Nothing's what I thought it would be

[xboxfan34]

This is just so confusing. I honestly have no idea where to turn now, where to go next...I feel as if I tried everything to meet someone and every attempt turned up empty...

 

[vacancy3]

I've lost all hope.

Today I went to my first gay pride festival and parade. While I had a good time with my friends from my GSA, I can't help but feel as if I set myself up for disappointment. There are so many times on gay porn blogs that I've seen pictures of these hot, muscular bears in jockstraps walking the streets with bear pride flags or the rainbow flag in the distance....For so long, I've always envisioned gay pride as something like that.

I was shocked to see Gay Pride be so...family friendly and clean. A lot of families were there and LGBT youth groups and nothing remotely fun and sexy.

I swear, I can't keep doing this anymore. I'm honestly feel like I will never lose my virginity at this point and never find anyone.

Baby....come to Ohio and I will fuck you 17 ways to Sunday....fyi...I swallow

 

[luckynumbah7]

This is just so confusing. I honestly have no idea where to turn now, where to go next...I feel as if I tried everything to meet someone and every attempt turned up empty...

You need to leave the house to meet people. Try not overthinking it. Use google and keyword searches to find hobby groups.
Basically what everyone else already said.

 

[Willie Boy]

This is just so confusing. I honestly have no idea where to turn now, where to go next...I feel as if I tried everything to meet someone and every attempt turned up empty...

What kind of relationship are you looking for?

IF all you want is a quick hook-up to lose your virginity you are way over analyzing things (pun intended). All you have to do for that is answer any ad in the paper/online where the other guy is looking for just that. You meet you do the deed and your done. Just be careful as that can come (another pun) with all sorts of consequences......

IF, on the other hand you are looking for a real relationship.......
Just get out and enjoy the things you like. Meet PEOPLE..... Get to know PEOPLE...... Sooner or later one or more of those people will take an interest in YOU. Don't try to force things, just enjoy life and they will see it and become interested. If all you ever do is go around with the 10 foot pole of NEED-TO-FIND-A-SEX-BODY-FOR-A-FEW-MOMENTS shoved so far up your ass its scratching your forehead people see that too, and are turned off. BE someone who is approachable and you will be approached.

 

[jdcnow]

As we've said a million times... Pride Day is nothing like the news makes it look... most gay people are just as boring as everyone else and porn is all fantasy.

Who here has REALLY had sex with their plumber?

 

[travis82]

I get what the OP is feeling.

Went for my third Pink Dot Singapore yesterday.


In Singapore, we don't have gay prides/parades. Just a gathering at a park to celebrate lgbt by wearing pink.


So yesterday, it's my third time attending Pink Dot.


Each time, I went there alone....and went back home alone.


Why???!!!!


I though by going to a public gay event, I would have luck finding cute, hot guys.....or maybe hot guys checking me out.


None of that happens.


I did see some hot guys.....but nobody approached me. Nobody talked to me.


I was there, all alone, by myself until the event ended.


I feel miserable but there's nothing I can do about it.

 

[Georgiadude]

I have to agree with several of the above replies. I'm glad pride festivals aren't filled with naked guys parading around and are more family friendly. if they were filled with naked people parading around or people having sex for everyone to see it wouldn't do us any favors. many people have the idea that gays are just sex crazed heathens and that would play right into the stereotypes. if we want to be treated equally we need to act like respectable members of society.

if you're set on losing your virginity there are plenty of ways to find guys willing to help you out. aps, craigslist, adam4adam etc.

Steven

 

[dpnice]

...................................but nobody approached me. Nobody talked to me.


I was there, all alone, by myself until the event ended.


I feel miserable but there's nothing I can do about it.

I hate to be harsh but did you really make any effort to meet people. No-one talked to you but then did you make the effort to talk to anybody.

You can't stand there thinking that people will come up to you; have they any reason to do so?

 

[travis82]

I hate to be harsh but did you really make any effort to meet people. No-one talked to you but then did you make the effort to talk to anybody.

You can't stand there thinking that people will come up to you; have they any reason to do so?

Sorry, I am a shy person. And I don't like making the first move.


It would be great if someone approach me instead of me approaching him.


I don't think I can handle rejection well.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Sorry, I am a shy person. And I don't like making the first move.


It would be great if someone approach me instead of me approaching him.


I don't think I can handle rejection well.

That's what the leather/drag/lolita cosplay is for. You put something outrageous on and it becomes a conversation piece.

 

[medic1]

This is just so confusing. I honestly have no idea where to turn now, where to go next...I feel as if I tried everything to meet someone and every attempt turned up empty...

Just checked your profile and noted you are 20 yrs old, perhaps the problem is with you and not your fellow party-goers?

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Just checked your profile and noted you are 20 yrs old, perhaps the problem is with you and not your fellow party-goers?

Don't worry xboxfan34. We homosexuals have 'funny' ways of putting each other down. It comes with the territory. I'm sure that there's not actually something wrong with you.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

I haven't lost my my virginity yet

Why, God? 10 chars

 

[medic1]

^Putting no-one down Harke, i could have worded it better.

At 20 years of age it is highly unlikely that he has gained the experience we both have because we are older, nothing more, nothing less. End of.....

 

[xboxfan34]

My age really has no bearing on how fucking embarrassing it is that I need so much hand holding in the gay community.

 

[medic1]

^Why do you think you need so much hand holding in the gay "community"? Shyness perhaps, or to much expectation?

At 20 i too really had no clue, but unlike you, i just used my common sense and researched what was out there i may enjoy.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

My age really has no bearing on how fucking embarrassing it is that I need so much hand holding in the gay community.

You don't need hand holding. You just need to find out things for yourself. It takes time.

 

[dpnice]

I really do sympathise with those of you who due to shyness or a physical appearance that tends not to attract other guys find yourselves alone and unable to make friends or find a companion.

But what choice do you have? You either accept what you are and prepare yourself for living a life on your own or you start making some sort of effort to change things.

I know it is not easy, but you can't stand in a room full of people and expect them to make the first move; it would be wonderful if they did but have you ever thought that many of them may well be feeling exactly the same as you.

It takes courage, a whole lot of it, and a huge amount of effort to change the way you react in society but unfortunately it is your only solution.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

My age really has no bearing on how fucking embarrassing it is that I need so much hand holding in the gay community.

You need hand-holding because you act like a fucking baby.

Get a set of balls. Say hi. Do something you like. Stop fucking whining about being a virgin - stop being in a fucking rush to have sex.

I do not sympathize with your plight, as you are doing absolutely jack all to help yourself. I get that you're shy, and that in itself is fine, but you and another poster seem to think you're entitled to an experience you have done nothing to achieve. You're not. The expression "Life is what you make it" applies here. Get on with it.

 

[travis82]

I really do sympathise with those of you who due to shyness or a physical appearance that tends not to attract other guys find yourselves alone and unable to make friends or find a companion.

But what choice do you have? You either accept what you are and prepare yourself for living a life on your own or you start making some sort of effort to change things.

I know it is not easy, but you can't stand in a room full of people and expect them to make the first move; it would be wonderful if they did but have you ever thought that many of them may well be feeling exactly the same as you.

It takes courage, a whole lot of it, and a huge amount of effort to change the way you react in society but unfortunately it is your only solution.

Thanks. I don't consider myself drop dead gorgeous. But I don't think I'm really ugly looking either.

I think I'm just average looking.


Problem is.....when I saw a cute,hot guy.....I try to make eye contact with him.


If he doesn't stare back at me, it clearly tells me that he's not interested.


And therefore I don't feel like approaching him....because I don't want to set myself up for a huge disappointment.



And all the time, I don't have guys checking me out or staring at me.