Only Attracted to Whites?

[thekspot]

This may be a bit of a rant on my behalf.

As someone of mixed background (I am half indian and half white) people can never tell my ethnicity.

When people say they are only attracted to white guys, it confused me, on one hand they play it off as if its not stereotypical, not being judgemental, and its not racist. (I for one thing it is, and its not just a preference but anyways)

Secondly where does that leave mixed races and also there surely can't be something inherent in all coloured people that is so unnattractive. Can there not be exceptions and so on.

The same goes with any feature not just skin colour.

Sorry I just had to get it off my chest.

 

[evanrick]

perhaps its racism but its also class-ism. maybe because your ethnicity is somewhat vague that is influencing which ethnicity you choose to associate with. i sometimes face this same choice, but its usually only apparent when people notice that my ethnicity is also vague, which is kinda rare. then its usually a different "minority" trying to figure out what race i am other than "white". i love listening to people guess...but ive had many people tell me i look like taylor lautner but not as blended lol...so he is definitely raising some awareness....

 

[thekspot]

Thanks for the responses, I just find it almost ignorant in a sense when some people say I am not attracted and never will be attracted to any person because they are black/blonde/brown eyes and so on. Its so close minded what if some really hot black guy comes in and rocks your world, what happens then. LOL

 

[Nomenclature]

From now on tell people you're white or italian or some shit and then wait until they come on to you, then go "MWAHAHAHAHA! I'M REALLY- HALF INDIAN!" maniacally. They will fall to their knees screaming "NOOOOOOOO!"

You officially win this thread, and one internet.



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I've noticed everyone - straight, gay; man or woman - has a "type". . .and always winds up being attracted to someone who's outside of their type sooner or later.

I'm 20-years old, and i've noticed lately that i'm craving variety; I find myself being attracted to different people and things I never was before. My heritage is mostly Indian/Greek, if that matters.

 

[texan_slant]

I'm Asian, and white gets me going.

 

[Telstra]

there was a huge debate about this topic.

About rice queen ... etc. Where was that thread ...

 

[Nomenclature]

 

[mbamike]

I've noticed everyone - straight, gay; man or woman - has a "type". . .and always winds up being attracted to someone who's outside of their type sooner or later.

I totally agree. I WAS a white's preference guy basically because I am white looking.

Then I started cravy more variety. I am now hooking up with a beautiful black guy. He is totally awesome!

 

[altlover85]

Fuck you're 4 years younger than me and I keep thinking you're a man in his 40s resembling La Bamba.

It took me a while to start thinking of him as a 20 year old as opposed to his avatar too!

 

[Hot White Trash]

I'm Asian, and white gets me going.

So you can't be offended when you are rejected for being Asian since you would reject yourself.

 

[Telstra]

Here you go, this is the drama thread:

No matter how hot you are, if you're black or Asian, you're just not as desireable...

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=285454&highlight=asians

 

[youngnihilist]

To OP I'm mixed as well but look more on the white side... I find that most white people with few exceptions don't care about my background or don't bother asking. But when I meet a minority, especially Latin, the first thing that comes out of their mouth "Are you (blank) "What are you?" as they are very race conscious.. want to see where you fit in.

as for the whole preference thing I think mixed does pretty much okay... though unfortunately the truth is the whiter you look the better you often do... that's the way society is conditioned. So as others said it depends how you look, rather than what you actually are.

 

[texan_slant]

So you can't be offended when you are rejected for being Asian since you would reject yourself.

No, and actually, I wouldn't be offended, cuz I know that I'm not for everyone either.

 

[texan_slant]

It is what it is.

 

[BiMike]

^ You really are a 'picky' sort of guy

 

[altlover85]

...because of a piece of fucking skin that's naturally there?

Yup.

 

[Telstra]

BiMike....Yeah....I'm extremely picky. Won't date anyone that has tattoo's or body piercings as well. Hasn't really put a damper on my date/sex life though, luckily.


Wel478...Yeah, it may be there naturally but it honestly grosses me out. I don't even download any porn with uncut guys. Or if I do happen to get one by accident it gets deleted immediately.

That is "nurture".
Same thing a hot guy with pierced penis, its a turn off.

 

[fetaby]

A closed mind is closed. It doesn't really matter what it's closed to or why it's closed, no one can open it except the owner.

Yup.

 

[MorrisseyX]

Wow I agree that everyone is allowed to be attracted to whomever they want to be sexually attracted to. However, I think the OP's message is linking to the issue of sexual racism in the gay community.
I think what the OP is suggesting though is when someone writes in a post "only into whites" it is like the person is trying to say "whiteness" is superior to other races. And if people don't think "race" matters in the gay male community they are lying.

In the gay male culture, look at the magazines, movies, books, it all revolves around this image of the young, white, muscular, blonde or brunette adonis.

I am not white and I am not blonde or a brunette either. However, that's why I am glad shows like Noah's Arc emerged a few years ago.

I think some gay men of colour get caught up in looking for the "white gay boyfriend" because they are marginalized in their own community. These gay men of colour think "having a white guy" means social acceptance in the white gay culture.

I recall knowning a lot of Asian gay guys in Toronto talking about "wanting a white man." Now of course,

not all Asians want a white guy but I met plenty that talked about to me.


This is the reason why I like the LESBIAN COMMUNITY because LESBIANS DISCUSS RACISM. Lesbians will have serious discussions about RACISM and they have written A LOT about it.

For example, the lesbian writer Adrienne Rich has written about sexual racism in the gay male community in her piece "Compulsory Heterosexuality & Lesbian Existence." Other lesbian writers such as Dionne Brand have written about sexual racism too.

For some reason gay men have this allegic reaction to discussing RACE.



I personally would NOT date a white gay man but that is due to my strong political beliefs and values. I am a black gay man and I want to to have a serious relationship one day with another man of colour. I honestly don't believe white gay men "really" understand "race" issues. Maybe it is due to their white male skin privilege. I don't want to date someone and act like i am going through a race 101 seminar. That's just my personal opinion.

But the funny thing is, in Toronto, talk to any gay man of colour and the white guys definitely are interested in men of colour. However, a lot of white guys I've met have RACIST misconceptions about black gay male sexuality.

For instance, if I go on gay.com, Adam4Adam.com I will get messages from white men looking for:

1. big black dicks

2. Looking for a top.

3. Looking for a stereotypical thug.

It is annoying, racist, and totally stereotyping. This is what I don't like.

Now will I go to a bathhouse and receive a blow job from a white guy? I get horny too. If I am at a bathhouse I will have sex with a good looking man of any race because it is just sex. But in terms of something serious such as a relationship I prefer to date men of colour. I want to date an openly gay black man. I don't want to date a white guy and I certainly don't seek them out that's for sure.

 

[Just_Believe18]

Answer: Cultural perception of ideal male beauty instilled through film, music, photography, and art. It is societal racism, but it is difficult to label a personal individual as racist because of it. Most guys can't help what feels or doesn't feel attractive to them.

I like all skin colors, but I will admit I find a larger quantity of white guys attractive. It doesn't make me a racist, and I doubt there is a guy out there who equally finds all skin colors attractive. We all have our personal tastes in men. The difference to not being racist is keeping your options open.