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Personal Goals for Next Summer

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^Awesome post, Lex. Very informing.

Y'know what? I guess I need to start where I am and not look to having a "ripped" body as the 'be-all, end-all' of getting noticed. Nonetheless, I will start working out for personal fitness reasons.

Thanks for all your advice!
 
I'm all for a regular workout plan and having a ripped body would be nice. I also like that you are looking at the gym as a socialization opportunity.

I think the concern that many have here is that you seem to have a case of "only if". As in "only if I had a ripped body I would get the guy", and "only if I had the best clothes I would get the guy". My experience is that when people are in the "only if" mode, as soon as they solve one issue, they find another issue. If you get the ripped body and cool clothes, then you will feel that you need a better car, more money, your nose is too big, etc. You need to understand that you are worthy of having a partner just the way you are. Placing these goals are a way of putting obstacles in your way of finding a boyfriend. There is no reason for you not to seek out a boyfriend while you are working on these goals.

There is nothing wrong with you goals (except the tattoo), but I just want to make sure your expectations are realistic. Tattoo's are a major turn off for me and they are permanent. I wonder how many people think about how bad they will look when they get older.
 
Don't think having a decent body and a full closet of clothes will end your problems (hasn't ended mine).

If I made a list, it would include: "learn to hold an engaging conversation with anyone"
 
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