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On: Shutting down the club

Treborf

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It's kind of humiliating when you're alone - out there at closing time by the exit or in the parking lot, with all the other guys who weren't hot enough to get picked up. And you try justifying it by saying that you weren't looking to hook-up with anybody - that you were just there to people-watch and have a drink or two. But deep down you know that's not true; there's only one reason to be at the damn club by yourself at this god-forsaken hour.

Uggh. Going to the club/bar to try and meet people has to be the worst part of being single.
 
Would you really want to get picked up by someone just because it was closing time and they were desperate?
 
altlover85 said:
Would you really want to get picked up by someone just because it was closing time and they were desperate?
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Well, the sober, rational me would say "of course not". The guy who has been at the spot all night without receiving so much as a flirtation would, however, say "any port in a storm..."
 
Treborf said:
It's kind of humiliating when you're alone - out there at closing time by the exit or in the parking lot, with all the other guys who weren't hot enough to get picked up. And you try justifying it by saying that you weren't looking to hook-up with anybody - that you were just there to people-watch and have a drink or two. But deep down you know that's not true; there's only one reason to be at the damn club by yourself at this god-forsaken hour.

Uggh. Going to the club/bar to try and meet people has to be the worst part of being single.
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Sorry, but I don't know what that's like. I love myself, and not into the whole self-loathing scene you seem to enjoy. But hey.... have "fun" I guess. Or, whatever. :rolleyes:
 
I'm hoping you didn't just sit in the same spot the whole night hoping someone would talk to you. You have to put yourself out there.

If you're shy, like me, that's why they created online dating. Now that I have had relationships, if I was single I would feel more comfortable talking to people.
 
altlover85 said:
I'm hoping you didn't just sit in the same spot the whole night hoping someone would talk to you. You have to put yourself out there.

If you're shy, like me, that's why they created online dating. Now that I have had relationships, if I was single I would feel more comfortable talking to people.
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Nah, that's not it. Sometimes you just strike out, but it never stops being embarrassing/disappointing. I imagine most of us have felt this way at some time or another. I just came here to half-drunk vent.

And as frustrating as I find the bar scene, I've found online dating to be like ten times as difficult.
 
I can certainly understand that. You trade the public embarassment aspect of it for flakes that didn't have any intention of meeting you in the first place.
 
I'm very shy, I know going to clubs by my own won't work for me. I prefer online dating, it's more easy for me to conect with someone.

I've never been in the situation you describe, but hey, we all have our needs, don't feel shame of needing sex, and about not getting anyone, sometimes you have bad luck, try again later.
 
See if you can go with a friend, it's much more enjoyable. That way even if you don't hook up with someone, you can still have fun together.
 
You mean, there are people who actually get picked up in those clubs?!? :eek:
 
hotatlboi said:
See if you can go with a friend, it's much more enjoyable. That way even if you don't hook up with someone, you can still have fun together.
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QFT. If you go with someone else it also generally makes you more relaxed and since you have someone with you it's easier to scope out guys together and get a second opinion before you make your move.
 
I think what Molten is trying to say is that low self esteem can sometimes be a state of mind and if you are going to clubs and not hitting it off with someone it might be better to just call it a night as opposed to sitting there till closing time and feeling depressed.

I personally can't see the point in staying out at the club that late if I'm not either with someone or having fun by myself, but I've never gone to a club without at least a friend to go with. I've never gone to one with the intention of picking someone up because I've always gone with someone I who was either my boyfriend or in one case, someone who I thought would be a potential boyfriend.
 
My favorite way to overcome that was to find a bar worker to screw and then i would stay well past closing time... it also allows for the police to get involved with all the drunks prior to you getting on the road... of course that was back when driving drunk was more sporting than a crime....

I have been the wallflower and the agressive self confident guy... both end up with the wrong date in a club...that is if your looking for a lover and not just a club lay.

The more socially acceptable method these days is to find either a friend or a lay on A4A and then take them with you... you can still look for a better lay and have a alibi if your there late.

Of course all of that depends on what you want. All these guys who are in perfectly stable never roamed self condifient i am perfect relationships... well they cant even be truthful on an annonymous forum so dont bother with that...

Cheers
 
mazda3boi said:
The more socially acceptable method these days is to find either a friend or a lay on A4A and then take them with you... you can still look for a better lay and have a alibi if your there late.

Of course all of that depends on what you want. All these guys who are in perfectly stable never roamed self condifient i am perfect relationships... well they cant even be truthful on a annonymous forum so dont vbother with that...
Cheers
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I agree with your first paragraph, but the second one just makes you sound bitter and/or jealous.
 
That may be from your perspective.. I have never seen a good relationship form out of a club from London to Little Rock and everywhere in between...

I get whom i want usually when i want though... so not really bitter or jealous. i simply have moved on from whore to more
 
I don't remember anyone saying that they were looking for relationships at the club. I thought they were looking for hookups and if it turned into more, then great.

I could be wrong though.
 
Then don't go alone and stay till closing time...
 
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