Please release me

[G-Lexington]

Divorces and LTR break-ups can be messy affairs. She appears to have severely hurt you over the past year or so. And because the feelings run so deep, you can't simply turn them off, and so the love gets turned to hate.

As difficult as it may be, do your utmost not to carry around too much resentment for her. Not that her actions are forgiveable, but resentment is a heavy burden for anyone to carry. Do what you can to turn your face forward, towards an uncertain but exciting future.

Best of luck to you.

Lex

 

[StlKj]

noelie,

While you hurt and ache for what you've lost because of her, I'm going to silently be grateful to her for not staying to hurt you even more than she already was. Yes, it's the death of a relationship you were hoping would bear fruit, but it also sounds like a large part of it was very rotten and poisoning you as well.

Here's hoping that as you heal from this, you'll move forward into something more healthy and loving for you.

 

[gewhite3]

Noelie,

Try to look at things this way........

Everything happens for a reason and, although we may not know it now, it may just be a blessing in disguise. It may not be apparently obvious now, but I feel you will be better off without the failed relationship hanging over your head. Sure, it's hard to pick ourselves up sometimes and those first few steps into the future can be really scary. However, after those steps, I bet you'll be better and stronger than ever before and I bet you'll be proud of yourself too.

Big Hug for you...............

gewhite3

 

[Gooey45]

one thing i can tell you after reading how she called you is she doesnt want to give up her control over you by you calling her and snapping back at her she still controlling your emotions.Best advice i could give you is get as far away as you can until the divorce is over take a vacation tell her u going to visit the world or something change your number and relax. breathe , it wont be long now.

she sounds really psycho. just remember is not your fault she is crazy and no matter what after the divorce you dont have to see her again.just tell her that tell her that is over between you two that you dont want anything to do with her to leave you alone and let you live your life.she has to respect that.She is threatening your happiness dont let that crazy woman hurt you anymore you deserve better.

good luck

 

[spreadeagle]

Might she be alcoholic?

Is there any reason that your lawyer can't communicate pertinent information to her lawyer, rather than putting yourself in the firing line?

A restraining order is a possibility - don't delete her messages - if they are threatening they could be used as evidence.

I'm a bit perplexed at your wish to marry and have children when you were aware of your 'gay tendencies' - there are other ways of fathering children without marrying a psychopath.

 

[Huskerboy]

Noelie - I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time. It's so unfortunate that some things have to end in such a painful manner, and I hope you can get through this as quickly as possible.

With your new life ahead of you, you'll be able to see what is really important to you. I wish you all the best and know that you'll find the someone special who will make you happy.

 

[alley]

Those voice mails really tell the true story ---don't they?----She playing with your emotions because she knows she can--I really feel for you and if you need anyone to talk to in a similar--but not as toxic situation give me a PM----

 

[G-Lexington]

This should be fairly easy if you just keep calm and keep your eyes on the prize. The prize, in this case, being freedom. Do NOT get pulled into a bitch session, she-said-she-did sort of thing. Disassociate yourself, do things as simply as you can, and get this thing behind you.

Good luck.

Lex

 

[Blk_Thickness]

I liked the song you posted man. Good luck with you're Court hearing .

 

[shea]

Good luck and hugs noelie.
shea

 

[mac_twck]

Good Luck and I am thinking about you!

Mac

 

[supergurl]

OH KICK HER ASS!! SHE SOUNDS LIKE A REAL BITCH!!!

 

[Blk_Thickness]

Glad it went well man. Now, you can move on.

 

[G-Lexington]

That part of your life is over.

Another day is starting. Get going.

Lex

 

[Eagle653]

This is a chance for you to start fresh, Noelie.

I know you were hurting...but it will subside, and you'll be happy again.

to you for being so strong through all of this.

I want to echo what huntneo says.

I went through a divorce too and I remember how awful it was and how utterly sad. We both failed each other, but, nevertheless, I don't think either of us has recovered.

I can assure you, though, that time will provide perspective and will dry your tears. This really IS a time to start fresh and find true happiness. It begins tomorrow.

Always believe in yourself, and don't let ex's, lawyers, or courts shake your foundation. This sad, angry, and frustrating time in your life will come to an end and then you can move on.

Hang in there. Many of us know exactly what you're going through.

 

[Kulindahr]

Wow.
I wish I hadn't been avoiding this forum, so I'd have seen this sooner. But it reads like you've done well!

Thank you g

Well it was a very interesting morning. My soon to be ex phoned at 9.07am and left a voicemail to say she wouldn't be able to make it to the hearing and would I let her know what happened. I put my phone on silent, walked in the pouring rain to the courthouse, waited till I was called, was given my date for the final 'trial' (13th Feb.) and I went for a coffee. In the meantime my ex phoned 11 (yes 11) times and left 5 voicemails. Apparently she turned up at the court late and I had already gone but she was fuming and swearing at me for not answering the phone. The 4th voicemail was the one where she lost it. She threatened to make orders of discovery and get a PI to investigate my taxes and finances. She threatened to make sure she gets a cut of any compensation I might receive from abuse I suffered as a child in a Church/State home. She threatened to make stuff as difficult as possible. Wow! and I have it all on voicemail.

So I eventually called her back and asked her what courthouse she went to (I was being a smartass). I asked her did it not occur to her that I might have my phone on silent while I was sitting in a courtroom, gave her the date for the trial and hung up with her screaming at me.

13th February roll on.

Too bad it's just voice and not video -- wouldn't it be a kick, putting it on YouTube?
Save those messages.....

Hi guys - sorry for my absence but this is only a flying visit because I'm not set up with broadband yet. I've moved into my new apartment and life is good. I'm hoping to book a special student discount around the world flight tomorrow and a good friend here has invited me to his birthday party on the 13th and wants me to celebrate my divorce in tandem with his b'day

I have to admit that I'm on tenterhooks until the 13th though.

Just back from the old queen's birthday party - it was a riot. We sang and danced the evening away. Thanks again you guys. I'm gonna do something symbolic tomorrow to mark this occassion - I had cut my wedding ring in half to show my wife what she was doing to me and then I had it welded together like two Cs - ͻc but intertwined a bit like the Chanel logo (this was supposed to signify that though we were apart we would always be connected - big sap that I was back then) - so tomorrow I'm going to get the two pieces separated again and throw one half away into the sea.

Around the world... I can't even imagine doing that! Wow.
But about that ring...
if you're going around the world, will you be stopping in Hawaii? There's a volcano there that would be a perfect place to toss that piece -- think of the symbolism.

 

[alley]

Just back from the old queen's birthday party - it was a riot. We sang and danced the evening away. Thanks again you guys. I'm gonna do something symbolic tomorrow to mark this occassion - I had cut my wedding ring in half to show my wife what she was doing to me and then I had it welded together like two Cs - ͻc but intertwined a bit like the Chanel logo (this was supposed to signify that though we were apart we would always be connected - big sap that I was back then) - so tomorrow I'm going to get the two pieces separated again and throw one half away into the sea.

Never waste jewerly--melt it down--or sell the scrap----

You can use it as spending money on your trip