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Not sure what I am, but here I am....

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wow, that is some first post. dude all i can tell you is not to get worried about lables. folks go through various thoughts about what they like and don't like. some guys think about other guys then eventually rule that out. some of us don't. whatever you want...your desire and exploration will eventually take you there. just be safe. ;)

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hi vlad - that WAS an eloquent summing up of your sexual side. whatever label applies, i have no idea. if you're curious about some kinda fisical coupling with a guy, just don't feel guilty about it, OK? just in case there's some vestige of that upbringing you mentioned. we'll all try to be here for you whether you stay with the self-satisfaction you do now (which is not a bad sex trip many times) or venture into the area that has started to interest you. be careful whatever in your practices. can you give us some profile info? and because we LOVE those fotos, of course, we'd like to see those too
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Keep indulging you self here! it's a big part of JUB being able to talk about stuff like this and get it off your chest. So don't be shy and just say what you feel like sharing. If it helps, that's great!

hang in there ;)
 
Hey vladmirc,

Welcome to JUB and dont worry about indulging...its what these boards are for!!! And I wouldnt worry too much about everyone screaming that your gay...the most amazing thing about JUB is that no one here cares whether you are bi str8 or gay...as long as you are safe and happy.

Mate.... you're on a journey...the start of discovering more about yourself...and youre not alone thats for sure. Your story as a late starter of sorts is very familiar and it often creates confusion when you have a predetermined vision of how your life was meant to look. Like how you think you are meant to feel....

Its easy to confuse love and love...I know myself that I love women in the sense that they are beautiful soft delicate sensual people...I guess I'm even more acutely aware of that since coming out...like you I looked and pined knowing that I couldnt have them. Its sort of easier to look at guys with a deep seated lust...like sex is a single act that can be easily dismissed. If I dont feel for the guy then it doesnt matter sort of thing. An act of brutal lust with no emotional connection sort of means no consequences....

The journey you are embarking on mate is one where you can find happiness. It doesnt matter where the destination is...it doesnt matter whether you are bi or gay. You deserve to feel loved and safe. You deserve the complete trust and comfort of someone who loves and cares for you...someone that allows you to be the real you. Someone who can make you feel sexually satisfied as well as emotionally complete.

Your past might guide you, it might confuse you. But the important thing here mate is that you are honest with yourself and give yourself the chance to be happy. That you let yourself find the answers...dont be afraid of what you might find. Its the first steps to be happy and sometimes they are hard to take.

But the rest of your life happy, honest and true are worth those risks.
 
I'd guess you were bi, but more turned on to women.

It's easy to make the mistake, when you start seeing guys in a different light, of assuming you were gay. You're probably not, in fact judging by the fact you can still whack off to straight porn I'd say certainly not.

Bi people don't have to worry about the social stigma quite so much, because really it comes across that a bi person is just completely content with who he is, doesn't let the set rules on gender relationships get him down, etc. Basically, if you're bi, people don't assume you're going to prance around with daisies in your hair, giggling like an eight year old girl.
 
Great writing - and honesty - thanks.

You describe yourself as a fat slob. Given that porn you most enjoy is multiple-male-on -female and that most male pornstars are in good physical shape, do you think there could be an element of identification in your admiration of the male actors. It seems to me this could serve as an impetus to start getting yourself in shape - something that would greatly increase your prospects and enjoyment of hot sex with partners of any gender.
 
Welcome to JUB! You should be proud of yourself for wanting to discover everything about yourself that you can. Some people are too afraid to even consider some of the possibilities that life may hold for them.

As others have said, don't worry about labels. Worry about how you feel, and what you are comfortable with. If you're looking for some comfort, you've come to the right place. I've found it here many times.:wave:
 
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