Ok I dont know what to think anymore.....

[moocowwoof]

I have always considered myself bisexual...i LOVE watching gay porn and fantasizing about men. I always considered myself a bottom even though I dont really like anal. I cant really see myself getting fucked, when i masturbate i VERY RARELY (once a year) use a finger and stick it up my ass. I considered myself a bottom because the thought of sucking cock always gets me rock hard, and i cum much too quick to be a top lol. In the past couple weeks ive hooked up with a couple of guys (one night stand type deal) and given them head but idk i just wasnt into it i mean i REALLY like the idea of doing it but actually doing it is another story. when im actually doing it, its no big deal to me. Ive given head once before and really enjoyed it (gave it to a friend who "dared" me to do it) but that was when we were both in our mid teens, and i did have a little bit of a crush on him. I am currently still in the closet, and i cant see myself ever coming out why is beyond me its just something i cant ever see myself doing i kind of want to but i feel like its something im never going to talk about. also (it gets worse) if i did come out sometimes i try to imagine myself in an actual relationship with another guy and i just cant see it happening. Like when i see or talk to a guy im never really thinking "wow this guy is great i bet he'll make a good bf" and normally im thinking "wow i really want to suck his cock". I have no idea what to think about any of this. Pretty much to summarize im a closeted bottom who cant see himself coming out, being in a relationship, doing anal, AND cant get into giving head.

now that ive probably bored you all to tears i wanted to know what you guys think about it? and if you have any advice (your always so helpful so thanks in advance)

 

[MisterMajestic]

Well...Just because you've given "Head" to a few Guys does not mean you're a "Bottom"...That's my opinion.....There are a lot of Top-Guys out there that Give Great Head...You will know for certain if you prefer "Topping", "Bottoming" or both when you actually have sex with a Guy...

At some point in your Life you're going to want more than a "One Night Stand"......If you come to the realization that you prefer having a relationship with a Woman but still want "One nighters" with Guys then you have a lot of Soul-searching to do...

You will understand where I'm coming from when you Fall in Love with someone...

 

[MightNeedDoing]

Why come out? You might be bisexual but you don't picture yourself in a relationship with a man. Kudos for giving it a try, but you didn't enjoy giving head. You did say you enjoyed blowing your friend, who you had at least some kind of emotional attraction for. Sex, be it straight or gay, is always better when there is an emotional connection. Perhaps you have been seduced by gay porn, which is easy because its hot!
I've never been with a man, but I love gay porn. Like you, my fantasies involve being a bottom. These fantasies strengthened when I started using a dildo on myself (sticking your finger in your ass is nothing like it) and really loved the feeling. I now know for a fact that a cock in my ass would feel really really good. I would suggest you try one, because if you like it it adds another exciting element to masturbation.
The whole reason I haven't been with a guy is emotional. I'm pretty sure the sex would feel good, but to date I have never been physically or emotionally attracted to a guy in the real world. (Maybe if they were naked, erect and in a porn video I would feel different) Enjoy your fantasies and try some anal stimulation, but don't agonize over "coming out" if being with guys doesn't really turn you on. I see no benefit in you doing that.

 

[weluvit]

Sounds like you just don't like one night stands. If that's the case, there's is nothing wrong with that and a lot right.

Give yourself a break and just try to learn what you like.

 

[versatileplayer]

Shit - sounds like you just weren't that into the last couple of guys you blew. That happens. My partner and I hook up with guys sometimes and after the guy leaves we say "well that was disappointing." Every hook up isn't fireworks and cum flying everywhere.

But perhaps the issue you're having with sex isn't the sex, perhaps it's these conflicts with your self image and all these rules and hang ups you've given yourself?

If you don't come out to the world (which I recommend you do) at least come out to yourself and accept yourself as you are and be ok with it. Instead of wringing your hands about what you think you should be - just be.

If you're not ready for a long term relationship - don't have one. When I met my partner, I was very bi, and very single. I had about 6-8 guys that I fucked around with and 3 women. I was not interested in a ltr at all. But I just naturally wanted to hang out with him - and we just ended up spending every night together for a few months - and my other fuck buddies kind of fell by the way and we ended up moving in together and that was many years ago now. We were pretty exclusive for the first few years, and then we opened up our relationship - and we fuck other guys, and I fuck a woman here and there.

You're a man. Enjoy your manhood and your sexuality. Come out to yourself and go where your dick leads you. Fuck what anyone thinks - fuck any predefined role the world wants to put on you - gay or straight or bi or what - fuck it all. Be yourself and enjoy yourself. The clock is ticking baby and you only get one trip through life. Enjoy it.

If you think coming out to the world would relieve stress - do it. If you like to fuck women - don't worry - there are lots of women who will want to fuck you. I came out as bi when I was 16 - and that was more years ago than I care to admit - hint more than 20. The acceptance of gay people wasn't anywhere near what it is today.

Don't wring your hands - just fuck - and if your not in the mood - don't fuck. If you want to fuck a woman - fuck one - or fuck a guy or whatever - don't stress. AND - when you fuck - above all - MAKE SURE YOU HAVE FUN. It's supposed to be fun.

You'll find what you're comfortable with sooner or later, and whether it's sooner or later matters not. In the meanwhile - enjoy yourself.

On the sex practices you say you like and don't like and etc - these to me are hang ups. I'm a bi versatile - pansexual.... I can plug into any circuit. If you say you don't like anal - you just haven't had it done to you right. If you're afraid you'll cum too fast to top - the best cure for that is lots of fucking. Your bottom boy will be flattered if you shoot quickly the first time - just take a break and hit stick it to him again.

 

[versatileplayer]

Why come out? You might be bisexual but you don't picture yourself in a relationship with a man. Kudos for giving it a try, but you didn't enjoy giving head. You did say you enjoyed blowing your friend, who you had at least some kind of emotional attraction for. Sex, be it straight or gay, is always better when there is an emotional connection. Perhaps you have been seduced by gay porn, which is easy because its hot!
I've never been with a man, but I love gay porn. Like you, my fantasies involve being a bottom. These fantasies strengthened when I started using a dildo on myself (sticking your finger in your ass is nothing like it) and really loved the feeling. I now know for a fact that a cock in my ass would feel really really good. I would suggest you try one, because if you like it it adds another exciting element to masturbation.
The whole reason I haven't been with a guy is emotional. I'm pretty sure the sex would feel good, but to date I have never been physically or emotionally attracted to a guy in the real world. (Maybe if they were naked, erect and in a porn video I would feel different) Enjoy your fantasies and try some anal stimulation, but don't agonize over "coming out" if being with guys doesn't really turn you on. I see no benefit in you doing that.

I disagree - Granted, I think I'm probably a lot older than you. I don't need any emotional attachment to my sex partners - some of them - I can't stand personally - but they are great to fuck around with.

Coming out has great psychological benefits that also translate into the bedroom. Once one accepts one's self - sex is much more liberated and there are fewer hang ups.

I'm pretty gay, but I like to fuck women too. There is no shortage of women who want to get fucked - even by a guy like me who is totally out, living with another man for nearly two decades..... The women I have sex with know I fuck men too. I wouldn't want to fuck a woman who didn't. The women who accept me for who I am are hot fucks in the sack too. Women who like to fuck sexually liberated men are also usually quite liberated themselves and tend to be more exciting than the princess who lays on her back and lets you do your business.

The Closet makes people crazy. Many gay men have been murdered by their "straight" partners - because they are afraid someone will find out. There is an old saying in the gay community "closet cases are dangerous." And they are - full of fucking drama, self conflict, self loathing, and sexual hang ups. I don't have time for all that bullshit, and if Michael Phelps was a closet case - I still wouldn't fuck around with him - because not only do closet cases have all these head-case issues - they are usually also - quite sexually hung up as well, and the sex is horribly DULL.

Coming out is a good thing.

 

[versatileplayer]

Well...Just because you've given "Head" to a few Guys does not mean you're a "Bottom"...That's my opinion.....There are a lot of Top-Guys out there that Give Great Head...You will know for certain if you prefer "Topping", "Bottoming" or both when you actually have sex with a Guy...

At some point in your Life you're going to want more than a "One Night Stand"......If you come to the realization that you prefer having a relationship with a Woman but still want "One nighters" with Guys then you have a lot of Soul-searching to do...

You will understand where I'm coming from when you Fall in Love with someone...

Monogamy is nothing more than institutionalized jealousy.

 

[moocowwoof]

hey thanks everyone reading everything i have alot to think about now

 

[versatileplayer]

Nah - stop thinking - and just fuck.