On weddings and such

[Racer Dave]

Just a short one, me and Jonathan (my boyfriend) were talking, it's pretty obvious who in a straight relationship normally proposes, but who in a gay relationship is normally the one to propose marriage?

Is it the older, the more successful, or just whoever asks first

 

[G-Lexington]

I would guess it's whoever wants it the most.

Lex

 

[pat grimshaw]

Before you start proposing, start talking about things like joint bank accounts, wills, buying joint property and the potential for adoptions in the future.

 

[HunterM]

Whoever has the harrier ass should propose. Don't you know?

 

[looseliam]

Whoever has the harrier ass should propose. Don't you know?

Fuck, I shave. Always a bridesmaid, never a bride

 

[Telstra]

Whoever has the harrier ass should propose. Don't you know?

Hairier. You mean less feminine ?

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

ya both do it

same time

unless ya both got ya tongs stuffin ya mouths then
murff murff yub wurr slurps?

there go

 

[operafan]

My favorite stories are the ones where one proposes and the other one says I was going to propose. They both had the idea.

 

[Racer Dave]

Before you start proposing, start talking about things like joint bank accounts, wills, buying joint property and the potential for adoptions in the future.

Don't worry pat no chance of any proposals just yet, I mean we've only been together for like three months
We were watching four weddings and funeral and afterwards we were talking and I asked him. One of his sugestions was that it would be the older or more financially successful of the two, but that would be kind of a problem for us, he's older but I'm more well off. Anyway when neither of us could come up with a good enough answer I said I'd ask here.

Whoever has the harrier ass should propose. Don't you know?

Well that sorts that then, it's up to me to pop the question one day ...

 

[blackbeltninja]

I wonder, NA, is there anything in the whole WORLD you're not anti-establishment about?

-d-

 

[Racer Dave]

Eh... modeling ourselves after conservative heterosexual relationships? *YAWN*

I've always found the thought of going down on bent knee and actually asking incredibly romantic and honestly would love nothing more than to be on either end of the knee.
Somehow the thought of sitting, on the couch or at the dinner table one night and saying "So, ja maybe we should get married or something" a little off putting.

So yes, I choose to model my relationship after a conservative heterosexual relationship if only so I can have my 'awwwww' moment, when it's right and we're ready of course.

 

[HunterM]

I've always found the thought of going down on bent knee and actually asking incredibly romantic and honestly would love nothing more than to be on either end of the knee.
Somehow the thought of sitting, on the couch or at the dinner table one night and saying "So, ja maybe we should get married or something" a little off putting.

I'm with you man. I would love for my guy to be going down on me on bent knee and ask.
Awwwww...such sweet gesture. How can I say no?

 

[subsonic]

Eh... modeling ourselves after conservative heterosexual relationships? *YAWN*

I really don't see why gay people who want to get married are "modeling" themselves after heterosexual relationships. Why should there be such a division? I don't understand the need to put gay and straight people up between one another. We're all human beings, not sexualities.

 

[subsonic]

I'm not saying gay people shouldn't get married. That would be silly. I just laugh at the conservative aspect of a guy (in a straight relationship) alway being the one who proposes. So when that model is taken and given to gay relationships and creates the idea that two men makes it oh-so confusing who makes the move, it becomes off-putting.

It's basically like when some silly straight guy sees a same-sex couple dancing and asks: "how do they know who leads?"

What are we, twelve? Make your own rules!

Ahh, I get where you're coming from now..
In some way I agree with you, in other I don't. I can only speak for myself but I think that the getting-down-on-one-knee is a nice and romantic gesture. I just believe that that is what people link to proposal - it's tradition. And I personally think that in these modern times, it is nice to hold on to something traditional when you think about how all traditions are more or less distinguished and making a romantic gesture seems creepy or cheezy in modern eyes.
On the other hand, I very much dislike when straight people try to pull these clichés over our head. Gay couples don't necessarily have "male" and "female" roles to play out and people who stereotype us like that are just plain stupid.

 

[EuroSoccer]

Just a short one, me and Jonathan (my boyfriend) were talking, it's pretty obvious who in a straight relationship normally proposes, but who in a gay relationship is normally the one to propose marriage?

Is it the older, the more successful, or just whoever asks first

The one who has the biggest cock

 

[RDaniel]

If I ever get married; I don't ever seeing myself getting down on one knee, but rather while sitting, standing, whatever, ask the person, "What if we got married?" or something along those lines. And, then decide whether or not it's a good idea.

 

[palbert]

If that is your heaviest concern you're fortunate. Now grow up and draw choices from a hat. Or, truly gay, from a crystal goblet.

 

[pat grimshaw]

I wonder, NA, is there anything in the whole WORLD you're not anti-establishment about?...

The intriguing Naughty sounded very 'establishment' a couple of weeks ago while protesting about a person showing some genital flesh on the train.

Yet, strangely, one week later was praising an artist with his drawings of hunky men having sex on the train.

 

[Asenath]

Actually, it's not always cut and dried about who proposes in the straight world, either. Lots of people come to a mutual agreement to be engaged, and women are increasing their rates of asking men every year. If the two of you come to an agreement that you should be married, whether or not one of you gets down on one knee, you're engaged.

(There was even a piece in Esquire last year about men taking up the trend of engagement rings.)

 

[HunterM]

(There was even a piece in Esquire last year about men taking up the trend of engagement rings.)

Why not? It's about time. If the bitch breaks up the engagement, I get to keep the ring!