On: Shutting down the club

[Treborf]

Hmm. It says your in Austin and you just made this thread this morning. Question....

Were you at the Chain Drive last night?

Ha ha, no...that place kind of scares me with the darkness and weirdly shadowy patio.

Anyway, I go by myself because:
1)The only other gay guys I know are my past or present f-buddies
2)Past or present f-buddies are the biggest cockblockers
3)Hanging out with straight women at a gay club just doesn't work for me

And, really, I've got no problem going alone or self-confidence issues or some such. This is moreso about that swell of defeat that hits once you hear last call and you have nothing to show for yourself. Like when the other team hits a 3 late in the fourth to put the game out of reach. It wasn't meant to be nearly as emo as it came off.

 

[altlover85]

Thanks for clearing it up Treborf.

I can understand what you mean even if it's not something that makes sense for me personally.

 

[Adhesion]

I've only stayed to closing twice at my local club, and each time left with the guy I'm seeing and went with. But I have noticed the gathering crowd outside in the parking lot with people looking around--wondered what was up with that. Almost looked like zombies.

When I go to the club alone, I usually leave an hour or a half hour before closing because I don't want to deal with the parking lot hassle and drunks.

 

[7Anthony5]

I don't want to deal with the parking lot hassle and drunks.

Wasn't a drunk in the car with you last time?

 

[Adhesion]

Wasn't a drunk in the car with you last time?

True, but you make a hot little drunk.

 

[altlover85]

MikeyLove, who (besides you) is carrying around their papers though?

 

[MoltenRock III]

I think what Molten is trying to say is that low self esteem can sometimes be a state of mind and if you are going to clubs and not hitting it off with someone it might be better to just call it a night as opposed to sitting there till closing time and feeling depressed.

I personally can't see the point in staying out at the club that late if I'm not either with someone or having fun by myself, but I've never gone to a club without at least a friend to go with. I've never gone to one with the intention of picking someone up because I've always gone with someone I who was either my boyfriend or in one case, someone who I thought would be a potential boyfriend.

As usual you "get" me.

But I don't go to a club looking to go home with someone (it's happened, sure), but I go merely to have a few good conversations. Worrying about fucking str8 out of the chute, as you walk in is worrying about a bridge 20 miles away. It's hard to meet someone if you don't just go talk to them. Then, have a few good conversations. Maybe get a phone number. It's a numbers game and a process.

I personally don't go out much these days as I have a number of friends that come over, or we'll go out to functions. Part of my job requires a number of cocktail and society parties, so that leaves me pretty full most of the time of being social.