only feel gay when drinking a lot

[rareboy]

In vino veritas.

 

[racer2438]

it's more you that you are in denial more than anything else..

 

[KaraBulut]

Wouldn't it be more accurate to say you feel gay but you only have the nerve to admit it to yourself when you've put back a few?

 

[Bazzzingaa]

I just find myself more horny

 

[TX-Beau]

Been down that road, it doesn't lead anywhere pretty.

What it means is that you need to man up and start putting your house in order.

 

[billybob109]

I used to be a big stoner but have not smoked in years. But when I did last year I felt gayer than usual my voice to me sounded gay and I got paranoid. And I was around people who know I'm gay so you are not alone I know what you mean by that.

 

[MoltenRock III]

ok, before I get any goofy answers, I am am aware of the psychobabble
about dis-inhibition

and it is likely accurate.

so, does that mean I need to get hammered to come out? I would say yes.

but what about after that?

I guess time will tell.

There is a reason why the gay community mentions the term "3 beer queer". Meaning; you need a chemical substance to lower your self-loathing walls to embrace your true self.

 

[KaraBulut]

thanks for all the replies, fellas. I have tried to come out exactly 4 times in my entire life.

Fucking is not the same thing as coming out.

Anyone can have sex with a guy. Coming out is a process that involves accepting yourself and ending the daily deceptions of the closet.

I was drinking. ... 4 times I ended up with a guy with no erection...

More than likely, you ended up with "liquor dick".

And the question is never whether you have an erection. The question is whether you enjoyed being naked with a man.

 

[Seasoned]

I met one guy in particular who thought he could only be sexual while drunk. He had no recollection of having met me, but had a phone number he couldn't place. Months later he called the number and we've been together ever since. That was 28 years ago and he's now been sober 28 years and had to learn anything he did drunk he was capable of doing sober, some of which he has chosen not to.

We all tend to forget that alcohol is an addictive drug for a per cent of the population. All I'm saying is that I'd advise you not to get to the point where there is a psychcological or physical dependence on a drug. It's not pretty, nor is it easy to break. Good luck to you.