Personals ads

[J_Nite]

If you have ever put out a personals ad on a website, you are probably familiar with this. It should be very simple, you say what you are looking for, tell a little about yourself and maybe post a pic as well. But it can be funny the kind of responses you get back. Sometimes you say "and please dont be _____" or "no ____", or something of that nature, and those people you wanted to avoid are the types who respond. Another funny thing I noticed (which is actually kinda scary) is the downright lying that occurs. A person responds saying that they are 25, and actually look 40. C'mon, you arent fooling anyone with that. My question is: why do people actually waste their time to reply to someone with false information? or why do people respond to ads when they are clearly not the type the other person is looking for?
Just another question: why do people try to respond to ads to someone in another state? Do they really think the other person is gonna drive hours just for a hook up?

These are just my observations about personals ads.

 

[dj415]

The one and only time I met up with a guy through a personal ad it turned out to be a disappointment, to say the least.

He said he had a job in high tech, was in law school, and was an expert skier. The truth was he was unemployed, not in school, and had skied once. It also became clear he was a tweaker.

That was enough for me to give up trying to meet someone through an ad.

 

[ivyguy24]

I've met a guy from online before....the key is to be selective. And definitely chat a couple times before meeting, that way it's possible to make sure what they're saying is consistant.

I've had good experience with it, but then again I was very careful and selective. I met him at a busy cafe type restaurant and then hung out for a while, then eventually made our way back to my place.

I also find it helpful if someone has a realistic profile....that guy that says he's a bodybuilder with 9" and going to medical school in the fall, could be for real, but probe around to see if the guy is realistic. It makes me feel a lot more comfortable if someone shares something that might not be totally ideal...

 

[J_Nite]

I'm not talking about embellishments or cock size, I mean real lies. It just seems to be a habit for men who (at the very least) look like they are in their mid to late forties to try to pass themselves off as 25. I know people want to use the foot-in-the-door technique, but after someone finds out about a lie (Especially if its a big one), they are risking getting dumped for not being honest. And it's a total waste of time to both people then. My advice: be honest, and if you dont match someone else's type then move on.

 

[Just_Believe18]

I find it funny when "Tops" only have pictures of their butts while "Bottoms" show off their dicks.

And typically:
"I don't usually hook-up" = I'm a big slut and do it all the time.

 

[J_Nite]

And typically:
"I don't usually hook-up" = I'm a big slut and do it all the time.[/QUOTE]

I guess I would have to be the exception to that rule. I am not into hook ups or casual sex, I'm only looking for a real relationship. But it's funny that you said that, because I put on mine that I am not looking to hook up and I get tons of those "lets get together 2nite for sum fun". I guess this is some new lingo that I wasnt aware of.

 

[J_Nite]

It gets bothersome, and makes you look bad when you have to go back and put a big disclaimer at the bottom saying what you want and telling others to not reply if they arent your type. I hate having to do things like that because it makes me seem like i am showing the wrong sort of attitude, but it just seems like you have to be somewhat demanding (and selective) of what you want.

 

[Just_Believe18]

I have to do a disclaimer too. I've gotten psychos who think I'm obligated to get with them just because my profile didn't say they weren't my type.

One of my biggest pet peeves are bathroom pictures where the guy takes a digital photo of himself in front of an ABSOLUTELY FILTHY MIRROR. Is it so hard to ask for a little Windex and a paper towell BEFORE taking the picture?

I think it says a lot about a guy's hygiene and cleanliness.

 

[J_Nite]

To add to a pet peeve, it bothers me when people send pics of themselves in sexual positions yet they never show their face. It's kinda funny because these people dont really have nice bodies to begin with and it seems like they are trying to show off their best feature. Like if you are going to meet up with one of these people you must look for what their ass looks like because you dont have a face picture to identify them with. It's annoying.

 

[loppyears]

Do they really think the other person is gonna drive hours just for a hook up?

Some of them ARE like that, which is a bit shocking. I tried the ad thing for a couple of months but it doesn't really work for me. You just get the same type of guys looking for one thing. Guys who act geniune but then you find out they just want you for your ass, are the worst kind.

One tiny thing that annoys me is you can't really be dirty and serious at the same time. Say if said I wanted a proper relationship and no hook ups but mentioned I liked giving bj's, you get a bunch of guys just wanting you to give them a bj. Aren't I allowed to be dirty in a serious relationship?

 

[J_Nite]

I think it seems implied that if you are serious in a relationship, that some aspect of it is going to be dirty. But i dont say anything dirty in an ad because that just seems to get the really dirty people bothering you. What kinda pisses me off is when you clearly state "no hook ups or casual sex" and you get those people who still just send emails asking to "blo u and go". What the hell is wrong with people?
Another classic is when you tell people "your pic get mine" and they dont send any. It may be superficial, but i'm not going to go meet someone (even for a coffee or something) without seeing a pic first.