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People with boyfriends: How do you 'sort out' jerking off alone?

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How do you guys handle the fact that some of you Jerk off when alone?

Do you talk about it? not mention it? I'm having problems justifying the fact that my BF does it and I don't....

It's a big issue for me really, how do you guys handle it?

We do it together OCCASIONALLY, and that's fine.. but I mean when you are alone..
 
with my ex I didn't really talk about it. but we both knew we were doing it alone (we almost only saw each other on the weekends). my current bf doesn't JO since we're together, he thinks it is betraying me with himself. although i think that's kinda cute, i said him that i don't mind in that case of "betrayal", but he still doesn't want to. he knows i occasionally do, doesn't really like it, but is ok with it ;)
 
I think it is normal for guys to jerk off alone in relationships. Its a natural thing and it much better than him cheating on you.
 
The guy I am dating right now I know jerks off almost every day, and that is because he his an extremely horny guy. I on the other hand (pun intended?) do not jerk off as often for two reasons: 1. My schedule makes me forget to make time sometimes (if that makes sense) - unless I get really worked up and 2. I kinda like to think that I am saving it all for him to release when we get together, which is currently on weekends only.

We readily talk about our jerk off sessions and readily admit that we recall our physical encounters while we do it. So, I would not be ashamed into thinking that it is a form of cheating. It is a natural and physical male response -- I would worry however, when the need to do it just goes away! In other words, use it or lose it! *|*
 
Well, I’m in a 6 year relationship and I jerk-off regularly and I know that he does as well. I actually caught him once literally with his pants around his ankles. He pulled them up the second he heard the bedroom door open (I was sleeping and the cat wasn’t, so I kick the cat out of the bedroom). It was all I could do not to die laughing when I saw him but as soon as I closed the door, I died laughing. We never talked about that incident nor do we talk about our solo masturbation. We have radically different schedules and find it difficult having sex (together) regularly, so masturbation eases the wait (so to speak). I think it’s normal: I was jerking off way before I had sex and I do not see what is wrong to jerk off while you’re in a relationship. I think it is normal and healthy to do so. Some fantasies you do not necessarily want to come true, so masturbation helps in that regard. Now, if you would rather masturbate yourself than have sex with your partner, I do not think that the problem lies with masturbation. But that’s just me…
 
Maybe it's because we don't live together that we don't mind talking about JO when the other isn't around.

I can't help but imagine that it would be normal for guys to JO even in a relationship - what are the chances that both your motors would run at the same speeed?
 
I dont see the promblem w/it. my b/f and I j/o together and alone sll the time. if we are alone on one of us comes home we just leave each other alone or we join in. but we are in true trust and we communicate very well. so there is no insecurity issues. but it also helps that we have been together this coming friday the 10th. for 22 YEARS NOW..
 
We're gay men...of course we both jerk off and know about it. We still have have enough for each other too! :D
 
Billy, not long ago you started a thread about your bf and his watching porn. You looked in his history and deleted it. Now, you are having problems with him masturbating by himself. I think you have serious problems with jealousy and insecurity. This is not his problem, it is yours. You need the kind of help that guys on a gay website probably cannot give you.
Seriously, man, stop worrying about your bf and find out why you have so many issues with trust. In the earlier thread you said he wouldn't talk about it and denied it all. Obviously, communication is lacking in your relationship.

If I were going to bet on this, I would say you are in danger of ruining what you have with him. Do you have friends in your life with whom you can confide? Get professional help is your best bet. Good luck.
 
Oh get real. This is a problem men and women have because their sexuality is somewhat different. Two guys surely understand the need to wack it. I get a nut 3 times a day every day no matter how busy I am. I do lay off it on days when I know I will do my boy friend that night, but only because it makes me shoot like a porn star. It's my dick and I'll do what I want with it.*|*
 
My BF and I both do it alone on our own time...we've been together for going on 12 years!! Honestly, there is something sexy about it if you think about it...wondering when he does it, how he does it (technique, etc)...really gets me turned on!! I say go for it and encourage him to do it...it also helps put us at ease if one or the other doesn't want to go at it sometimes...yes there are those moments boys!!
 
Brad - how right you are. I do not understand how people complicate all of life's various functions. Some times you simply need to be by yourself to appreciate all the times when you are together.

I just do not have the time to worry about such crap.
 
My partner works shifts - a mix of days, nights and weekends so we both have time at home alone for a little "private ritual"

*|*
 
My partner and I also wank as we need to. Not everyday but when the need arises and hes not there, then their is no other option! Why not? It is better than being unfaithful, so I don't really see an issue.
 
"Hey babe... I'm gonna go jack off.. wanna join me?"

"Naw, I'm almost done with this chapter.. you go ahead".
 
A quote from one of my physics profs (quite a guy):

"90% of men masturbate. The other 10% are a bunch o' liars"

I don't see why it would be a problem.
 
Aint nothin gonna keep me from dumping my load. They can be there when I do it, help me, or deal with it.

I had some friends when in relationships wouldn't toss off. It was their understanding that it was the others responsibility to take care of it. And they wonder why they're single.
 
I think if you have read all the above posts and still are worried about it you should read again the quote below and act on it.
I wish you well. (*8*)

sixthson said:
Billy, not long ago you started a thread about your bf and his watching porn. You looked in his history and deleted it. Now, you are having problems with him masturbating by himself. I think you have serious problems with jealousy and insecurity. This is not his problem, it is yours. You need the kind of help that guys on a gay website probably cannot give you.
Seriously, man, stop worrying about your bf and find out why you have so many issues with trust. In the earlier thread you said he wouldn't talk about it and denied it all. Obviously, communication is lacking in your relationship.

If I were going to bet on this, I would say you are in danger of ruining what you have with him. Do you have friends in your life with whom you can confide? Get professional help is your best bet. Good luck.
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I think its normal, i know if i had a partner i wouldn't really care, probably join them if they didn't mind, or just watch lol, and i hope they would feel the same way about me doing it.

The only time it would become a problem is if we stoped having sex yet i knew they were still doing it.

I think you need time alone to just play with youself without thinking about pleasing someone else as well if that makes sence.
 
I thinkw e both assumed we'd be jacking off, though when he would find me jacking off he'd either watch or make it a hand job.
 
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