On being dominated when not the submissive type

[magicdick]

Can anyone explain my behavior? I am perplexed.

I’ve always been the rebellious type. Don’t like to be told what to do. Don’t like to be physically pushed around. (There will be consequences. Not that I’m a bad-ass, but I will defend myself.) Don’t like pushy types. You’ll be asked to leave.

But when I am with a lover...

I love it when my man stands me in the middle of the room, forces me to my knees, unzips, and takes out his cock: “Here you go, bitch. Suck my fucking cock you little fag.” [I know “fag” offends many. I apologize in advance. I like being called one, though.]

I love it when he grabs my head and shoves his cock down my throat trying to make me gag. I don’t gag but will fake it to please him.

I beg for his cum. I beg to be his bitch.

I love it when he slaps my face with his cock. I love it when he rubs his meaty shaft all over my face. I love it when he cums all over my face (I mean I really love it!). And all the while he’s calling me bitch, cum whore, slut, pig, fag…

And I love it when he’s fucking me doggy and flips me on my back and straddles my mouth: “Suck my balls then rim me!” Then once I have pleasured him he tells me to spread my legs “cuz I’m gonna fuck your brains out and make you scream like the little girl you are.” Then he proceeds to do exactly that.

So here I am being verbally and physically pushed around and I am loving it. Why?

 

[magicdick]

Gotta laugh. Five minutes after posting this I went to take a leak and my panties (yeah, I wear them every day) were soaked with precum from writing the above. I need a man. Right now.

And I'm sick of watching gay/bi porn. Most guys don't know how to give good head. They're boring and uncreative. Most guys don't know how to get fucked: they just lie there. And why is it that many guys shoot their loads in silence? When I'm climaxing a firing squad couldn't stop me from screaming in ecstasy.

Oh, well. Different strokes for different folks.

 

[WingedBoy]

I hope you had the best sucking session of your life!
Maybe your desire is just changing or maybe you like the fact of being challenged to be less dominating, you know your answer inside

 

[BiBtm64]

Can anyone explain my behavior? I am perplexed.

I’ve always been the rebellious type. Don’t like to be told what to do. Don’t like to be physically pushed around. (There will be consequences. Not that I’m a bad-ass, but I will defend myself.) Don’t like pushy types. You’ll be asked to leave.

But when I am with a lover...

I love it when my man stands me in the middle of the room, forces me to my knees, unzips, and takes out his cock: “Here you go, bitch. Suck my fucking cock you little fag.” [I know “fag” offends many. I apologize in advance. I like being called one, though.]

I love it when he grabs my head and shoves his cock down my throat trying to make me gag. I don’t gag but will fake it to please him.

I beg for his cum. I beg to be his bitch.

I love it when he slaps my face with his cock. I love it when he rubs his meaty shaft all over my face. I love it when he cums all over my face (I mean I really love it!). And all the while he’s calling me bitch, cum whore, slut, pig, fag…

And I love it when he’s fucking me doggy and flips me on my back and straddles my mouth: “Suck my balls then rim me!” Then once I have pleasured him he tells me to spread my legs “cuz I’m gonna fuck your brains out and make you scream like the little girl you are.” Then he proceeds to do exactly that.

So here I am being verbally and physically pushed around and I am loving it. Why?

I get it because I feel the same way. Not so much in terms of words used, but in actions - I enjoy being dominated. As you do, and here's why.

You become submissive not despite it not being part of your everyday character, but because it's not part of you. You're rebellious. Submission is a form of rebellion, against yourself and against societal norms that expect men to be dominant and to take the lead.

You submit to being dominated because it's an expression of power that you can internalise - he doesn't need to know, but you're in control. You're being dominated because, and only because you allow it.

You submit because the power it makes you feel allows for feelings of vulnerability and emotional connection.

Submission is the relief of responsibility in a world where men are expected to take the lead, be strong, independent, in charge and in control. You're rebellious, and you rebel against society's expectations. Submission brings you a sense of freedom from the relief of responsibilities and expectations of masculinity.

Submission is vulnerability. Vulnerability, when freely chosen, is strength.

Ancient Chinese philosophy brings us the concept of Yin and Yang, representing the duality and interconnectedness of opposites. To find balance and completeness, the Yin and Yang energies must coexist and interlink with each other. Your Yang of everyday life and society's expectations is incomplete when it exists alone, and it craves balance with your inner Yin. By submitting and allowing yourself to be dominated, your Yin completes you.

Does this make sense? It does to me because it's how I feel.

 

[magicdick]

BiBtm64. I get it because I feel the same way. Not so much in terms of words used, but in actions - I enjoy being dominated. As you do, and here's why.

You become submissive not despite it not being part of your everyday character, but because it's not part of you. You're rebellious. Submission is a form of rebellion, against yourself and against societal norms that expect men to be dominant and to take the lead.

You submit to being dominated because it's an expression of power that you can internalise - he doesn't need to know, but you're in control. You're being dominated because, and only because you allow it.

You submit because the power it makes you feel allows for feelings of vulnerability and emotional connection.

Submission is the relief of responsibility in a world where men are expected to take the lead, be strong, independent, in charge and in control. You're rebellious, and you rebel against society's expectations. Submission brings you a sense of freedom from the relief of responsibilities and expectations of masculinity.

Submission is vulnerability. Vulnerability, when freely chosen, is strength.

Ancient Chinese philosophy brings us the concept of Yin and Yang, representing the duality and interconnectedness of opposites. To find balance and completeness, the Yin and Yang energies must coexist and interlink with each other. Your Yang of everyday life and society's expectations is incomplete when it exists alone, and it craves balance with your inner Yin. By submitting and allowing yourself to be dominated, your Yin completes you.

Does this make sense? It does to me because it's how I feel.

W-O-W! What you say makes so much sense. I didn't see this for the same reason a fish doesn't feel wet. My behavior is no longer a mystery. Thank you, BiBtm64. I owe you. I printed your words and hung them in my workshop. I love being dominated, am not ashamed of it, and now know why. I want you to fuck me and blow me so badly. And vice versa.

 

[cumlover91]

In my day to day life, i am definitely not a submissive person and the times i had sex with women, I was always the dominant one. But something clicked in my head when I had sex with a man for the first time because that dominant sex completely disappeared and completely turned me in to the totally 100% submissive type. I literally don't think i could enjoy sex anymore if I wasn't being dominated by another guy.

 

[magicdick]

In my day to day life, i am definitely not a submissive person and the times i had sex with women, I was always the dominant one. But something clicked in my head when I had sex with a man for the first time because that dominant sex completely disappeared and completely turned me in to the totally 100% submissive type. I literally don't think i could enjoy sex anymore if I wasn't being dominated by another guy.

I could not agree more.

I yearn for my man, my lover, to take control of me, to use me, to let me serve his needs. That is why, when making love, I beg to be his bitch. That is why, when he is fucking me, I want to start with him on top--known as the male superior position. I could carry on, but my views are already well known on JUB.

P.S. I use the "bitch" not in its derogatory connotation, but to imply I am the woman serving the man and his needs and wants, that I am the submissive one. I enjoy being his bitch.

 

[wolfypdx]

I love to have a guy dominate me like that scene described in #1. I'm neither dominant nor submissive in real life, but something in the middle, but when I'm in bed, I want to be told what to do. I also want to be called names like faggot, cocksucker, pillowbiter, bitch, Nancy boy, homo. The more aggressively a lover tells me what to do and the nastier the name-calling gets, the hotter the sex gets.

 

[magicdick]

I love to have a guy dominate me like that scene described in #1. I'm neither dominant nor submissive in real life, but something in the middle, but when I'm in bed, I want to be told what to do. I also want to be called names like faggot, cocksucker, pillowbiter, bitch, Nancy boy, homo. The more aggressively a lover tells me what to do and the nastier the name-calling gets, the hotter the sex gets.

Baby, we are cut from the same cloth.