Online vs. gay club/bar

[Rex]

Where is it easier to meet hot, masculine guys?

I find it hard to find hot, completely masc openly gay/bi guys and I'm getting sick of online bullshit but I'm afraid of how the gay club scene will be (techno, twinks, LSD and neon disco lights).

Thoughts?

 

[Fucker29]

Judging from my little experience in gay clubs, you can find masculine guys there but, from what I've seen, they're not all that many...wouldn't say rare but the majority seem to be more feminine. It may also depend on the type of club you go to...the overall environment and atmosphere.

I'm a bit tired of the online thing as well right now. I'm just focusing on having fun and meeting new people and making friends as off the moment.

 

[Rex]

Yes. Put your ass out there, sissy.

Why you little bitch!

Sultan would really 'shape up' there.

Hater.

 

[thewiz]

I would say look at the clubs and the events. For instance, once a month one of the "straight" dance/music places has an event called "Blow-off." It tends to attract more masculine, a little more mature and older crowd. It also does seem to attract its share of coke and meth addicts so one just has to watch.

Also, stay away from the 18+ nights. The twinks and younger crowds tend to show up those nights; the other nights seem to attract more of a mix.

If you want the bigger guys -- then head to the leather bars (like the Eagle in DC). I suppose each town has them; it's just finding what nights are open and the themes.

Online for me was finding people who said they were average build or "athletic" only to meet them and find they were two or three times bigger at the waist than me! I met my boyfriend dancing at a non-18+ night at a local club. We talked, danced, and have now been dating six months....

 

[pocono]

I've done both (unsuccessfully)

But I like meeting people....that said, I also am not a big fan of online shopping. I kind of like to see, touch exactly what I'm getting.

 

[gdude30]

The internet completely destroyed the old way people met and invented a new way and somewhat killed the bars.

I suppose online.

 

[alley]

I never go to dance clubs (not my thing) if you are looking for masculine guys I go to a couple of local places and most of the guys are very much my "type" of guy. look at the bar's web site and it can show some of the mix of people who frequent the place---I had this conversation with a couple of guys last week--they seemed to look down upon meeting someone at a bar and hooking up---but were totally fine with doing it through some web-site.

 

[TexMess]

If you have such high standards and specific qualifications, why not post a Craigslist ad like all the other douchebags?

 

[Rex]

If you have such high standards and specific qualifications, why not post a Craigslist ad like all the other douchebags?

I did but it all depends on your city. My city doesn't have a big selection. It's always the same people on craigslist here and if you go to the sites like manhunt, adam4adam, it's mostly the same group of people for the most part across the board of many of the hookup sites. It gets tiresome.

 

[Telstra]

I did but it all depends on your city. My city doesn't have a big selection. It's always the same people on craigslist here and if you go to the sites like manhunt, adam4adam, it's mostly the same group of people for the most part across the board of many of the hookup sites. It gets tiresome.

you could become an escort service provider,

but you can pick and choose the guys you want to play with.

 

[PabloZed]

Congrats F-22.

I once met and dated a guy I met online. It was good for a couple months, but it just wasn't right. Strangely, he read gay romance novels and had an unrealistic idea of a relationship. I think we would have stood a better chance of success if I had met him a few years later when he had matured more. So my impression is that online can work if there is a genuine connection once you meet in person.

 

[FPNY]

ya cant meet people unless there are people around. to me, sitting in my house alone banging on the keyboard is not the way to do it. go where people are and odds are you will meet someone to at least chat with. yes, chat, face to face, the OLD fashioned way. dammit

 

[cardshark]

I did but it all depends on your city. My city doesn't have a big selection. It's always the same people on craigslist here and if you go to the sites like manhunt, adam4adam, it's mostly the same group of people for the most part across the board of many of the hookup sites. It gets tiresome.

Sometimes our selection is limited by geography. I know what you are saying as I live in Windsor, even though I am looking for something quite different than you are. In some areas of the world, it is tough to find a good mate if you are looking for someone of the same sex.

Math alone says that metro Detroit is about 4,000,000 people. I'd say about 5% are gay, since Detroit is not very gay friendly (or anything friendly for that matter). Still, that means there are a potential 100,000 gay guys for us. But then you subtract those who are not dating (in relationships or in denial) and those that don't fit your criteria, you are not left with much at all.

What I'm trying to say is that your problem is not a problem that will be solved by going to clubs instead of online. There is no solution really, other than dating in another city or moving.

 

[Croynan]

i thought you were going in the Air Force in a few months. so what is the purpose of this thread?

eM.

 

[Rex]

i thought you were going in the Air Force in a few months. so what is the purpose of this thread?

eM.

I am in the summer. What does that have to do with anything? I was just asking a simple question. Don't start drama.

 

[Mattzrider]

Bi guys are everywhere and muscular dudes can be found at a field or gym near you. No joy? Try moving to Manhattan, So Cal or SFO.

 

[Oceansluver78]

I perfer to hang out at Str8 Bars, I find more gay men there I take an interest in than at gay bars.