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Opening a relationship?

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Hey Guys,

So here's the deal. My boyfriend and I of just over a year have been talking a little bit about opening our relationship over the summer. During the school year, we're right there with each other so there's not a whole lot of need but now we're just over 3 hours apart and don't really have the time or money to drive to see each other. Do you think this would help with the distance? Is it too early to do something like this? Would it complicate things more with the distance? Basically I want to know if it would be a good or bad idea and what other's experiences are with open relationships.

Any advice/input is greatly appreciated! :D
 
I think it would be a good idea if you both can handle it and you set rules for how open your openness is exactly. Such as not allowing actual dates or anything like that.
 
csrt8089 said:
Hey Guys,

So here's the deal. My boyfriend and I of just over a year have been talking a little bit about opening our relationship over the summer. During the school year, we're right there with each other so there's not a whole lot of need but now we're just over 3 hours apart and don't really have the time or money to drive to see each other. Do you think this would help with the distance? Is it too early to do something like this? Would it complicate things more with the distance? Basically I want to know if it would be a good or bad idea and what other's experiences are with open relationships.

Any advice/input is greatly appreciated! :D
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You can't see each other once or twice a month?

As to opening the relationship, set clear boundaries and make sure you both understand them. As long as neither of you is prone to jealousy, it might be worth trying out.

There are people that are much more knowledgeable on this topic than me though. Hopefully one of them will respond.
 
I never liked this idea because it's possible for one of you to fall in live with someone else. Cam or phone sex would be my idea.
 
I have never thought that an open relationship would make a good substitute when it is hard to find time together or because of distance or something.

I think open relationships are well suited to couples who are just really sexually adventurous and want to have that adventure together. But I don't think it is a good way to pass the time because you can't be with your guy. It's just my feeling but I actually think that's a recipe for disaster.
 
soreknees said:
I never liked this idea because it's possible for one of you to fall in live with someone else. Cam or phone sex would be my idea.
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Unfortunately, cam and phone sex are very poor substitutes for the real thing, IMO. But maybe it will work for the two of them. It's worth looking into.

bankside said:
I think open relationships are well suited to couples who are just really sexually adventurous and want to have that adventure together. But I don't think it is a good way to pass the time because you can't be with your guy. It's just my feeling but I actually think that's a recipe for disaster.
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I agree. I've always thought of open relationships as something you do because you want to and not something you do because there's no other option, if that makes sense.
 
I might be one of the few on JUB that would encourage you two to try this.

But I'd like to know if you've ever had another guy in your relationship, had a three way. Ever?

If so, were you both OK seeing the other have a good time with another guy. If you were, then maybe an open relationship is possible.

Otherwise, only a year into it and no history of alternative, free-wheeling lifestyles, I'd say no..
 
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