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Its interesting to hear some of the comments along the lines of 'yeah I could have sex with a guy, but not love him'. One of the problems with the bisexual label is that most people assume it to mean that the individual has sex with both men and women - end of story. And whilst that is true for some, when you talk to many bisexuals, there are also some interesting deviations from that.
There are some men who only have sex with women but need a really close non-physical relationship with a guy and class themselves as bisexual instead of straight - and there are some men who only have sex with men, but need a close relationship with a woman and class themselves as bisexual instead of gay.
I had a 'relationship' with a guy once who openly admitted there was no way he could do the emotional lovey-dovey stuff with a guy, but the sex was great - kinda like a physical release after a sweaty sports game or something. He had a girlfriend and identified as bisexual.
Identifying as curious is a great thing to do, and hopefully, spending time on the boards and reading about other people's feelings and experiences will enable you to find answers to the questions that you have (and the ones that you don't yet realise you have). But at the end of the day, it isn't about assigning a label to yourself - it's simply about being yourself.
And the great thing about JUB, is that whatever you're feeling or going through, I can just about guarantee that at least one of us have been there before and can offer you guidance and support!
There are some men who only have sex with women but need a really close non-physical relationship with a guy and class themselves as bisexual instead of straight - and there are some men who only have sex with men, but need a close relationship with a woman and class themselves as bisexual instead of gay.
I had a 'relationship' with a guy once who openly admitted there was no way he could do the emotional lovey-dovey stuff with a guy, but the sex was great - kinda like a physical release after a sweaty sports game or something. He had a girlfriend and identified as bisexual.
Identifying as curious is a great thing to do, and hopefully, spending time on the boards and reading about other people's feelings and experiences will enable you to find answers to the questions that you have (and the ones that you don't yet realise you have). But at the end of the day, it isn't about assigning a label to yourself - it's simply about being yourself.
And the great thing about JUB, is that whatever you're feeling or going through, I can just about guarantee that at least one of us have been there before and can offer you guidance and support!
