The Original Gay Porn Community - Free Gay Movies and Photos, Gay Porn Site Reviews and Adult Gay Forums

  • Welcome To Just Us Boys - The World's Largest Gay Message Board Community

    In order to comply with recent US Supreme Court rulings regarding adult content, we will be making changes in the future to require that you log into your account to view adult content on the site.
    If you do not have an account, please register.
    REGISTER HERE - 100% FREE / We Will Never Sell Your Info

    To register, turn off your VPN; you can re-enable the VPN after registration. You must maintain an active email address on your account: disposable email addresses cannot be used to register.

  • Hi Guest - Did you know?
    Hot Topics is a Safe for Work (SFW) forum.

On Topic Discussion Pining

Well, now your time away makes sense. Thank you for being tranparent with us. I still think there are those lurkers here who can benefit from the honesty some bring here.

Terribly sorry to hear of you two parting ways.

Yes, I've known what you are describing, and for a long time, although it does fade substantially after the first few months. My best friend in college dropped me like a rock when he found out I loved him. It was too painful for years and years after to even think on it directly. I resented those around me who were finding love so easily, too.

I join your other friends here in urging you to get counseling very soon, and then creating a deliberate plan to get you active and out there socially, if not romantically, to have your heart full of other love from platonic friends and family. It will see you through.

You're a great guy -- handsome as fuck, witty, and talented. You don't need to be Stewart Smalley to see that. Your partner's life arc may simply take him to a different place than y'all were going together, and he may have to go there to satisfy his own destiny.

I envy those of you with long-term partners, even when they do not last forever. Some of us have had to make it on our own for our whole lives.

And I specifically envy your ex. :kiss:
 
NotHardUp1 said:
Well, now your time away makes sense. Thank you for being tranparent with us. I still think there are those lurkers here who can benefit from the honesty some bring here.

Terribly sorry to hear of you two parting ways.

Yes, I've known what you are describing, and for a long time, although it does fade substantially after the first few months. My best friend in college dropped me like a rock when he found out I loved him. It was too painful for years and years after to even think on it directly. I resented those around me who were finding love so easily, too.

I join your other friends here in urging you to get counseling very soon, and then creating a deliberate plan to get you active and out there socially, if not romantically, to have your heart full of other love from platonic friends and family. It will see you through.

You're a great guy -- handsome as fuck, witty, and talented. You don't need to be Stewart Smalley to see that. Your partner's life arc may simply take him to a different place than y'all were going together, and he may have to go there to satisfy his own destiny.

I envy those of you with long-term partners, even when they do not last forever. Some of us have had to make it on our own for our whole lives.

And I specifically envy your ex. :kiss:
Click to expand...
Damn. Thanks everyone. I certainly do feel a little better today. What a difference a day makes....24 little hours.

J you certainly know how to make a guy feel good. I might have to visit you and bring some Vaseline. :rotflmao:


Thanks so much Guy.

Thanks again everyone. I think I can weather this myself for now. Will seek professional help if something changes. (*8*)
 
fredroy said:
Nope. Not yet time for a doggie. Give it a month or so. It will take a few visits to the pound to find "THE doggie". We don't need a puppy. Bribe the pound folks with a few bags of dog food and cookies. They'll hook you up with an older lab or beagle or whatever that needs a home.
Click to expand...

There used to be a huge pound for dogs and cats near Teterboro Airport. I might just go and have a looksee. :)
 
Vannie said:
Thanks again everyone. I think I can weather this myself for now. Will seek professional help if something changes. (*8*)
Click to expand...

Glad you're doing better, @Vannie! Remember that any significant life change like this, or going through a grief and grieving process, will have days where you feel better, and then some days not. It's not a linear thing you can track, and you're not "regressing" - it's simply different emotions emerging at different times. Be patient with yourself and the range of emotions. And yes, a therapist can be excellent, even the ones via a website like Betterhelp if you're unsure of a local match.

Lots of people deal with things like this by re-discovering the things they enjoy and spark enjoyment in their life - favorite music/bands/albums, hobbies, etc. - and taking those to a new level. Being patient with yourself as well as re-discovering what ignites you as a person are two really important things!
 
Vannie said:
Thanks again everyone. I think I can weather this myself for now. Will seek professional help if something changes. (*8*)
Click to expand...
That's great, and we all understand you not wanting to stay in the spotlight, but if you do feel yourself in need again, don't feel like you cannot return to the thread.

We're here for you. That's one thing I'll quickly brag on JUB about: when the chips are down, the friends here are ready to help at any hour. I am quite certain there are dozens alive today as a result of it.
 
Vannie said:
Damn. Thanks everyone. I certainly do feel a little better today. What a difference a day makes....24 little hours.

J you certainly know how to make a guy feel good. I might have to visit you and bring some Vaseline. :rotflmao:


Thanks so much Guy.

Thanks again everyone. I think I can weather this myself for now. Will seek professional help if something changes. (*8*)
Click to expand...
Good to hear, You have friends on JUB

 
I've learned how important it is to surround yourself with as much support from other people as you can. My Nephew and his wife keep me laughing as well as my Neighbor friends and even all of you here have been great.

Still hurting but it certainly has lessened.

Thank all so much.
 
Vannie said:
I've learned how important it is to surround yourself with as much support from other people as you can. My Nephew and his wife keep me laughing as well as my Neighbor friends and even all of you here have been great.

Still hurting but it certainly has lessened.

Thank all so much.
Click to expand...
What a joy to learn that you are feeling a little better.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top