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Not attracted to femenine gays.

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Yeah, seems like the majority of gay guys are femenine.

I don't even know where to find a guy. I don't go to gay clubs/bars. I've been to a few in New York but had a major culture shock and it just wasn't my scene.

The only place I can really meet guys is on the internet, craigslist, and other hook up sites.

No offense to any guys but the biggest turn off to me is when I can tell a guy is gay right off the bat. I'm only attracted to completely masculine guys who come off as straight. A lot of guys seem totally masculine in their photos due to the way they pose or some other misconception. When I actually talk to them on the phone or end up meeting them I get a big gay vibe from them. This is especially common in guys who are "bears".

Does anyone else feel that way? :confused:
 
you are attracted to who you are attracted to.

but i think you may have a skewed perception if you thing the majority of gays are feminine. by their nature they are more visible and are noticed more (and i say more power to them!). i have no evidence to support this but i would venture that the majority might be the more 'masculine' but because they sort of fly under the radar and are not noticed as much.
 
GL247 said:
you are attracted to who you are attracted to.

but i think you may have a skewed perception if you thing the majority of gays are feminine. by their nature they are more visible and are noticed more (and i say more power to them!). i have no evidence to support this but i would venture that the majority might be the more 'masculine' but because they sort of fly under the radar and are not noticed as much.
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I guess that would depend on what someone's definition of masculine is. Most of the guys who are out are definitely feminine or easy to tell they're gay. Atleast from my experience they are.

I have known some very masculine, completely straight acting guys who I've hooked up with but they are few and frequent.

While we're on this subject, anyone know somewhere other than craigslist, myspace, and manhunt where you can find/network with guys wanting to hook up? Craigslist is mostly extremely desperate guys who will suck/fuck anyone. Atleast in my area. :mad:
 
arabbb said:
Yeah, seems like the majority of gay guys are femenine.

I don't even know where to find a guy. I don't go to gay clubs/bars. I've been to a few in New York but had a major culture shock and it just wasn't my scene.

The only place I can really meet guys is on the internet, craigslist, and other hook up sites.

No offense to any guys but the biggest turn off to me is when I can tell a guy is gay right off the bat. I'm only attracted to completely masculine guys who come off as straight. A lot of guys seem totally masculine in their photos due to the way they pose or some other misconception. When I actually talk to them on the phone or end up meeting them I get a big gay vibe from them. This is especially common in guys who are "bears".

Does anyone else feel that way? :confused:
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I guess they do - thats why so many gaydar profiles say "Straight acting".

I don't care how a guy acts - maybe feminine means more sensual - which can't be a bad thing - but some guys like sex to be impersonal and ultra "masculine"
 
Sunshine said:
Bitch, please.

*snaps fingers and walks away*
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Don't know if you're feminine or not but I find that a lot of fem guys really despise the fact that some guys only go for masculine guys. I saw a blog by Chris Crocker on the same subject.
 
Yeah, but Chris Crocker is a fucking moron who deserves to have his head impaled on a pike and paraded around the town like the whore that he is.
 
Don't limit yourself. I find many feminine gays to be very attractive. Especially the extrovert, flamboyant, confident and mature ones. There's something sexy about someone who isn't afraid to be themselves. The looks and body are just a bonus.
 
You're just trolling, aren't you? C'mon now. Fess up.

I must admit that I only find guys who can correctly spell feminine really hot.
 
I find feminine guys totally hot! Also guys who are obviously gay are less likely to pretend that they're not - I don't want to be treated like somebody's dirty little secret. My last boyfriend even changed my name in the birthday card I sent him so that people wouldn't think he was gay!

I'm a strong believer in having the courage of your convictions and as a previous poster pointed out, feminine gays do because they're not afraid to be themselves 100% of the time!
 
Where do you get your statistics?

Are we supposed to discriminate against "feminine guys" based on our own fears, internalized homophobia or misconceptions about what masculinity really is?
 
Interesting. Quite never thought about it this way. Just looks at it this way as other had said previously, these so-called "feminine guys" just are not your type. Keep searching till you find the right guy.
 
arabbb said:
I guess that would depend on what someone's definition of masculine is. Most of the guys who are out are definitely feminine or easy to tell they're gay. Atleast from my experience they are.
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I really don't understand why there are so many faggots who have such problems with gay men who are easy to identify as gay.
I'm only attracted to completely masculine guys who come off as straight.
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like closet cases? its probably why you have such a hard time finding them.

I recommend just spiking a straight guys drink and have your way with them.... then you'll know for sure you got yourself a real man
 
Isn't that a bit like saying "I don't like rich guys who flaunt their wealth"? The main way you're going to identify a guy as rich, when you're out and about, is by what he's wearing, what he's driving, what he's buying. In short, if he's "flaunting his wealth". The main way you're going to identify a guy as gay, when you're out and about, is by his dress and by his mannerisms. In short, if he's "acting really gay".

The reason you're getting that big gay vibe from them? It's because they're gay. And while I wouldn't say I'm specifically attracted to femmy guys, I like them. Because they're being precisely what they want to be, and aren't putting on an act.

>>>While we're on this subject, anyone know somewhere other than craigslist, myspace, and manhunt where you can find/network with guys wanting to hook up? Craigslist is mostly extremely desperate guys who will suck/fuck anyone.

So let me get this straight (PDI). You're desperately looking to hook up with a gay guy who acts totally straight, but you have no interest in hooking up with a guy guy who desperately want to hook up with someone.

Yeah, good luck with that.

Lex
 
gwassideur said:
I think the OP has issues he needs to work out. If all he's interested in are str8 guys and closet cases...he's got bigger problems than simply hooking up.
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I think you may have bigger problems if you're assuming that the gay population is composed only of closet cases and flamboyant guys.

There are gay guys that are just that; regular-acting guys (not overly macho porn stereotypes or Chris Crockers) who happen to be gay. Those are the ones I can see myself being with.

I agree wit him to a large extent. The whole hair-extension brightly colored mycro t-shirts and sex-and-the-city trivia can be a real turn off to some (or turn on to others). I've been with two women and it was more enjoyable than the one effeminate guy. I don't hate them, or flee them, I have friends that are.....they'll just never be the type I'm attracted to. Ever.
 
Jy_Star said:
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But that's what the OP is doing - assuming the world is mostly flamboyant gay guys, and he only wants the other extreme - the super masculine damn near closet case gay.

So i don't see why you're jumping on gwassideur, and not the OP as well for his views - though you both share a dislike for feminine men, and maybe that's why you weeded through the other bull.
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That's why I said I only agreed with him to an extent.
 
Maybe you can try looking for men in places other than hook-up places and sites?

That's where you meet the sad, desperate types...

All the men I hang with I've met through my motorcycle riding. Can you "tell" if they're gay? Meh.. some of them yes.. some of them no..

Things I've always found about the guys who hammer on and on about how "The majority of gay men are feminine and I only like masculine guys...."


1) They're seldom that manly themselves... they're usually looking for something that's lacking in themselves.

2) They're projecting.. even the best guys.. the ones they could really click with.. they're "faggots" right off the bat.. not a single gay man can meet his standards. As soon as he's a known homosexual.. that's enough to be a turn off.

3) They have major self-hating issues. They're always harping on about how "straight acting" they are or how nobody can tell they're gay and what a man they are... very boring if the most fascinating thing about you is something I can't "tell."

4) They get all freaky about appearing to be doing something gay in public. This can be as simple as not wanting to hug you when they see you or freaking out if you say something while sitting in a restaurant that could identify you as gay. It can also be as silly as them talking loudly about girls or not wanting to be seen by total strangers doing things like shopping or waiting in line at a gay club.

5) they're really bad in bed. Their issues follow them into the sheets. They're afraid to enjoy man-to-man sex... they don't kiss, they give timid, tooth-ridden blow jobs and get all uptight about fucking. They don't enjoy themselves because they're so damn worried about coming off as "straight-acting" even while having gay sex.

When a guy like that comes along... run... he's not worth your precious time.

But if you're looking for a better place to meet men... try doing something that you like doing.. try joining a gay baseball league or bowling league or take gay line dancing classes. At least you'll meet men who share some interests past sucking dick and you'll meet a lot more guys who you're going to like. You'll also meet men who aren't all uptight about being gay... those guys are so boring.
 
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