Outing someone as a revenge

[SellMeCandy]

Don't respond until you've truly read everything. I'm absolutely against outing myself but I'm so tempted to do so with this particular guy. Well, more than tempted, I'm halfway done with the plan.

The guy is the lowest human being I've ever met. Insensitive, liar, cheater. Truly worthless. The whole baggage got to me. He never apologized or showed ANY type of remorse. Most of you probably think "that's just your side of the story" but I never hurt him on any level at all, there is no other side to it. I'm currently being ignored because I found out he was cheating. How ridiculous is that? Not only am I not getting an apology, I'm out of the way . Hell he never gave a damn... he just called me when he needed sex and even then he would complain about it. I was stupid too but that's not an excuse.

I'm seriously considering outing this douche. I have no doubt at all he deserves it. But because I'm WAY too nice, I'm thinking "what if his parents get a heart attack or something"... I never even met them but you know. I'm also not sure about Karma (even though he wouldn't know I outedhim). That's really the only reason I'm asking you guys. Whether he deserves it or not is not even a question

Can't think of any other revenge and I kinda want to get it out of my system.

 

[KaraBulut]

I'm seriously considering outing this douche. I have no doubt at all he deserves it. But because I'm WAY too nice...

Can't think of any other revenge and I kinda want to get it out of my system.

Outing him would make you a douche, too.

Is that where you want to be?

 

[alley]

Yeah, I agree with KaraBulut. Cut the guy out of your life and move on. If he's so bad then you should not give him another moments thought.

 

[Ramindra]

No! No! No! Two wrongs don't make a right. Whatever the cause of the breakdown of an interpersonal relationship, it is not sufficient reason for you to take your proposed course of action. Revenge? No, it sounds more like pure unadulterated, nasty spite. To out this person may make you feel good for a day or two, but you will live to regret it. He may live in the gutter - don't get into the dirt and slime of the gutter yourself!

 

[SellMeCandy]

I knew you guys would tell me how I should take the high road and how I should be above revenge, but honestly those are just pretty words as I see it. Taking the high road was never satisfying to me. It's more harmful to keep the hate inside. It's not like I planned to kill him, just simply make him feel uneasy and a little hateful. Have him on the same team.

Another concern of mine is that I'll be doing him a favor because I don't think this loser plans to ever come out. However, even if they accepted him and acted the same right away (unlikely, right?) then he would still always wonder who did it and live with some baggage. I'm not even particulary angry right now, I wasn't upset when I thought of the idea. This whole thing isn't that fresh.

I sound like such an asshole. Maybe I shouldn't have started this thread. Still cool to hear other opinions although that's exactly what I expected to hear... I'll just have to figure it out.

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

Wouldn't outing him lead to your own death?

 

[SellMeCandy]

Wouldn't outing him lead to your own death?

Uh... huh?

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

Wouldn't he kill you?

 

[JNewYork]

Revenge is not sweet. It consumes you.

There's an old saying, Those who plan revenge better dig TWO graves.

Another: Hatred and anger does more damage to the vessel in which it is stored than to the one onto which it is poured.

Do what you want. But revenge does not make you feel better. It consumes you.

Be thankful he is ignoring you. You surely don't want him to pay attention to you if he's cheated, do you?

Your ego is hurt. Give it time. In the not too distant future you won't have any revenge fantasies about him and you'll be glad that you did not seek revenge when you were angry.

 

[SellMeCandy]

Are you trying to be funny? You're failing hard if so.

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

He might do something to you that's even worse.

 

[SellMeCandy]

Revenge is not sweet. It consumes you.

There's an old saying, Those who plan revenge better dig TWO graves.

Another: Hatred and anger does more damage to the vessel in which it is stored than to the one onto which it is poured.

Do what you want. But revenge does not make you feel better. It consumes you.

Be thankful he is ignoring you. You surely don't want him to pay attention to you if he's cheated, do you?

Your ego is hurt. Give it time. In the not too distant future you won't have any revenge fantasies about him and you'll be glad that you did not seek revenge when you were angry.

I never contacted him after I found out what a douche he was. He ignored me before that and even though he knew I knew, he never contacted me at all. And he's just fine.

Anyway, maybe I should give it time and see if I still care enough to do it in a while.

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

If I was trying to be funny I guess I failed.

 

[SellMeCandy]

He might do something to you that's even worse.

That made me laugh. He's not a threat at all. Either way, he wouldn't know who did it and that's actually part of the possible awesomeness. Wouldn't it be so annoying not knowing how you were outed?

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

Ooh you could have sex with him, film it and then broadcast it online.

 

[SellMeCandy]

Who said I didn't have something similar already?

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

I do not understand.

 

[SellMeCandy]

I do not understand.

Aww, that's okay.

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

I wanted this guy to deprive me of my cherry but he said "I've got a boyfriend" and then proceeded to act like a slut and fuck around with lods of hot guys (or not) so I thought "I'm not having that" and I proceeded to drop non too subtle hints about his true identity.

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

Aww, that's okay.

You can tell me. I speak Fag. Fluently. PM me.