distance death spiral is very common. He pulls further & further away, you go through his things, obsess over his movements, etc. You stop that by taking Kara's advice.

So many people ignore small fixes and they become major issues. If he's going to leave, he's going to leave. Period. You can't stop him, you can't nag him into loving you more.

It took me a long time to realize that a big part of a successful relations is striving to create an atmosphere of trust and affection, you don't always succeed, but working towards that is much better than him in a bar at 8:00 p.m. because he doesn't want to come home and be nagged at.

Do you understand what I'm saying?
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That's exactly what my ex did too me, in the end his insecurity & lack of trust, followed by his accusing tone 24/7 drove me away to become emotionally disconnected & in the end I had to leave❗️In the end, I loved him as a friend, but I was no longer in love with him...

I guess I knew 2.5Yrs in to the 4Yrs, 11Mths, 11Days I was with my ex that things were no longer going anywhere! Just took me an additional 18Mths to build the courage to leave... As I was told, you only live once, life is too short to be unhappy!
 
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