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Oh Dear. My first long term partner has expired.

rareboy said:
Well his funeral service was today, so that part is over.

I am a horrible person at heart because even while I was talking to my sister about his death and the In Memoriam gift...I wanted to tell her that I was sure his husband put a pillow over his face and murdered him.

But I didn't. I just said how sad we were for his husband and reminisced about the years when we were all together.
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... YOU are NOT a horrible person RB, you were just being normal, who knows, you may have been right in your thinking ;)
 
Oh Dear.

His widower left a message on my business line after his service. Thanking me for may card and the gift for conservation.

He sounds a little chokey on the message but is asking me to call if I want to talk. But the thrust is that I gave my former LTP a piece of artwork a hundred years ago that has hung in their house ever since and since he is dumping this 4 storey nonsense likely at a great price in Toronto ($millions), he wants to know if I want it back. As far as I am concerned, however valuable it may be, he can burn it in the backyard or bury it or give it away...I don't care. My life weighs enough without more stuff. But I don't really now need to talk to talk to him.

So weighing all the options, I don't what to do.

I don't wish him ill. I don't wish him well. I really don't care.
 
I'd just let it slide RB, don't bother replying, you've acknowledged his part in your life already, and that's the key, it's your life, you are with a man that makes you happy and I'd just concentrate on that happiness and focus on the future. A big hug and sloppy kiss to you my friend. (*8*) :kiss:
 
Good advice I think.

The last thing in the world that I need right now in my life is to reconnect with my ex's widower.
 
rareboy said:
Good advice I think.

The last thing in the world that I need right now in my life is to reconnect with my ex's widower.
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Just move on. You did the right thing. His widower was not part of your life and you have no need to make him part of it.
 
So just an update...I sent a handwritten note expressing my appreciation for the offer but noting that I didn't need the return and that I was sure no other family ,member or friend would be interested...so he was free to do as he though appropriate with it.

I hope he crumped it up and burned it...although they had no working fireplaces after their last renovations.

I believe now totally done with him because it has been 3 weeks without a reply.
 
rareboy said:
So just an update...I sent a handwritten note expressing my appreciation for the offer but noting that I didn't need the return and that I was sure no other family ,member or friend would be interested...so he was free to do as he though appropriate with it.

I hope he crumped it up and burned it...although they had no working fireplaces after their last renovations.

I believe now totally done with him because it has been 3 weeks without a reply.
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These kind of funeral things can go on for quite a while longer. Sometimes years.
 
Well then, you did the right thing in the situation and it worked out!
 
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