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Out of my league?

Georgiadude

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Hello boys,

I have a question. Is there such a thing as being out of your league. In the dating/relationship department specifically.

Let me explain. A couple of weeks ago I was fortunate enough to meet a guy. He was 21 at the time. He turned 22 on Sunday. We hit it off from the beginning. We talk like we've known each other for years. He's sweet, honest, tall, dark and handsome. He's bi and isn't out. I don't have any problem with that. I believe everyone should come out when they are ready. I'm 42. 5' 7" 165. Keep my hair buzz cut. blue eyes and glasses. I'm average. Now the interesting part. He's modeled for Abercrombie & Fitch (hes been on some of their bags) and Paris Hilton. He's smokin hot. I know people can be attracted to anyone and there is so much more to a relationship than looks. In fact I find people that are only interested in looks kinda shallow.

Honestly I don't think there really is such a thing as being "out of your league". I think people can meet and fall for each other for a variety of reasons but I heard someone use that phrase the other day and it got me thinking. Is there such a thing? I'm interested in what you think.

Please keep this thread on topic and polite. I'm interested in good conversation not fights and attitudes.

thanks
Steven.
 
Nope there is no such thing. Stop applying some kind of "class-system" to guys! You would only represent "hotness" or whatever you chose to determine the league as defined by the masses. BUT everybody has a different taste, and usually people more often than not will disagree with the masses in one or more points. The bigger problem with guys like you describe is that they are often a bit "full of themselves" and arrogant because so many people dig the model kind of guy.
I often got a guy that others would say was "out of my league" :) But you know what? I also got a guy who at the beginning was "oh my god, i can't believe I'm here, I never thought a guy like you would ever do anything with a guy like me". And he even repeated this again! Agh .. people with a low self-confidence .. such a turn-off :(
If he is talking with you, and you are enjoying your time - obviously there is something that he likes in you, so screw the idea about being no match for him :)
 
IF there is something like being out of your leage, then it has to do with being in another social class. In this case it's just looks... I'd say go for it. But if you feel it won't work out, choose for staying friends rather than trying anyway.

Good luck and I'm sure you'll win him over :)
 
How do you know he's bi if he's not out?

Anyone you think is out of your league, is out of your league by definition.
 
Everybody's in your league. That doesn't mean you'll get him, but it means you can certainly give it a go.

Lex
 
I only get with guys you would think would be 'out of my league'. Personality goes aloooooong way. And everyone has certain thing they like, and those brains go in the most random people. So you get a Brad Pitt lookin guy who is a chubby chaser and stuff like that. If a guy likes you, don't over-analyze!
 
Georgiadude said:
Hello boys,

I have a question. Is there such a thing as being out of your league. In the dating/relationship department specifically.

Let me explain. A couple of weeks ago I was fortunate enough to meet a guy. He was 21 at the time. He turned 22 on Sunday. We hit it off from the beginning. We talk like we've known each other for years. He's sweet, honest, tall, dark and handsome. He's bi and isn't out. I don't have any problem with that. I believe everyone should come out when they are ready. I'm 42. 5' 7" 165. Keep my hair buzz cut. blue eyes and glasses. I'm average. Now the interesting part. He's modeled for Abercrombie & Fitch (hes been on some of their bags) and Paris Hilton. He's smokin hot. I know people can be attracted to anyone and there is so much more to a relationship than looks. In fact I find people that are only interested in looks kinda shallow.

Honestly I don't think there really is such a thing as being "out of your league". I think people can meet and fall for each other for a variety of reasons but I heard someone use that phrase the other day and it got me thinking. Is there such a thing? I'm interested in what you think.

Please keep this thread on topic and polite. I'm interested in good conversation not fights and attitudes.

thanks
Steven.
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but he is "smokin hot". You are looking of "hot too".
just curious thats all. :)
 
I used to think there was such a thing as being in or out of someone's league, but I've come to learn differently. I thought I was out of my partner's league when we first met--there was no way this buff hot stud would go for an average, confused closet case. But, I was wrong.

Everyone is someone else's type. It's great when the two spot each other and have a chance to let something blossom. If you're interested in him, and vice-versa, go with it and let whatever happens happen. Don't question why, just let it happen.

This is a great story. I hope it works out for you. Good luck!
 
Hi guys

thanks for taking the time to read and reply to my thread.


I think I may have made things a bit confusing in my original post. When I first met him I thought I was WAY out of my league. Before I even Knew about the modeling. I couldn't understand why this young, very hot guy would be interested in someone like me. I don't have a lot of money, I don't have a fancy car or a big house. I'm not hideous but I'm not a model either. That kind of stuff. I was talking with my mom and I told her all about him. I said "I don't know what he see's in me but I really enjoy being with him." She said "he obviously is comfortable around you, he can talk to you about things he isn't able to talk to others about. He can be himself. He likes you for who you are." Thats when it started to make sense to me. I was wrong. There isn't a league. Most of us are looking for someone that fits. Of course there is a physical aspect to it but not everyone is looking for a model. I guarantee you I am not a model. He can be open with me and tell me anything. He can be himself and not have to worry that Im offended by him. That must be very comforting and mean a lot to him. The next day I was at work and someone used that phrase "she's way out of her league" and it got me thinking. I wanted to know what you guys think of the phrase and if you feel there is a league. I'm not offended if you think there is. It's just an interesting question.

We have had sex several times and it was amazing. He's coming over for steaks and beer tomorrow evening. I'm comfortable with the way things are. I know that someday he may decide to move on and it will be sad. However, I will have gotten to spend time with someone I would never have thought would be interested in me. Without knowing it he has taught me a wonderful thing.

I hope that makes sense. It's late and I'm very tired.

Steven.
 
well no one is really out of anyone's league.
He is comfortable around you and thats a good thing.

Have a great time tomorrow. Enjoy him while you can. ;)
 
It sounds wonderful.

Just keep in mind that his friends/coworkers may think you're out of his league. Be prepared for occasional comments that you may overhear.
 
Thanks for the replies and words of advice.

I no longer feel that way btw. i really dont. After speaking with my mom and some friends I'm very comfortable with things the way they are. I'm just going to enjoy it for how ever long it lasts.

I just wanted to know what you guys thought of the phrase and if you have ever either felt that way or been told that you weren't in someones league.


hope to hear from more of you.

Steven.
 
no one is out of anyone's league. that being said, it'd be smart not to get too head over heels over him... just because he's a model. take it casual
 
Just think what we say whenever we see a couple that doesn't match. He must be really good in bed :)
 
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