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Please pray for us......

My deepest condolences.

One of my greatest fears is to loose a niece or a nephew.
I wish I could do anything to ease your pain.

You’re in my thoughts.
 
I'm so sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you, your partner, and your family.
 
I'll certainly say a prayer for them. It's hard enough losing an adult family member. I can't imagine losing an infant.
 
I want to thank you all very much for all your thoughts and prayers. We arrived safely back in Oklahoma City around 5 on Sunday afternoon.

The services were beautiful. Although it was a very sad week, I found out a few things out about myself. And I can already see the good that is coming out of this tragedy. People tend to grow closer when they have faced some of life's sadder moments together.

Last month I spoke of my Godson Gaven and how his mother murdered him and then killed herself.(he was 3 yo and the only child of his mother and my long time friend chuck. I was begged by family and lawyers alike to take custody of Gaven. And I chose not to. I truly did not think that she would ever hurt herself let alone Gaven. I was terribly wrong and now I have to live with the choices I have made. I had a chance to give that boy a better life, and I failed to do so. :( The saddest part about the whole ordeal is, I don't even know where Chuck and Gaven are buried. I didn't go to Chuck funeral because I was too scared to let people see me cry, and I couldn't stand the thought of watching his widow cry. I didn't go to Gavens' funeral because I felt so guilty that I didn't do what I should have that there was no way that I was going to try to face his family.

I realize now that there was a reason for what happened and there is a reason that I made the choice I did. What was the reason? Who knows. All I know is that need to try to make peace with what has happened. As hard as it may be I know I have to.

Once again I thank you all for your well wishes and prayers, I assure you that they were heard and answered.

Love,
Dirk and Abe :)
 
Oh, this is making me start crying again.:cry:

I'm an aetheist, but i'll light some nice aroma candles and think peaceful thoughts for your family.
 
I truly do not know what to say:( ... just that you´ll be in my prayers (*8*)
 
Thanks for the update, I'm glad you and Abe are getting through it. Also thanks for the Info about the past issue, you didn't have to share that but you did so anyways. It makes more sense to me just why you took your godson's death so hard, but always remember it is in no way your fault. Also may I suggest you find out were they are buried and visit them some time soon.
 
Even though it might seem impossible now, I hope you can move on past Gavin's death. Two children's deaths within such a short timespan must seem crushing.

Best wishes to you both. I'm so glad you have each other to lean on.
 
I'm sorry to hear of such terrible news.....my heart goes out to you and Abe and his family.To lose someone so precious so young always is an incredibly tough thing to experience,and I hope for healing and strengthening of love and faith for all of you.
 
I'll be praying for you, Abe, and the family of the little girl....matter of fact I just shot one up for you. I wanted to just send something that might be of comfort while you are with the family and at the funeral:

Maya Angelou said this:

"I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life. I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as 'making a life'. I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back. I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one. I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I've learned that I still have a lot to learn. I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."


I wish I could give you a pat on the back, a hug, and to celebrate the lifetime that you all enjoyed even though it was but a year!
 
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