OMFG - Crazy Situation!! PLEASE Help!!

[IfYouSeekAmyTonight]

OK, so guys I REALLY need advice on this matter cuz i'm going out of my mind with confusion lol!!
Here it goes....Basically, There's this guy who's recently entered my social group called Will. Well, i've had a major crush on this guy, from a distance, for AGES but then he just started talking to me and we are getting closer and closer all the time. BUT, and this is the big but, i've ALWAYS thought he was 100% str8...he certainly doesn't seem gay at all...and he's got a "on/off" girlfriend. They dont go well together - they are forever messing one another around...But shes my mate too so I dont wanna do anything to upset her!!
Anyway...whats he actually doing you may ask?? Well, it started with just nice little compliments, like, i'd make him laugh and he'd be like "im always happy around you...you should be a comedian"...tht type of thing! Then, he started "flirtingly" messing around, like he was playing cards and he just, in a jokey way, started throwing cards at me just so that i'd throw them back lol!!...Then, physical contact started, like on Friday, he was touching my nose (wierd i know lol) putting his arms around me for a long time and even giving me a head massage! Then, last time I saw him, he blew a kiss to me when nobody was looking! Furthermore, my best mates have spotted him, on at least 3 occasions, turning and staring at me when he walks past!!
Well, thats basically it!! Part of me thinks that this is just a "straight guy teasing a gay guy" thing...but it seems more...intense than that!! I really wanna believe that he likes me...but I just don't know!!
Any ideas guys??
All opinions will be greatly recieved!!

 

[Fucker29]

I don't really have an advice since I'm currently dealing with a similar situation. Just let me tell you...it is a mess of a confusion!
Well...I guess, if I'm learning something from my situation, is that you shouldn't let your feelings for the guy grow too strong...for your own protection, otherwise, there'll most probably be a lot of hurt, agonizing and frustration going on.

It is a confusing and tough situation though...specially when you're friends with your "competition" as well, wich is also my case.

 

[Lefty]

ok boys, this might be off the wall and out of centre court but did you take your head away from your other head for a minute and think about the social not sexual aspects here.

maybe these 'new mates' just want to establish stronger friendships as in good mates, close friends and not cum recepticles/play boys? if the groups are mixed (having various sexual orientations within each) the actions don't sound as hormone directed as pals teasing, kinda like h.s./col frat playing.

the activities you describe don't sound so much to me like come on's as they do sound like come along i like you and want to be a closer bud not, repeat a piece of butt.

ok, just my dumb ass backwood old fart thoughts ...either way best of luck

 

[Yuki Sohma]

...he blew a kiss to me when nobody was looking!...

Blow one back next time you see him...............then maybe

 

[TX-Beau]

There are probably a hundred other threads in here on this exact topic. The advice is always the same. Either have to balls to say something, or you'll never know.

No one in here knows this guy, how much of this is real, how much your imagining, or if you've completely misread the situation. I suspect - as always - that you probably know what to do, either way, and just aren't doing it.

 

[Txgoodoldboy]

There are probably a hundred other threads in here on this exact topic. The advice is always the same. Either have to balls to say something, or you'll never know.

No one in here knows this guy, how much of this is real, how much your imagining, or if you've completely misread the situation. I suspect - as always - that you probably know what to do, either way, and just aren't doing it.

Totally agree.

...and he's got a "on/off" girlfriend. They dont go well together - they are forever messing one another around...But shes my mate too so I dont wanna do anything to upset her!!

How much is your friendship, with the girl, worth?

This might be your only chance, so, pounce.

 

[IfYouSeekAmyTonight]

Thanks so much for your responses already guys - I really appreciate it!! It is a really difficult and confusing situation...but I guess at the end of the day, i've gotta do what makes me happy - and if I don't go for it i'll never know right??
I might just give it this next week or so to see what else happens before I try anything serious....I'm seeing him (and his gf) tomorrow for a good hour or so so i'll see what happens then and report back here lol!

 

[Lefty]

hey amy fan bloke, if you don't 'get no satisfation' at home, swim over my small mut exhuberent equipment is ready to bail or flail you out

 

[IfYouSeekAmyTonight]

UPDATE!!
OK - well past couple of days, Will's been ill So today's the first time i've seen him.
First time, I was in the study room doing coursework and he came and sat by me and started his "flirting" thing again, obvs just trying to make me laugh etc. Also, he brought up the conversation about how much I liked gay clubs, and somehow we ended up talking about him, and I was like "yeah, but ur with Sarah, so you're not gay" and he goes "How do you know?? Ever heard of being bi??"!!
Second time, at the end of lunch, he asked me if I had a free and I told him no cuz I had a lesson and he looked really gutted and said "OK then...I guess i'll see you later"
Then, third time, at the end of the day, I walked past him and he goes "You off then?", I told him yeah so he extended his hand for what I thought was going to be a manly handshake, (nobody else was around btw) but instead, he just kinda held my hand there, like, as if we were HOLDING HANDS!! And then I was like, "Right I gotta go" and he was like "OK - take care mate" and as I walked away, he didnt let go of my hand so it kinda did that thing where your hands slowly slip away from eachother as you seperate, (you know what I mean lol) and THEN he said...."I guess that'll do for now!" and then he walked off!! :S:S!! What the hell does tht mean!! lmao!!!
Schools ended for easter now though so I wont see him for 2 weeks!!!
Today just made this even more confusing lol!

 

[nautiboyjeff]

He didn't make it confusing - YOU REFUSE TO ACCEPT HIS OVERTURE - what do you want him to do - throw you down and rape you?

Seriously?

 

[trawler69]

Today just made this even more confusing lol!

Confusing? He could hardly have made it more obvious, he's practically begging you. He'll be the one who is confused by YOU. To quote one of our number "Grow a pair!"

 

[screwnutty]

I just thought of a great idea that could end this "Is he gay or is he straight?"

Simply ask him "Are you gay?"

Simple but bold.

 

[Fucker29]

UPDATE!!
OK - well past couple of days, Will's been ill So today's the first time i've seen him.
First time, I was in the study room doing coursework and he came and sat by me and started his "flirting" thing again, obvs just trying to make me laugh etc. Also, he brought up the conversation about how much I liked gay clubs, and somehow we ended up talking about him, and I was like "yeah, but ur with Sarah, so you're not gay" and he goes "How do you know?? Ever heard of being bi??"!!
Second time, at the end of lunch, he asked me if I had a free and I told him no cuz I had a lesson and he looked really gutted and said "OK then...I guess i'll see you later"
Then, third time, at the end of the day, I walked past him and he goes "You off then?", I told him yeah so he extended his hand for what I thought was going to be a manly handshake, (nobody else was around btw) but instead, he just kinda held my hand there, like, as if we were HOLDING HANDS!! And then I was like, "Right I gotta go" and he was like "OK - take care mate" and as I walked away, he didnt let go of my hand so it kinda did that thing where your hands slowly slip away from eachother as you seperate, (you know what I mean lol) and THEN he said...."I guess that'll do for now!" and then he walked off!! :S:S!! What the hell does tht mean!! lmao!!!
Schools ended for easter now though so I wont see him for 2 weeks!!!
Today just made this even more confusing lol!

Yeah, he could NOT have made his intentions towards anymore obvious. I don't see where the confusion is now. Before it was kinda ambiguous but now...it's screaming!

 

[pallenk]

I just thought of a great idea that could end this "Is he gay or is he straight?"

Simply ask him "Are you gay?"

Simple but bold.

I guess you didn't read when he said he asked if he was with sara and that meant he couldn't be gay. and he replied basically that he could be bi. so, obviously, he asked.

but wtf. he is practically begging. and you are into him. make plans with just you and him. kick out the mates and pull out the porn music. it is so on. most of the time, people are questioning about mixed signals. he seems to be pretty obvious.

 

[Coffee]

UPDATE!!
OK - well past couple of days, Will's been ill So today's the first time i've seen him.
First time, I was in the study room doing coursework and he came and sat by me and started his "flirting" thing again, obvs just trying to make me laugh etc. Also, he brought up the conversation about how much I liked gay clubs, and somehow we ended up talking about him, and I was like "yeah, but ur with Sarah, so you're not gay" and he goes "How do you know?? Ever heard of being bi??"!!
Second time, at the end of lunch, he asked me if I had a free and I told him no cuz I had a lesson and he looked really gutted and said "OK then...I guess i'll see you later"
Then, third time, at the end of the day, I walked past him and he goes "You off then?", I told him yeah so he extended his hand for what I thought was going to be a manly handshake, (nobody else was around btw) but instead, he just kinda held my hand there, like, as if we were HOLDING HANDS!! And then I was like, "Right I gotta go" and he was like "OK - take care mate" and as I walked away, he didnt let go of my hand so it kinda did that thing where your hands slowly slip away from eachother as you seperate, (you know what I mean lol) and THEN he said...."I guess that'll do for now!" and then he walked off!! :S:S!! What the hell does tht mean!! lmao!!!
Schools ended for easter now though so I wont see him for 2 weeks!!!
Today just made this even more confusing lol!

clearly that you seem avoiding him

 

[rareboy]

I think this is another fantasy thread.

You're just leading up to the dramatic finale.

He's done everything but pull your pants down and blow you.

You can't be as thick as your posts make you out to be. At the very least, he's looking for some playtime.

But get ready to have your heart broken if he's 'bisexual'.

 

[screwnutty]

I guess you didn't read when he said he asked if he was with sara and that meant he couldn't be gay. and he replied basically that he could be bi. so, obviously, he asked.

but wtf. he is practically begging. and you are into him. make plans with just you and him. kick out the mates and pull out the porn music. it is so on. most of the time, people are questioning about mixed signals. he seems to be pretty obvious.

Actually I did miss that. Thanks Pallenk!!

But I've also meet a few gay guys that have dated women just so that they fitted in. Now they were messed up in the head but they had no problems having sex with different guys and not do anything sexual with there girlfriend.

But yeah.....Dude what's it going to take...this guy slamming you behind the school after Easter break for you to see the signs???

 

[TX-Beau]

I think this is another fantasy thread.

You're just leading up to the dramatic finale.

Yeah, the whole "straight for everyone but the OP," thing is a little glaring. Ever notice how in these fantasy threads, the crush guys always have girlfriends and are always in the closet, but yet are completely comfortable frotting the tortured gay boy anywhere at all.




Doesn't this guy have a girlfriend? What about her? Maybe you're the kind of person who doesn't mind fucking over some poor girl, but what does that say about him? Cheating fuck, that's what it says.

 

[IfYouSeekAmyTonight]

Maybe you're the kind of person who doesn't mind fucking over some poor girl

Excuse me but if you read my original post I DID say that I didn't want to hurt or upset her cuz she was my mate too!! I'm no homewrecker thank you very much! But, as you probs know yourself, you can't help "liking" someone!!!

Other than that, thanks for everyone's opinions - I really appreciated them

Rareboy - it's not that i'm thick or anything...it's just that i've been hurt THAT much and fucked over that I just don't trust guys anymore so I need other peoples advice before I believe anything a boy says!!

But yeah, I'll see how things are after Easter and decide what to do then but like I say, you all really have helped me get this sorted in my head!!

 

[TX-Beau]

If you don't want to hurt her, why are you trying to bag her guy?

If you don't want to hurt her, your options are crystal clear no matter what this guy does.

If you don't want to hurt her, and fuck this guy anyway, well, you didn't really care about hurting her at all did you.