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Ouch... Bottoming must be painful...

Saybrooke

Saybrooke

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Sooooooo.... I was with a friend the other night, and we were fooling around and after he rimmed me a lot, he started to finger me. I let him for a minute, but it hurt too much.... Then a few hours later, I had... Bathroom issues... So very embarrassing... >.<

Anyways, my question is, how can I learn to bottom, and is it always so painful?

Also, what advise can you give to make it easier for me?

And.... Will I always have... Bathroom issues afterward? >.<
 
I have always been clean by that I mean have used things like fleet disposable enemas. If the guy (and I have even had 3 straight guys fuck me) takes his time especially until he is in and plenty of lube I cum lik a girl in heat. When I BB with my partner the only bathroom issue is his cum deep inside me leaving afterwards.
 
Saybrooke said:
Sooooooo.... I was with a friend the other night, and we were fooling around and after he rimmed me a lot, he started to finger me. I let him for a minute, but it hurt too much.... Then a few hours later, I had... Bathroom issues... So very embarrassing... >.<

Anyways, my question is, how can I learn to bottom, and is it always so painful?

Also, what advise can you give to make it easier for me?

And.... Will I always have... Bathroom issues afterward? >.<
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How's ur ass view when being rimmed?
 
If you are going to bottom for the 1st time , then , the most comfortable position is on your side with your legs drawn towards your chin .
Just like when a Dr does a Rectal examination .

Another thing is to use plenty of lube , also remember that having Anal for the 1st time is our equivalent of getting the Hymen "busted" , no matter how gentle the guy is or how patient , the first few times are uncomfortable .
M10000 put it well when he mentioned the "mind-set" that you are in at the time , if you think "Christ" this is gonna hurt like a MF , then your arse will tighten up , also remember that you have two circles of muscle to penetrate before you are "fully" in .

Lots of guys start of by using their finger , then a couple , then.................:sex:
Plus some guys are just not versatile at all , for whatever reason , another huge plus is if you have an emotional attachment towards the guy .
Especially the 1st time , it really does help to put you at ease if you know that he will not just "go at it" like a bull in a china shop.............:-)
 
Like the others say buy a dildo and take your time getting your hole used to it.
 
When you say it "hurt", do you mean it felt like your hole was getting stretched out too much? Or was it burning/pressure/ feeling like "I gotta get this out of me? If it's either of these, try more (or a different) lube, start small, and warm up for awhile. Vibrating plugs are good for relaxing your sphincter area.

These were all issues I had when I first started with toys. A much more difficult issue I've had is that, when I start going vigorously back-and-forth, the "I need to shit" feeling gets overwhelming and I can't get any pleasure. What's helped for me is (1) practice with oversized toys, so that a normal cock feels good. Its taken me a year of practice on my own to work up to some*large* toys. (2) this may be controversial, but a little help from Analeze or other "substances" helps blunt that "digestive" sensation so I can enjoy the prostate pressure, etc. I don't suggest Analeze. Personally, a prescription muscle relaxer works great for me. It won't hide any pain like burning, overstretching, which is good cause you dont wanna accidentally tear anything. I don't know if it even effects the anal sphincter muscles directly, but it let's me really enjoy the sensations without discomfort. Very mild; it's not like a sedative or codeine or anything. When I take it, the same pressure sensations that I might experience as discomfort/needing to shit, are instead experienced as pleasure.
 
The moment someone sticks a finger up my ass I get really tight. Maybe be cause of bad experience. Some guys are too rough and also have long fingernails.

My first time bottoming was very enjoyable and very little discomfort. I didn't use anything other than a lot of lube and I had never used a dildo

I guess I'm just one of those naturals.
 
I also hate getting fingered but I love getting fucked. A large cock feels great where a relatively tiny finger hurts. Strange I know, but its true :lol:
 
desertboi said:
I also hate getting fingered but I love getting fucked. A large cock feels great where a relatively tiny finger hurts. Strange I know, but its true :lol:
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Omg, me too. But I figured out that it's got something to do with how rough most people's fingers are/length of finger nails. This is gonna sound weird, but I fingered myself once wearing dishwashing gloves and it was *amazing*. Latex gloves would work too (i.e. ever had a prostate exam at the doctor's office? It feels amazing). There's no better way to loosen your hole up. I was in the same boat--loved watching guys get fingered but could never do it to myself. But latex gloves solved that problem!
 
Are you sure you go in the right direction?

The first time I got a toy I turned it the wrong way lol
 
Coward92 said:
I feel NOTHING when my prostate is being stimulated. Am I doing it wrong?
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The first couple times I tried it, I didn't feel anything -- except an overwhelming urge to pee lol. Do you get that at least? If not then you may be in the wrong spot.

It took me a lot of practice (I mean, dozens of times) before I learned to translate that physical sensation into sexual arousal. I would've just given up, but the orgasms I got were so unbelievable, there was no denying something special about prostate stimulation. I'm glad I stuck with it.

Remember to press on the same side of your hole as the penis is (that may sound stupid, but I made that mistake once). I also figured out that my P-spot was further in than I originally thought--I can't reach it very well when I'm fingering myself, so I use a toy. Aneros Helix is the gold standard, for a reason. http://www.aneros.com/. Not cheap but I think it's money well-spent. Get a size that's smaller than what you might normally stick up your ass; it's better for it to be loose so it can move around some.
 
It's a must to try one of these:

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Yup. It's also designed to get stuck (you have to relax a lot and slowly pull it out) so no need to worry about it slipping out in your daily activities.
 
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