Old and single, what will you do?

[gdude30]

Haha Puff pulled out a silverdaddies.

I think me and Puff are the only ones who know of that XD

I did worry about this when I was with my ex.

I asked him what he thought about him dying first.

He told me that you never know when you will die. And that I could die the next day out of the blue. I told him I understand that but technically if we die of natural causes I'll outlive him.

And he told me we'll cross that bridge when we come to it.

That's what makes me wonder if it would be nice growing old together with someone around my age and dying with them.

It would suck to have a lover die then look for someone else.

But who knows. If I'm lucky I'l never find anyone XD

I don't think I'll love that long to be old and single. So I don't really worry about that for myself.

I don't wanna live forever.

 

[gsdx]

Have you guys thought about growing old, hopefully more healthy than not, single and without much family around? It can be a terrifying thought.

Too late to start thinking about it. I'm already there. The only thing different from your statement is that 'more healthy than not' bit. I'm the 'not'.

Add it all up, it's a pretty lonely existence, I suppose.

Personally, though, I prefer to continue existing rather than sitting around moping because things could have been so different for me. It's not something I would wish on anyone, but I guess I've adapted to it quite well. It's never depressed me or kept me awake at night.

 

[DaddyBadger]

I'll "jump that creek" when I come to crossing it . . .

I've never been one to concern myself with to-morrow, it's a full-night's sleep away .

 

[chillyboi]

i will definately cross that bridge when i get to it.
granted i have friends with very young kids who've taking a great liking to me, so i hope they will all be around for me. being that i want to remain single

 

[thewiz]

Since coming out and giving up a rather comfortable situation (other than lacking love), I have often thought about it.

I will have the love of my kids and, hopefully, grandkids. I am close to my sisters and brothers as well as nieces, nephews, and great nieces and nephews (along with a couple great-greats).

But I am hoping I have someone to share a love that only a couple shares and thus far have not found someone with which to share. That does bother me when I spend time and allow myself time to dwell about it.

That said, I had a conversation with a pastor on a plane lately. He remarked that he sees older people all the time and they fall into three camps. There are those that look at retirement and later years as another journey; another chapter in this book of life and are determined to put as much in the story as possible.

Then there are those that feel like the book has been written and they had no part in it and are just going to exist, hoping to live off the words of those writing the book (above).

And then there are those that are resentful and angry that they even have to be in this book; they are going to be miserable, they are going to complain about every detail being written.

I hope to be in the former and not the latter for I have been around each. My favorite couple is a man who just turned 95 and his wife who is much younger-- she is 92. They both lost their spouses and then remarried when they were in their 70's.

Each morning they get up, go to church, go to breakfast with the church crowd and then teach swimming lessons at the local YMCA. I think they do this only three days a week because they said they are "getting old!" After swimming lessons, they do a swim and then usually participate in some other community group. The man then goes to the local community owned theater and performs repairs on seats, screens and whatever is necessary. He and she have sewn covers for seats and made countless other stitch-type projects for groups around the county.

They have travelled to nearly every state in their motorhome and deliver meals to other seniors daily along with taking communion and doing other participation. If I went to any event at night, they were there. I always admired that when I was tired, they were there and would leave to attend other events.

She served on the city council and was one of the most active members I had ever seen (she often chastised us "younger" folks!)

That is what I hope for life although right now it might be as a single....

 

[GL]

i'll commit sepuku.

but i'll need a second to make sure my head is cleaved off properly.

 

[scottish1]

Being single and 'mature aged' as they call old in Australia I look around and find I am no different to other older people. You continue with your life and stay involved as much as you wish. Staying in good health dictates your life in later years and I believe if you begin to ponder the negatives in your future depression is sure to follow and it's one place I don't want to go.
With all the entrepreneur's involved in gay lifestyle I am surprised no one has opened a retirement home,nursing home or whatever title they choose to give it for old gays. Looking at the number of single older gays around I'm sure it would be a commercial success.
In the end life is what you make it and it's always been up to you and that's the way I take it on a daily basis.

 

[Telstra]

Being single and 'mature aged' as they call old in Australia I look around and find I am no different to other older people. You continue with your life and stay involved as much as you wish. Staying in good health dictates your life in later years and I believe if you begin to ponder the negatives in your future depression is sure to follow and it's one place I don't want to go.
With all the entrepreneur's involved in gay lifestyle I am surprised no one has opened a retirement home,nursing home or whatever title they choose to give it for old gays. Looking at the number of single older gays around I'm sure it would be a commercial success.
In the end life is what you make it and it's always been up to you and that's the way I take it on a daily basis.

good business idea. What should the name of the village be?

 

[scottish1]

Well rather than a single building such as a 'nursing home' perhaps a few buildings containing one and two bedroom apartments with a care assistance factor built in. Some gay people like myself have pets so it should be pet friendly. If it came to a name may be 'Reflections' would suit the mood as I could imagine many gay people together re living their past with their many tales of gay life gone bye.

 

[metta]

Yes, it does concern me. Being shy, working from home, I do think about how isolated my life may become in the future. I don't think that it is healthy to be isolated that much. I'm close with my neighbors...but they may move away one day...I may want to move one day. It is highly unlikely that I will find someone to spend my life with. Maybe I can eventually do something like the golden girls and rent out some rooms.

 

[alley]

We will have to set up a JUB retirement home--the twinks will be in their seventies and the hot daddies will be the ones who can get around without a walker---

Seriously, I have been thinking I may be alone for the rest of my life.---don't really know if I want to live to be that much older if I am to be by myself that whole time.

 

[Sunshine]

If I get too old I'll just hope I die early cause I'll be too lazy to care anymore.


=/ sho nuff.