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Not Just A Cute Guy.. .

UndieFreak

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A bit of a long story so grab some popcorn. Hopefully someone can advise me a bit.

I am 22 and I am in college but have a job too. I was offered to temporary job(within the same company) out of town in the summer and I said yes since it would be more pay(keep this pay when I went back to my regular job) and I am off school so I can do it. So in late July I was sent to a small town about 100 miles away where I live for work. I was going to stay there for three weeks. All expenses paid including my own hotel room. Don't have to share room with coworkers so I can do whatever I want lol.

The first week I was working during the day and decided that I would need things to do at night. So I posted on "craigslist" in the M4M section. I didn't specify what I wanted, I just put I was visiting town and that I was bored and needed something to do. I got several replies, mostly of sex replies with cock pictures. I wasn't attractive to the people who sent these replies (kinda picky on men lol). Other replies just said what they wanted to do and how.
These didn't include pics so i ignored them. There was one that said something like "welcome to "city name", let me know what you looking for, hit me up. . ." I replied to it and we emailed back and forth. finally exchanged numbers and texted. He send me stats, I liked his stats except for his age. He is 35, a bit of a difference between our age. But I was willing to try something new. We exchange pics, he looked cute in this picture. Within the week we decided to meet up.

We met in a parking lot first. Wow, my first reaction was "wow this guy is very cute!"(Better in person than in picture lol). He is a VERY masculine guy. He tries to work out 7 days of week and eats healthy so you know what kind of body he has lol. No sign of him being gay, which I like because I don't like girly guys. We talked and I found out he has a boyfriend. He asked if I was cool with that, I said "sure". He told me that they were living together but not "together". They are living together because of financial reasons. He mention they had not had sex or even been sleeping in the same room for months. I was VERY horny. I assume him too because he asked if we could go back to my hotel room, I said yes.

We got back to my room, we sat in my bed. We talked for a bit and it started to get akward. So I leaned towards him and I kissed him. I was waiting for him to make the first move but I didn't see that happening lol. He is kinda shy. We kissed for a good 10-20 minutes. Then we slowly took off close while kissing and foreplay, which lasted for about an hour(I love doing that). Finally he went down then I went down. I asked him if he was a top or bottom, he said top. I told him I was a top too. (I tried to bottom before but I didn't like it) I said I would try to bottom for him and we tried but I couldn't. He said it was cool. We stroked each other until we both came. We cleaned up and I asked him if he wanted to lay down in my bed for a while. We got under the sheets, He sat on his back and i sat on mine as well. He told me "come here", he opened his arm and I layed my head on his chest and he wrapped his arm around me. In that position we talked for a while. We got to know each other a bit more. At the time he seemd like a very cool guy (he still does), age didn't seem to be important for me at all now. After being almost 1 am he said he had to leave. I loved seeing him get dressed as much as seeing him undress lol. He gave me a very nice kiss before he left. After he left and I thought to myself "I probably wont get to see him again". A few minutes later I recieved a text from him saying how fun it was. That was good to know.
The next day texted me, "whats up? you enjoying your stay?". I said Yes and we just had a normal conversation. We continue texting the next few days. On the second week he texted me in the afternoon. We ended up meeting up once again. We met at my hotel, and you pretty much know what happened next.

To wrap it up, we have been texting ever since. Its been 2 months since that happened and we have seen each other a couple of times. I really like him and I told im how i feel. He tells me he feels the same way. But of course his "boyfriend" is an issue. He is doing all this behind his boyfriends back which sometimes makes me wonder if they are really over. I attempt to see him more often but he says he wont be able to "sneak out". I feel like i should stop texting him because it makes me feel like he does not want me but then he is the one texting me most of the time. I finish college this December and I am willing to move to the same town he lives. I haven't told him this. I don't want to ask him if he is going to leave his boyfriend soon either. Should I continue talking to this guy? It's been a while since I have felt this way for a guy. I don't want to lose on something that can be great but I feel wrong since he has a boyfriend.
 
Let me get out my soap box here...

You are wrong. He has a boyfriend.

How would you like it if your boyfriend was screwing with some random stranger off of craigslist?

...how many other people is he screwing around with from craigslist?

If he's cheating on his boyfriend he will cheat on you.

The "I have a boyfriend and we live together but dont sleep in the same room" should of raised some massive red flags.

Personally Id say drop it, right fucking now. Spare yourself.
 
If you want to move to his city just to be his "thing on the side", hey, that's your call. But know that you're not going to be the first priority, and even if he does decide to throw over his long-term boyfriend in favor of you (possible but doubtful), you're going to be awfully suspicious every time you see him texting or "heading out for a while".

Lex
 
I am pretty sure there are people who do continue to live with their ex's for financial reasons, but if they are not together it should not matter if he is dating you are not, especially if they are only living together for "financial" reasons. He is a cheater and I think you should leave him alone.
 
This guy is making a choice by not making one. And why should he? He gets the benefits of a relationship with his boyfriend while having occasional hot sex with guys he meets on Craigslist.

You're the perfect arrangement- you're young, fun, you live out of town and there's no string attached as long as he gets back home to his boyfriend before the sun rises.

What should you do?

Depends on what you want.

If you accept being the "fun on the side", then stay friends and have the occasional hookup with this hot guy.

If you're wanting more than a friend/fuckbuddy, you're not going to get it from this guy. His boyfriend will always be #1 and you will be some number other than #1.
 
Good way to put it guys. I don't think I can just drop him, it's kinda hard for me since there is some attachment now. I'm going to continue to be friends with him but NO Benefits.
I think I can slowly cut him off but not just drop him.

I would move over there just to get to know him better, not just to be his f*** buddy
Another reason I wanted to move over there is because that was a possible city where I could find a job after college. I am moving out of town but close to the area.
I will keep you guys updated.
 
If you are interested in a real relationship, continue dating other people. You guys made a connection and take it for what it is, a casual fling. Do not invest any emotions other than friendship. If you move to his town you may regret it later. KEEP YOUR OPTIONS OPEN!
 
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