Older men and condoms

[Lube]

"They say" that you always need to use a condom in order to have safe sex.

Makes perfect sense.

But, what about older guys? Do they have problems ejaculating when using a condom? Do they routinely use them? Do they tend to have sex less often so it's a reduced risk (I know the risk isn't zero or anything) not using a condom? Do they get HIV tested more frequently?

Just wondering how "safe" a sex that older men (50+) typically have.

 

[KingofFaeries]

sex with any man of any age without a condom cannot be called safe. Ever.

 

[Lube]

I know it's not safe. I said that.

But surely condoms, orgasms, and older men don't mix so well.

Do older men make tradeoffs?

Is this some great unspoken secret of gay life?

I just want thoughts and ideas. I don't expect someone to tell me that at 55 I can forgo a condom and still be perfectly safe; I know that isn't true.

But something's gotta give as you age.

 

[KingofFaeries]

a man at 50 can and should still wear a condom, and can have a perfectly great orgasm just like a man at 20.

Actually for most people it would seem to be more dangerous to engage in risky sex at an older age, because most people's immune system becomes less proficient at fending off infections as the body gets older.

And if that still doesn't answer your question then forgive me for I have no idea what your asking.

 

[Orlandude]

You seem to have some idea that older men (50+) are somehow less sexually active. I have a number of friends in their 50's and late 60's that are EXTREMELY sexually active and, at least, are as sexually active as the rest of us. Yes, they use condoms and No they don't have problems ejaculating unless they have some other medical problem. I know guys in their 20's who have problems ejaculating. You seem to have some misconception that "older" means less sexually active, less virile. From what I have seen, that's not true at all. Granted, they may not be as "horny" as a 19 year old because they don't have the hormonal problems of a 19 year old.

 

[PrimeTime]

Take first hand advise. I will be 70 my birthday and I am as viril as I was at 20. I do not do it as often, but just as well and more intense. Age is not the only thing that has to do with your activity. I think STRESS and medical problems have more to do with it than age.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Yup. Things do change with age for most men out there.

Nope. Condoms do not preclude ejaculation and orgasm just coz you are 'older'.

Yup. You want to use condoms with everybody regardless of their age.

SC

 

[Lube]

OK, I admit maybe I'm still thinking in "str8 mode", where men's sexuality declines significantly in their 40's 50's and 60's. It probably is quite different in the gay world, where both partners still actually want sex. Hadn't thought of that.

That being said, I don't consider myself nearly as virile as when I was a teenager, and I'm in my early 40's. As I aged through my 30's and 40's with my wife, I found that, as I got older, it was definitely harder to reach orgasm with a condom on.

No one else sees this effect?

Maybe I should see a doctor?

 

[Lube]

Thank you very much, ds_writr, for an informative, inspiring, and educational post! As always.

I'll hold off on the Viagra for now, as I'm not really into pills.

I eat very healthfully, but could use to lose 20 lbs.

And, um, I suppose I could, um, ya know, practice more.

It just seemed like, at the rate things were going, I'd have a hard time having an orgasm in a condom by the time I was in my 50's. I was not intending to have condom-less sex anytime soon. Was just wondering about the future. Hopefully that time will never come.

 

[luminum]

Just because someone's a senior doesn't mean they weren't 19. STD's stay with you for the most part. If the guy was 19 and had an STD, would you sleep with him unprotected? So why would you sleep with the same 19 year old unprotected 50 years down the road?