Planning on asking a guy out

[Eeyore]

I'd tell him your interested in hanging out some time. Then give him your cell number and tell him to call/text when he's free and wants to do something. Then take it from there. It doesn't really need to be any more complicated than that.

 

[pinolian]

The first thing is geive him your cell and not your home number. Not in yhour parents house

 

[CudDULL]

Well give him your cell phone number obviously.

I guess just point blank ask him if hes gay.

 

[G-Lexington]

Cell.

As far as finding out if he's gay, your choice. You can ask if you feel comfortable. You can mention that you're gay in conversation, which will be an open for him to do the same. Or you can just wait until you hang out, and let the conversation come up naturally.

Lex

 

[spencer]

can you say, text me and I'll call you because I don't service at my house (assuming you get enough sporadic service to get a text)

 

[Halifaxboy8]

Give him your email address. That way its still just between him and you and you don't have to worry about a family member picking up the call.

You can also create another email address through gmail, hotmail, yahoo etc., if you have a home email account that other people might be able to access.

 

[spencer]

then next move is obvious, you ask him if you wants to go have a beer sometime (doesn't have to be just you two, it can be with your friends or his) and you lower your expectations of anything sexual from him. good friends are hard to find and he's comfortable around you enough to do an interview, so he's not going to turn down fun.

The interview and the question was yesterday's move. Move on from the curiousity, accept that he is straight an get to know him better and quit interpreting his every move as potentially gay.

 

[Coffee]

okay, I just had a thought.

I am taking a Journalism class and we had to interview someone for an assignment. I chose this guy, since it would give me an excuse to get to know more about him. well, I sort of took it upon myself to try and find out his sexual prefrence. I knew I shouldn't have said anything, but it just came out.

here's how it went:

I asked the guy (at the very end of the interview) what he would want his life to be like when he was finally content. one of the things he said was that he would like to be married. so, I asked him (while I was recording the interview on tape) if he wanted a husband or a wife.

he said he wanted a wife.

now, I understand that I shouldn't have asked him in that moment. but, I couldn't stop myself!! I regret it now, because I don't know if he just paniced and lied cuz he knew he was being recorded and doesn't know me that well (we've only talked to each other twice) or if he was being sincere.

afterwards, I checked his Facebook profile (please don't think I'm a stalker!) and there's a picture of him with his arm around a girl. this could be anybody, mind you. his sister, cousin, or just a close friend.

then, he came by the room I was in and turned to leave as soon as he saw me. this was after the interview. I understand how this might look, but when the interview was over, he kindly asked me if I needed anything else from him and I just said "no" and sort of unconsciously gave off the vibe that I was disapointed by his response. so, I think he probably just didn't want to bother me.

I'm so confused. I don't know what move to make next, because if he really is straight, I don't want to ruin my chances at a good friendship with him. but at the same time, I don't want to miss the chance at a great relationship with a guy I really like.

what do I do?

OK you're overthinking. Get your mind off him, at least for a bit. He may doesn't care what you're doing and who you are to him, but you're keep thinking and doing things hoping a chance (you know it's very rare). In the end, who's the one that have been stressful and confused and depressed? you. But he may even doesn't wanna know.
I don't say you should give up. But you should open your eyes for someone else too. You're man may have been there for a long time but you haven't noticed.

 

[hotb0d]

Just play it cool and be nice and friendly to him the next time you see him. Be approachable is what you want to exude from now on. A good excuse for you to talk to him again is to thanks him for helping out with your project, maybe keep him up-to-date with your project.