Poll for heterophobia

[xbuzzerx]

>implying Pokemon aren't real.

 

[MissAnne]

what if he's not married? And he just wants to give gay sex a try because he's opened minded, and wants to experience it first hand to see if he's missing something that may appeal to him on some level?

People do that ?

Hmm..I suppose it could happen.

 

[xbuzzerx]

People do that ?

Hmm..I suppose it could happen.

They do. I could tell my story I've just shared with one person via PM here if anyone cares.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

it ( alway check they no loony - safer ) fa folk wot a ( gay ) <or gay wot define by land wot make new word equal ta male ans female in ( all thang ) ans no need no law fa folk figa it
say hi ta * hetro folk ) wot a define by a culture wot sane in all thang

ans no get put in wood chippin machine if a hetro go call on group fa bit a R&R of worlds fun thangs do wen wanna bit a R&R civlized way cause sudden like it not a thang wot is fit their nogs

not a folk got a be gay fa hetro call on group fa R&R cause

this a words use by 1st world so may a no fit lands world ova folk wot is sure padded cells best place fa worlds idea hetro

anyway

thankyou

dizzy now

if no figa any post no worry go visit porn gallerys ans enjoy ya stay

 

[xbuzzerx]

it ( alway check they no loony - safer ) fa folk wot a ( gay ) <or gay wot define by land wot make new word equal ta male ans female in ( all thang ) ans no need no law fa folk figa it
say hi ta * hetro folk ) wot a define by a culture wot sane in all thang

ans no get put in wood chippin machine if a hetro go call on group fa bit a R&R of worlds fun thangs do wen wanna bit a R&R civlized way cause sudden like it not a thang wot is fit their nogs

not a folk got a be gay fa hetro call on group fa R&R cause

this a words use by 1st world so may a no fit lands world ova folk wot is sure padded cells best place fa worlds idea hetro

anyway

thankyou

dizzy now

if no figa any post no worry go visit porn gallerys ans enjoy ya stay

I see this video in my head everytime Sloppy posts:

 

[quasar]

...Butt what if you knew a hot straight guy who was receptive to experimenting with a gay guy...would you pursue it?

At the risk of outing myself as some kind of two bit trash whore, I excel at helping curious guys explore their sexual boundaries. There have been several - one of which, to this day, remains the hottest sexual encounter I've had. I guess I'm just considered a trusting and discreet guy by my straight and curious mates.

 

[G-Lexington]

Hmm, it sounds like the basis for your heterophobia is identical to xbuzzerx's, then. This "phenomenon" hadn't occurred to me when I started this thread. As I thought all gay men were supposed to be controlled by their little head, and would make any reasonable allowances to satisfy it's craving for fresh hot meat.

It's not like I haven't had the small head make some decisions for me in the past. But yeah, generally I let the upstairs one rule. And yes, I have a lot of gay guys wonder why I would do that to myself.

Lex

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I see this video in my head everytime Sloppy posts:

yea is see folks head but internet2 got learn words wot supa ans alway nice meet lot a white rabbits

anyway

one day word hetro mean hetro only not da long list a thangs supa colidda washin machine no get look white a a white

ha

kool

thankyou

 

[MissAnne]

They do. I could tell my story I've just shared with one person via PM here if anyone cares.

I care. By all means.

 

[MissAnne]

Im starting to think that I would "discriminate" against a curious straight girl. Im not the hook up type so I would be expecting a relationship out of the whole thing.

I used to watch the Canadian show Being Erica and something a character said has always stuck with me.

"This is why I dont go for straight girls. After its all done. Im alone and they have a hot story to tell their boyfriends"

I wouldn't call this heterophobia. I call it looking out for myself.

 

[quasar]

..."This is why I dont go for straight girls. After its all done. Im alone and they have a hot story to tell their boyfriends"

I wouldn't call this heterophobia. I call it looking out for myself.

This is so true and a downside to my jaunts with my straight friends I guess. Although I've become good at saving my straight mates for one nighters with NSA, and reserving any relationships for gay or bisexual guys, it will probably only be a matter of time before I fall for one of my straight friends...

 

[xbuzzerx]

I care. By all means.

Right well like I've said in a few other threads... I'm generally pretty much an "only if it seems like it's heading somewhere" kind of guy. I don't hook up with guys off personals or websites for no strings attached or one night stands or anything like that. I have a friend that I met years back... we're not best friends, we don't do everything together or anything like that, but we've known each other for 6 years, we worked together on a website at one point, he's a little bit older than me (I am in my early 30's) and is married. At any rate out of the blue one day we were talking about porn, it was just a friendly not overly personal discussion about guys & internet porn, and he asked what kind of sites I've ever used or looked at and I rattled a few off and he asked if I would like to see his page on <insert a site where you can put up pics and vids>. He said since it's all anonymous and plenty of guys look at his content anyway it was no big deal to him and I was like "... okay sure?" I gave him very circumspect compliments. "Nice vids, you're in good shape", that kind of thing. It was not like a cyber discussion or whatever.

Fast forward to a few months later and he asked if I'd want to mess around together sometime, no drama or strings attached. He confessed that it being sorta "taboo" had been a very big turn on for him for a lot of his adult life, and that it was something he always fantasized about doing at least once with a guy. He also said we'd been friends and known each other for many years and so he felt comfortable with me and he knew I wasn't going to suddenly go psycho, get fatal attraction or try to ruin his life or anything, which would be his concern with any random stranger he didn't know. Honestly and I'm sure this may surprise some people, I took a couple days and delayed on answering him precisely because we had been friends for awhile and even though we weren't exactly "do everything together everyday' sort of friends, it still sucks to have something blow up or someone to freak out over sex becoming involved with someone you've known for awhile. But I was single and wasn't seeing anyone, so I finally decided why not.

I won't go into gory bedroom details but I will say that while it was totally casual and friendly (there was no awkward, uncomfortable frigidness or nervousness, he's a pretty socially comfortable guy) it was also very "to the point." He did talk and say things felt good and what not, but there wasn't any kissing (both of us politely avoided it I think not knowing how the other would feel about it, possibly more me than him) and I did ask him before we got too into it how much touching was alright since I didn't want a sudden recoil or an "oh no don't do that I'm not gay", lol. He said "sure sure." He said it was a lot of fun and confessed he'd fantasized about getting to try that since he was 18 or 20 or something, and we got dressed and just hung out for a bit like normal. It may sound a little awkward but it wasn't at all, we've known each other for years.

There was no text 3 days later saying "let's do it again" or "hooked up with a hot guy" or "I guess I"m really gay" or anything like that. Just polite platonic conversation like normal afterwards. I really have no reason to think anything other than the face value of what he said-- he's a straight guy (he even told me his sex life with his wife is very good, she almost never turns down sex, and that he's very happy with it) who had an intense curiosity to try something out of the norm. He's never acted or said anything in a way for me to think anything otherwise like that he's secretly gay or anything else.

I'm sure many guys here have many more experiences with many more guys, but for me this would be my experience that makes me balk a bit at how people say "no straight guy could ever do that" or "they're all secretly bi/gay." Even if they "are" I don't see how that matters if what they've done with the same gender accounts for 0.1% of their active sexuality.

 

[GregKII]

I have nothing against sraight guys. Everyone has their preferences. You are who you are.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I have nothing against sraight guys. Everyone has their preferences. You are who you are.

if a may add ans ta world lands of 21stcentury
fairys a hope so one day lands a awsum be figa how a be wit or wits out da technology ans lot a useless professions wot not doin a thang help it

or guess human race just is wot it is ans eeeek

thankyou

 

[G-Lexington]

The old adage is "it's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission". In short, it's easier to just not ask your wife and go "satisfy your curiosity" (no matter how many times), and then ask for forgiveness afterwards if it ever comes to light, than it is to approach your wife and say "I'd like to have sex with a guy once to see what it's like - are you cool with that?"

Lex

 

[xbuzzerx]

So, was he hiding this experiment from his wife? If so, I feel bad for her. If everything was going well in his married life, going behind her back to have a fling with someone is still cheating even if it was just a one time, experimental thing. But if he was upfront about it to his wife, it obviously wouldn't be cheating.

I wonder, though, if the gay or bi men who are sexually propositioned by straight-curious men ever take into consideration the fact that they are helping these men to cheat on their partners? Does it not seem a bit unfair even though you may feel like you're doing them a favor? IDK. This isn't directed at anyone specifically, but it's a general question.

I didn't feel like I was "doing him a favor" per se, it was just a little bit of safe fun. There was absolutely no emotional element to the "cheating." In his own words it was really more just like he wanted to get off with a "buddy" more than "have an affair with a man." We didn't have an affair, we don't do dinner and drinks and go back to his place and make out and have sex. It was a one time ejaculation.

As to whether or not that constitutes a serious harmful breach of his marriage is honestly between him and his wife and his conscience. That may sound bad but if he does or doesn't cheat on his wife with ANYONE (male or female) is not a choice I have any power to make.

Edit- just for absolute clarity, this is the sole thing I've ever done with a "straight guy", I most certainly do not pursue or go after married men, I didn't even "go after" this one. Just so that's clear that I don't go around pursuing married men and homewrecking.

 

[MissAnne]

he asked if I would like to see his page on <insert a site where you can put up pics and vids>. He said since it's all anonymous and plenty of guys look at his content anyway it was no big deal to him and I was like "... okay sure?" I gave him very circumspect compliments. "Nice vids, you're in good shape", that kind of thing. It was not like a cyber discussion or whatever.

I dont know your friend, but from your story, I would be more inclined to believe that he is atleast bi-sexual.

Showing you the videos seems like a grooming process and because he was so comfortable, it seems like he has probably done it before.

I also have to agree with thatgirl. I feel sorry for the wife. If he wasnt married it wouldn't have been as unsettling to me.

I am such a monogamy freak.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

wife is wot version wife? or a hubby ? of taday fit

world * systems * throw aorund folk fit any yoke ans no joke wot is they pay in end a days new game play fit da systems in play

got lot a thang do 21st is world idea civlis in pants or pantys ans still no bury centurys a awsums ways still goin now at ya local multiplex with hot lookin folk SMILE doin ta big parts

anyway

postive note world awsum cutlures only got figa male ans female so sure it no hard fa 21st century modern * man * ha

tea?
& it rainin thanks &
ooh

thankyou

 

[RaKroma]

This is an Orwellian designed poll question. Not pursuing straight guys for sex is now "discrimination"?

 

[xbuzzerx]

I dont know your friend, but from your story, I would be more inclined to believe that he is atleast bi-sexual.

Showing you the videos seems like a grooming process and because he was so comfortable, it seems like he has probably done it before.

I also have to agree with thatgirl. I feel sorry for the wife. If he wasnt married it wouldn't have been as unsettling to me.

I am such a monogamy freak.

I don't "advocate" cheating on marriages but we are on the topic of gay guys who pursue straight guys and I think we're kidding ourselves a bit if we tell ourselves none of those guys are married and that most of the straight-guys-fooling-with-gay-guys is "not disturbing" from that point of view of fidelity.

As I said, I don't pursue involved people, and I would never do something "with the intent of it going anywhere" with an involved person, or even a long-term sexual involvement with anyone where I knew it wasn't going anywhere. Even for this one-time thing I let him hang and had reservations about it for several days. Ultimately though his marriage is between him and his wife and as to someone asking before if she knew about it-- I don't know. Maybe he did tell her for all I know. I'm not a party to their marriage, lol. Nor am I friends with her at all. I don't know her at all, in fact.