Potential BF has HPV/Anal Warts...

[runtothemaxxx]

Hey everyone...

So I met this really amazing guy (nice, smart, cute, the works) and we decided to hang out the other day. We were cuddling and making out and then he told me that he got HPV, which turned into anal warts (he's taking meds). You can imagine how shocked I was. I need to make a decision on the matter, so I have a few questions to help me make an informed choice.

1. Isn't HPV and Anal Warts a viral infection?

2. I couldn't have gotten it (HPV) from kissing, right?

3. If these infections are viral, am I a horrible person for breaking it off?

Help would be amazing... I'm really bothered about this as it's my first time experiencing something of this nature.

Thanks!

 

[KaraBulut]

1. Isn't HPV and Anal Warts a viral infection?

It's a virus, similar to the virus that causes warts on your hands or feet.


2. I couldn't have gotten it (HPV) from kissing, right?

Not unless you kissed his ass. The contact has to be skin to skin, so you would have had to touch a place where the warts were.


3. If these infections are viral, am I a horrible person for breaking it off?

You're human. No one can answer whether you're a horrible person- it's a decision you will have to live with either way.

To his credit, he was honest with you. Many people who are carriers of HPV either don't know they have it or don't tell their partners. There are also a lot of people who have HPV who never realize they have it because the warts are so small or are internal.

Only you can answer whether you're ready to have a relationship with someone who has herpes or genital warts or hepatitis or HIV or any of these diseases that are not cured with an antibiotic. If he wouldn't have told you, would you have dated him?

 

[Txgoodoldboy]

A lot of people are already infected, but show no signs.

I was looking for an article on HPV and Gardasil, that I saw a couple of weeks ago. I think the second link is it. The first link was interesting.

http://www.thehpvtest.com/HPV-for-men-FAQ.html

Check this out.

http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?sec=health&res=990CE1DC143FF933A05752C0A9619C8B63

Here another:

http://www.thebody.com/Forums/AIDS/SafeSex/Current/Q186414.html

And another:

http://archive.stateline.org/flash-data/HPV/HPV FAQS.swf

This article talks about Gardasil being effective on more than one strain of HPV:

http://onthepharm.net/2006/09/gardasil-strains-31-45.html

 

[simpsons9000]

I think everyone's comments are valid and appropriate. However, I would highlight one thought... I don't think he would have mentioned the issue if somewhere in his mind he sees the possibility of having a long term relationship with you. Sounds to me like he's a mature, responsible person.

 

[runtothemaxxx]

Thanks to all of you for the advice and information on HPV/warts.

I really appreciate it.

 

[bluedragon4]

My best friend got anal warts. He had them lanced off and dated a guy for 3 years. The guy never got them and my friend had no outbreak. Than they broke up and he's been dating a guy for 4 years. That guy got them bad. I guess it was pretty bad and he had to see a doctor several times to get them lanced off. They are still together but sometimes I think his bf stays with his because now he has them and doesn't feel so great about it. It's not worth starting a relationship with someone who has them if you aren't invested.

 

[fadeinout30]

About half of sexually active gay males have HPV in their anus according to gayhealth.com in which most do not know they do because they have never had the symptom itself, the wart.

It is my belief you found someone who is honest and up front. Chances of you finding that quality in another male is highly unlikely.

The bottom line it is your choice to make.

Good luck!

 

[bluedragon4]

About half of sexually active gay males have HPV in their anus according to gayhealth.com in which most do not know they do because they have never had the symptom itself, the wart.

It is my belief you found someone who is honest and up front. Chances of you finding that quality in another male is highly unlikely.

The bottom line it is your choice to make.

Good luck!

Yes but he could find someone honest who doesn't have warts.

 

[3stripes]

Yes but he could find someone honest who doesn't have warts.

And how will that person honestly know??

Given that the 50% figure only relates to anal HPV, combine it with HPV present on the shaft of the penis and the figure likely rises to >75%; with less than 10% having had overtly obvious lesions.

So, in all honesty, they are probably self delusional if they know the above and claim not to have HPV.

 

[KaraBulut]

For those interested, the EXPLORE study was from UCSF, published in the 15-Dec-2004 issue of The Journal of Infectious Diseases.

The study, led by Peter V. Chin-Hong of the University of California, San Francisco, indicates a high prevalence of anal human papillomavirus (HPV) infection in all age groups of men who have sex with men. This finding contrasts with the age-related prevalence of cervical HPV infection.

Numerous studies have previously documented a causal link between HPV infection and anal and cervical cancers. Many studies have also shown that cervical HPV infection is strongly related to age, peaking early and falling after age 30. Little, however, is known about the age-specific prevalence of anal HPV infection in men who have sex with men. Most research on the subject has involved men in a narrow age range who were HIV-infected. The investigators described their study as the first to document anal HPV infection in a HIV-seronegative population of men who have sex with men who were diverse in terms of age and geography.

The study was conducted between January 2001 and October 2002 and involved 1,218 men who have sex with men living in Boston, Denver, New York, and San Francisco. The men were aged 18 to 89 years and 78% were white, 14% were Latino, 6% were African American, and 3% were Asian. The researchers found the prevalence rate of anal HPV infection to be 57%, and this rate did not change with age or from city to city. Factors associated with infection were receptive anal sex and having more than five sex partners in the previous six months.

Study results also described the nature of anal HPV infection in this group. Forty-five percent of those infected had more than one type of HPV. The prevalence of infection with “high-risk” HPV types associated with invasive anal cancer was 26%, suggesting that a high proportion of men who have sex with men may be at risk for anal cancer.

Chin-Hong and colleagues hypothesized that the sex-based difference in HPV epidemiology may reflect a difference between these populations in the number of new sex partners after age 30. They also suggest that there may be organ-specific and hormonal differences that contribute to the epidemiological differences. The investigators noted that one of the strengths of their study was its size and that it is the first multi-city study of anal HPV infection. A potential limitation, they explained, is that they do not know if their results can be generalized to certain subgroups of men who have sex with men, such as those living in rural areas.

 

[runtothemaxxx]

I think the answer is to just become a hermit and jack off for the rest of my life. Haha.

 

[bluedragon4]

And how will that person honestly know??

Given that the 50% figure only relates to anal HPV, combine it with HPV present on the shaft of the penis and the figure likely rises to >75%; with less than 10% having had overtly obvious lesions.

So, in all honesty, they are probably self delusional if they know the above and claim not to have HPV.

Aren't we the glass is half empty. Not everyone is in the dark or hiding a disease. Some people are std free if you didn't know.

 

[3stripes]

And how will that person honestly know??

Given that the 50% figure only relates to anal HPV, combine it with HPV present on the shaft of the penis and the figure likely rises to >75%; with less than 10% having had overtly obvious lesions.

So, in all honesty, they are probably self delusional if they know the above and claim not to have HPV.

Aren't we the glass is half empty. Not everyone is in the dark or hiding a disease. Some people are std free if you didn't know.

Yes, thank you for proving my point, even though it clearly is lost on you.