Please help me

[Jayharvey]

I am a student at university and I am bisexual I think. Last year after a night out a guy I know started touching my ass and stroking my back. I assumed that he was into me but nothing happened after.

Anyway a week later he came out with us to go clubbing. Whilst at the club I was pretty drunk and I tried it on with him. It was pretty bad but I tried to finger him. I don't know if I tried it more than once.

Fast forward a year and he came out with us again and made a jokey comment about it. He was like you tried to finger I don't want it.

This has played on my mind for a year, I am starting to think that I am a rapist. It is really effecting me.

I would love some advice on the matter.

 

[LuckysRevenge]

He made a joke about it, right? So I think it's fine.

You were drunk.. you were at a club. Things happen. Don't let this affect you. Plus it was a year ago!! There are much more important things in your life to concern yourself about.

 

[checkinthingsout]

I am a student at university and I am bisexual I think. Last year after a night out a guy I know started touching my ass and stroking my back. I assumed that he was into me but nothing happened after.

Anyway a week later he came out with us to go clubbing. Whilst at the club I was pretty drunk and I tried it on with him. It was pretty bad but I tried to finger him. I don't know if I tried it more than once.

Fast forward a year and he came out with us again and made a jokey comment about it. He was like you tried to finger I don't want it.

This has played on my mind for a year, I am starting to think that I am a rapist. It is really effecting me.

I would love some advice on the matter.

You are not a rapist and this happened a year ago. You should forget it happened and proceed with your life. Or better yet, tell him you are Bisexual and see what he thinks

 

[KaraBulut]

I am a student at university and I am bisexual I think... I am starting to think that I am a rapist. It is really effecting me.

I would love some advice on the matter.

For now, focus on figuring out the bisexual question. That's what college is for.

And maybe be a little more careful with the drinking until you have it figured out.

 

[Jayharvey]

After he made the joke he touched my arse again on a night out.

 

[KaraBulut]

After he made the joke he touched my arse again on a night out.

The issue is not his sexuality, it's about yours.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

After he made the joke he touched my arse again on a night out.

Maybe he only wants to penetrate you... or maybe he's just a tease.

 

[mbamike]

How can you finger someone with their clothes on? Am I missing something here?

Sounds like you two just like touching one another, feeling each other up. If he says don't do a particular thing, then don't do it. You are not a rapist. Sounds like he's fine with you since he is talking and joking with you.

 

[justaguy]

Perhaps when he touches you hes watching for your reaction. I must admit, Ive done that to guys im interested in occasionally. You might be in here. Next time you go out, touch his arse in the same manner and see how he reacts. Just dont blame me if it goes all wrong and he punches you or something. Lol.

 

[Just_Believe18]

I think someone is going to have a more negative reaction if you try to finger them. He just wanted to touch your ass, not finger it.

Like Kara mentioned, this is about your sexuality, not his. You should be more focused on yourself and what you want. He's not it.

 

[Jayharvey]

The only thing that I am scared about is that I am a rapist.

 

[KaraBulut]

The only thing that I am scared about is that I am a rapist.

Probably not a rapist but perhaps you should be more careful about alcohol if it makes you make poor choices.