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About me: College student, well-off, decently social and attractive, no outcast or loner or strange. Fit in and etc. Mostly accepted sexuality, out to friends and family.

Issue: Well like a lot of things I equated sex with money, so I paid for many many sexual encounters, in fact all but one. Meaning I hired about a dozen escorts who were my age, some more than once. I guess I did it because I was too scared to meet guys any other way + low self esteem of some sort.

As such the experiences taught me about the acts of sex but lacked any of the meaning or significance! I've never had "great sex" obviously. For the record I am clean and never did anything unsafe, and I had the financial means.

I'm not against paying for it, for example if you're old and lust after twinks or you're a busy multimillionaire exec who wants a quickie I completely get it.

But a 20 year old college student doesn't need to. I want to develop relationships with guys normally and like anyone else my age. Whether it's an occasional fuckbuddy or a full on relationship.

So now that I want to transition into the normal sexual/dating world how do I go about doing it? I'm not closeted but nobody suspects unless I tell them. I'm also not terribly picky except that they are close to my age, which rules out bathhouses and bathrooms..

Should I go to a gay club? alone? I have female friends I can go with, but alone seems to increase likelihood of meeting someone?

basically I'm ready to leave this behind, not ashamed of it, but ready to just be a normal gay college guy.
 
Does your college have a gay student union? If so, they probably have a "welcome/getting to know you" sort of thing at least once a month. Go, meet some more gay students.

Lex
 
You can always try the net? plenty of guys here lol
 
Do yourself a huge favor and lose your girlfriends, if your are taking a plunge into manhunt. (No pun intended.)

Nope. There are young guys in spas and baths, too. Not in all of them but some are actually catering for them. (Think of Watergarden in San Jose, CA or even Steamworks at Berkeley, CA.) Get going and gather good and reliable intelligence.

Sure, give it a try with your college LGTB chapter. Admittedly, this has never worked for me, as I am totally not into the activist types and all that talk. But it has worked for the others.

Get the web working for you. Go to the free sites as these tend to attract more traffic from the college age folks.

Arm yourself with loads and loads of patience. More often than not, things will work out with amazing efficiency. At times, however, you'll have to remember that the patience is a major virtue.

The beauty of 'paid love' is that pretty much everything happens according to your scenario, at least, mostly so. That's why you are paying for it.

Going 'the usual way' requires that you should adjust your attitude, too. Tricks, hook-ups, buddies and BFs are not your 'paid performers' but equal partners, who are in it for their own bit of fun, too.

I can't think of anything better in life than being reasonably comfortable and secure at your college age. (Been there and done that - amazing feel!) Practically everything works your way all the time. Yet, you want to be very careful about the show & display of it all. Make sure that it stays both powerful and very subtle at the same time. Why? You do not want a huge set of useless followers and false admirers, who are there to milk you for small favors. But you want to make sure that all the qualified dudes understand that you come in a nice package, too.

Use absolutely every ace you have.

SC
 
Excellent Advice, thanks Silver. The best thing about paid sex is they do what you want to do. I always ran the show. So with legit sex, I would have to practically pretend I'm a virgin and new to it, because really, I don't know what it's like in an equal playing field.

Paid sex also yields models and porn stars and strippers (fantasy sex) but I've come to find that average looks and great personality beats some sleazy arrogant porn star. I might come back to it in later years just not now.

What sites are good to meet other college aged guys? Thanks for all your suggestions.
 
Figure out what you have and want to offer.

Figure out what you expect, honestly deserve, and want to receive.
 
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