Perving On Straight Guys - Where Is Your Line?

[Dastarr]

Ok, another bizarre line of questioning from me, but something Ive been wondering.

When looking at naked/semi naked straight guys, where do you draw your personal line at how far you let the fantasy go?

It might sound ridiculous to some and everyones different, but I almost feel like I should give them a little bit of respect and not think of them that way, cause nothings ever gonna happen and I find sometimes I just like to look at them in that Admiring way, I can switch that other side off a lot of the time.

What do you reckon? I know theres also that other standard where you think 'Well straight women find some gay guys sexually attractive even though they can never have them', or even anyone finding a married person gets them hot under the collar at times so long as to never act on that.

So Its hard to figure out for yourself whether its ok as long as you understand its just a fantasy and the boundaries of reality with some of these guys in a 'the things im doing to you in my mind right now, that can only happen here on occasion' way, or whether you should just stick to looking at them in an 'admiring their beauty' kinda way and respect that you'd never get them in a million years, so why fantasize about it way, especially in the married example, if you keep looking/thinking at them that way, it might just go too far for some of us one day or something.

For some sexual attraction/admiration Physical Beauty may be closer or even basically one and the same as well, so it blurs the lines a bit. I dunno.

Just something I'm wondering at the moment as I get more comfortable with myself, a lot of people here may think i'm nuts, but some of us do have a little bit of thought about the ethics of this topic and just want to hear some other's opinions.

If anyone understands what im getting at, Id love to hear some of your thoughts. Thanks guys.

 

[soccerboy029]

If it's on the internet, as far as porn goes, I'll look at all guys equally.

In real life, I "impose" a huge personal space bubble on all my straight guy friends to make sure that nothing is taken as coming on. As the friendship progresses, the bubble diminishes, but it's still a straight guy and therefore nothing is ever done to make it seem like I expect anything more [cause i don't]

 

[Bermudagiant]

For me personally I would say it is about control of one self.

I have friends that are straight that I am attracted to. Gay friends too. I sometimes would see them in states on undress. Like at the beach , or changing to go out.

If they are straight I know of their not wanting anything sexual, and if their gay and have not shown a attraction to me then I know that they are not to be bothered.

I admire what they have but do not react to them in a sexual way as to make them uncomfortable.

As far as fantasies go I pick all sorts of people in my daily life to use in my fantasy. I know this is not reality and do not react to them in this way when we are hanging out in real life.

Theres my line ... I cross the lines in fantasies...not reality.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Nope, no cutoff line.

I'll try not to think too hard about them if they're much younger than me, but that's about it. I mean, it's just a fantasy for the most part. And friends are obviously off-limits anyway.

-d-

 

[SuperPsyze]

It's kinda funny how it works for me. Personally, guys can be physically attractive, but I only really start getting interested if they have good personalities. I like guys who have a carefree nature and a good personality.

So basically I really only get flirty with guys who wouldn't really make a big deal and maybe play along just for laughs.

 

[Kennylingus]

I think a lot of gay guys completely cross a serious line with this. I saw a topic here the other day that was all about sneaking wiffs of straight guy's asses. Besides yuck, that's sexual harrasment.
I have some gay "friends" who will also primarily focus on trying to sleep with drunk straight guys and they're always "accidentally" bumping into guys. OP said the exact right word, it's about respect. Basic human respect, and anyone who doesn't give that to people is scum to me. Have some self control.

 

[Corny]

I'll look at anything that they are willing to show
But I'd never make a move. My fantasy might image the one or the other thing - but that's not bothering anybody

 

[mydrew1]

I don't need to draw a line, thankfully my male friends are the nice physical type. So I get to hug them alot, the backslapping and handshakes, etc. No one I've had crushes on ever became my friends so it's not really been a problem

 

[Nomenclature]

I completely respect a straight man's boundaries, and know that he would never want to have gay sex. I've noticed that a lot of straight guys were a bit apprehensive with me at first, but once they saw that I didn't want to molest them, they were pretty cool around me.

I don't know, I just think that straight guys are wrong to even bother with most of the time; If you make them question their sexuality, it creates a lot of shit.