On coming out, college, and straight friends

[TNniceguy]

Hi Josh. I'm 41 and didn't come out until this week. When I was in high school, coming out would have been a nightmare. In my opinion, people today are more accepting than they were when I was your age. Despite that, it still isn't any easier no matter how old you are.

Like you, I found a great therapist. He is younger than me and is gay, too. If you are having anxiety and depression from your situation, having a great therapist is truly a lifesaver. Don't be afraid to talk with your therapist. I feel sorry for mine because I unloaded all the things I had held inside for all these years.

Moving away to another college may be the answer. Make new friends and start off on a new path without the worry and guilt from your past. With that said, be prepared for your old friends to find out. But look on the bright side... Orlando has a lot of hot guys and gay days at Disney is fun!

 

[Greenherbz]

So you were afraid of losing your high school friends, but now you're going to lose them anyway moving away?

Yeah, basically. My best straight friend down here has also last minute decided to transfer to another school in florida. I was always planning on transferring to orlando anyway, i was just putting it off bc i was nervous to move and I was going to get to live in a house w/ my current room mate and best friend. Now that that plan has dissolved, I have a couple of good friends down here. But terps420 put things into perspective for me. This is my life, and I'm not getting any younger. I am in control of what I do and I think that moving to orlando will be a great decision in the end. It is much easier to meet new people up there (over-all better campus atmosphere, more parties, more clubs, more concerts, better LGBT clubs and organizations etc). Also one of my friends Christina lives up there and she is one of the few that knows about my sexuality. Its time to move on from high school and meet new people. I think thats part of the reason I've been so depressed.

Hi Josh. I'm 41 and didn't come out until this week. When I was in high school, coming out would have been a nightmare. In my opinion, people today are more accepting than they were when I was your age. Despite that, it still isn't any easier no matter how old you are.

Like you, I found a great therapist. He is younger than me and is gay, too. If you are having anxiety and depression from your situation, having a great therapist is truly a lifesaver. Don't be afraid to talk with your therapist. I feel sorry for mine because I unloaded all the things I had held inside for all these years.

Moving away to another college may be the answer. Make new friends and start off on a new path without the worry and guilt from your past. With that said, be prepared for your old friends to find out. But look on the bright side... Orlando has a lot of hot guys and gay days at Disney is fun!

Since quite a few people from my highschool do go to this university (and you know how info spreads w/ facebook etc) some or all of my high school friends may find out. But this way if they react badly it really wont matter because I'll have moved on and distanced myself from them a little. I think it is for the best
congrats on coming out btw