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I've been hanging out with this guy for a while now ,and I could not have asked for a better friend. The thing is we are really good friends but today things got heated. He laid on my legs and I was just being silly and we kiss not once but twice. The thing is that he has a boyfriend and I knew it. I really don't want to loose his friendship ,and I don't even think I am interested in him. We agreed that we would not talk about it ever again ,but it was obvious that we were not breathing the same air. Now, I feel kinda stupid since I went there.:(
 
The fact that you're on here posting about it confirms that you have feelings, so stop the denial nonsense.

Now, it's a matter of how serious they are. You are already friends and it's obviously bothering you, since you came to ask for advice.

What do I think? it's simple lust. He kissed you, you kissed back, you did it again.

Just know that you're "the other guy" and will be leading to the end of a relationship possibly...do you want all that?

You have to be honest with yourself and if you really want to lie to yourself and say you have no future, leave it alone and don't kiss him again...but you and I both know better than that.

And ignoring it probably won't help unless the both of you have great self control. SO, talk it out and admit it was a mistake and it won't happen again. But if you have actual feelings for him, think it over before discussing it with him.
You: Hey, i think I like you.
Him: I like you too.
You: No, I mean more than friends.
Him: Really?
You:Yeah.
Him:Okay, this is awkward.
You: Do you feel the same way?
Him: ....

But be prepared that if you're more than into him, that he might not feel the same way.

Go over your feelings and decide for yourself what to do next. That's the first step. Evaluating how you feel about him. And nobody can tell you that, but you.
 
On the way home we talked about it and I told him it was like a little kids first kid. They do it once and then they go eww lol

I was trying to make a joke to make things so not tense. I did enjoy everything but I really want to just be friends since I feel like it would be better. As for his other relationship, he never really sees the guy and well things arent well in that department. However, that should not give me any hints because well I know.

Either way, time will tell. It just bugs me that I could have destroyed such an awesome friendship that just begun lol.
 
Well there. Everything has worked out for the best.

Just don't let yourselves get to that point again, although from the sound of it, i suspect he'd love for it to happen.
 
>>>lol and what makes you think that

He laid across your legs and kissed you not once but twice.

Lex
 
Its been a week since Ive seen him. Our text messages are very distant. Its always the same from him "How are you," and "Good Night." The other day he did text me that he missed me, but I dont know what to believe. Maybe he is busy but I feel like he doesnt want to see me.

Prior to us making out we would hang out every other day. That day we spend the whole day together and it was great. I really am not looking for anything out of him but friendship. I guess I messed up and I will tell you guys why. He has a bf of almost 2 years. He told me that things between them were on the rocks and simply not working. They hardly ever spend any time together other than at the workplace. Anyways, that's non of my business but maybe he is avoiding me because he doesnt want his relationship to fail. That is fine with me because as I said I just want to be his friend.

Now, Im wondering how I should approach him.

P.S I wholeheartedly believe that he had some sort of crush on me based on how he acted around me. Plus, wouldn't he have pushed me away after the first kiss ?
 
My neck is getting whiplash from your vacillations!

Are you interested him or aren't you?

It sounds like you are. If I were you, I'd wait until he actually breaks up with his bf, if things are going as badly as you say. You could just be something convenient on the side while he stays with his bf. You don't want to be that.
 
No, I dont want anything with him. Like I said he is a great guy and everything but I kinda want things to go back to normal. I feel ignored now and its all because of a kiss that just seemed to happened.
 
Maybe you're just thinking about it too much. The more you think the relationship between the two of you have changed the more it will change. If you really want him as a friend only, then you'll have to send him a clear signal. It has been a week and a bit only, try to relax and don't focus too much on that kiss.
 
I feel ignored now and its all because of a kiss that just seemed to happened.
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Get over it.

You want to have things back to normal. You got it.
 
Yeah, not sure I'm getting this. He kissed you and you freaked out, and wanted him to back off. He did, and now you're feeling ignored?

Lex
 
No, I am very confusing aren't I lol

We would hang out constantly and I knew that he had a bf. He would tell me that things weren't right and all that. I never took an interest in him until the last time I seen him. I just knew that I needed to back off because he did have a boyfriend.

The fact is that we did kissed. I didnt get offended or anything. I just told him that it would never happened again. I did it because I knew that there was another guy in the picture. Part of me tells me that he did have a crush on me but I don't understand what happened. Now, I dont know if he misunderstood the never happened again. Maybe he wanted something else but if he did then maybe he would try to contact me. However, everyday his text grow even more distant.

I guess he was the guy that made me think over my other friend. Now I find myself thinking about him and wondering what to do. I don't know if I should just text him and tell him if I messed up things or what. I am trying to be as calm as I can but its not happening.

Gosh, I am sounding like the most annoying member with all this little drama ha ha

Sorry guys :(
 
I think it seems like he wants more with you. He tells you all is not well with his B/F. He is happy to kiss you. You are the one who is ignoring his signals, with the best intentions it must be said, It is laudable that you don't want to get in the way of a relationship but maybe that relationship has effectively ceased to be and you shouldn't deny yourself the chance of possible happiness.
 
If all is not well with his boyfriend, so be it. But I'd tell him you aren't interested in anything until it's officially over.

Lex
 
Take a cue from him. If he seems depressed, or starts bemoaning his relationship, yeah, bring it up. If he doesn't, don't.

Lex
 
Well there are no cues that is the problem. I dont hear from him like I used to just random texts here and there. Maybe I should just drop it all together like someone suggested.
 
Yeah. Drop it altogether.
 
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