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Not another "fallen for my str8 friend" thread..

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Re: Not another "fallen for my str8 friend" thread

I don't believe you're in love, but I do think you love him. That's a good thing, but don't confuse yourself. He was there for you w/ comforting words when you needed them and you're obviously very grateful to him.
What you're probably feeling is love for a good and understanding friend.
Count yourself lucky.
 
Re: Not another "fallen for my str8 friend" thread

I'd say right now you just love him for what he's done for you. It's up to you to keep things there - don't go fantasizing about "what if" scenarios. Just feel really lucky you have a close friend who can hear you out and understand.

Lex
 
Re: Not another "fallen for my str8 friend" thread

If you didn't have an attraction to him before, I believe it's more of appreciation for what he has done. It's the same type of thing as when patients develop an attraction to their therapist. Focus your efforts on finding an available, gay guy and everything will work out fine.
 
Re: Not another "fallen for my str8 friend" thread

Anything is possible. As I have said in a recent post, one of my best friends that i homophobic, i totally have a crush on. I guess somewhere in the back of mind that he is like me {since we have so much in common} and his homophobia is an overcompensation for his gay curosity. Plus he is fuckin hot and REALLY hung.
 
Re: Not another "fallen for my str8 friend" thread

My question is, do you think I've really fallen in love with my friend, or is this a purely platonic love, or appreciation for what he done for me?

The stereotype is that guys are not emotional and women are very emotional.

The opposite is true. Men tend to feel emotions very deeply to the point of being overwhelmed which is why there so many threads in this forum about feelings...

What you felt is a very strong and deep set of feelings for your friend- in this case because you opened up, were emotionally vunerable and your friend showed support for you. What you felt is what friends are supposed to feel for each other. That's what real friendship is.

But it's not the same as being "in love".
 
Re: Not another "fallen for my str8 friend" thread

My question is, do you think I've really fallen in love with my friend, or is this a purely platonic love, or appreciation for what he done for me? Since I'm gay, and he's a guy, it really is hard to tell.
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You have the 'fucked by angels' syndrome. It is quite common to feel a strong attachment to someone who is there for us at moments of acute emotional distress. It can be confused with also feeling a vague sexual attraction.

He's your good friend. Leave it at that.
 
Re: Not another "fallen for my str8 friend" thread

Well, considering your predicaments of late, it's best to err on the side of caution and just be cool with what you have rather than assuming it's love straight outta the gate. I'd say it's an attraction, or a connection with a great friend. In this life, we only truly connect with a select few.

Trust me - I fall for all the sweet, nurturing staight guys, so I know how it feels.
 
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