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Opinions on seeing a married man.

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You have two choices. Keep everything cool and keep your fuck body or Just stop it all. Your choice.
 
Not something i would contemplate doing. However, if the wife knows about you seeing, and getting shagged by her husband, then it is between the three of you.

Another member mentioned children. These are the victims in such situations.

I also agree that there can be no long lasting future in this. If he is cheating on his wife with you. What is stopping him cheating on you as well?

I only hope that you are both using condoms.
 
Boys, boys, boys. This is about the OP and not about trying to convince one another to accept our view point. Let's chill until the OP weighs in.
 
Another way to see it is that the husband finds himself in a marriage which is no longer satisfying to him. A third to a half of marriages end in divorce. Trying to hold on to a failing marriage is not a perfect solution. A discrete relationship on the side is one way to avoid divorce and may be the best of several evils.
 
I'd be willing to bet when she finds out what he's doing in her home and bed he's going to be getting a divorce. He should quit thinking with his dick and stop cheating on his wife. If he's unsatisfied with his marriage he needs to either work on trying to salvage it with counseling, therapy etc. or tell her what he's been up to and face the consequences for his actions. Some women are understanding most aren't but they don't deserve to be cheated on.

Steven
 
One half of the "affair" hardly makes space for an objective view of the circumstances that have been presented in the OP.

“Never presume yours is a better morality.”
― Graham Greene
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At 23 I got married was married 8 years have two sons was a closet case. in the 8th year I fell in love with a guy in my office. I immediately cam out to my wife and we divorced. My two sons call him dad my ex wife at first understandable now good fiends. A quick fuck is one thing but all parties have to be honest wit those they love!
 
Just understand your place with him.

He will never leave his wife for you. So, don't even think about asking him. You will just ruin what you have.

Don't fall in love with the guy. Keep your emotions under control. You will be asking for a lot of heartache if you do. He will dump you like a bad habit.

You are a fuck toy or friend with benefits. When the sex stops, so will all the favors he does for you.

You have no future with him. It is just a matter of time before he moves on to the next guy.
 
aaggii said:
It all depends if the wife knows and she´s ok with it. If so, go on. If not, put yourself in her situation. Of course, you are not the one who promised her to be faithful and all that and if you put an end to it, the husband will find another guy. My point is that when the wife figures it out (and she will), you´ll get involved in a very ugly situation.
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Great advice, I am gay, married to a lovely woman who has known since we met I was gay. We have raised three great kids and have had no drama in our marriage. I do play with married men and even once with those that have not told their wives, but my advice for each of them is exactly what you said. You are just exposing yourself to great drama...
 
offthewall14420 said:
Not everyone wants or needs to be a picket fence gay.
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Yeah, I'm not a "picket fence gay," and frankly this is about what kind of person one chooses to be. Personally I have no interest in being the kind of guy who justifies participating in hurting someone else. What kind of person does that? "Picket Fence?" yeah fuck that, how about callous and selfish and blithely dismissing the pain of other people. There are plenty of guys to fuck without fucking over someone else.

If the husband is going to cheat, I'll let you be the guy fucking his wife over, and go on about my very gay life, with no "pickets" at all.
 
Religion morality is really the problem. Their moral constructs and norms are forced upon others through social expectations and family. Men get married way too young, after living sheltered lives.

Have more than one or two encounters w/ these people and a no drama situation can quickly become nothing but drama... which can be fun to watch but not to be in the middle,

You should end it if you're talking about it on here. "Rumors only grow and we both know what we know."
 
offthewall14420 said:
Religion morality is really the problem. Their moral constructs and norms are forced upon others through social expectations and family. Men get married way too young, after living sheltered lives....
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Bullshit this has nothing to do with religion or it's "expectations" it's ONLY about who you choose to be as a decent (or not) human being.
 
Reminder- this is the support forum, so advice should be directed toward the OP.
 
Who am I to judge you? Just make sure no one involved has the wrong expectations, not in the last place yourself.
 
We should not judge each other - plenty of that already happens to us by not so friendly people.

It's not fair to declare NYCbottom a bad person just because he's had a fling w/ a married guy.
 
If you want only sex and friendship, then keep going. Who cares if he's married or not and what people say? Both of you're enjoying a lot. But if you start falling for him emotionally, then you should back off.
 
Hi I read your letter three times and I don't see a problem. You say "I am perfectly fine with the situation as it is", and if that is really the case, more power to you. Many men go through their entire lives without having the kind of incredibly hot sex you describe - you're lucky. Maybe it's because I am older (68) but I treasure my memories of times with men, married and single, when i was young.
It may not last forever, but in the meantime, enjoy!
 
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