Preachers Son

[beatleshead]

Yep, that kid is strange if he didn't talk but just help and run and stares.
There is a name for that sort of behaviour but i can't think of one yet.

yeah..its weird. Im guessing...but i notice from what ive seen the way they raise them...thier very repressed. like they cant have a myspace and watch certain shows, etc. Things that would keep him current with his peers. So i tihnk he just doesnt communicate that much cos how could he im sure he cant relate. its funny to cos his looks just dont match his personality.

My pastor is supposed to be coming up to my school with him in a couple of weeks cos im supposed to show him the "college life" and how im tempted everyday by dangers of "darwinism" and other threats that are attacking me cos im christian. theyre crazy. i want to punch his father so bad...

 

[hotatlboi]

I'm a PK myself. And I wouldn't say I'm a hellion. But they often are--being too "protected" at home.

It's definitely possible for a PK to be gay--I'm living proof. For now, I'd flirt back a little, to confirm your suspicions. If you suspicions are correct, well, talk to him.

PKs are people too!

I am as well lol

And I don't think you should define anyone by what their parents are.

I'm about as far apart from my parents viewpoints on most things now as is possible.

 

[tonyboy]

its not that easy...theres deep consequence to OUR actions if that ever happened...you know what its like...hes just turned 17 and im turning 19 so im old enough to be the wiser...i feel like im the old queen whos learned the tricks of the trade how to get straight guys in a straight bar...and like i have to coach him on his skill cos hes a sloppy new comer. Wow that explanation was so gay.

I honestly dont have any feelings for him at all, its just a weird thing that i have to go see every single sunday. i feel the same like when a girl likes me and i dont like her but i have to see her everyday. its irritating.

Many things in life are irritating man.... this is just one of those minor ones.
Give the guy a break. After all, you are very mature at 'almost 19'... so what if the kid is attracted to you. Just let him idoloize you for a bit and he will move on. And you will too.
I don't see why this is so bothersome but it seems it is to you. Just treat him as well as you would anyone else in your church. He will get the message.
And give a tought to how tough it might be for a parsons son to be a gay boy. He's probably going to need a friend to talk to about such stuff. Could be you are not the right person to guide him but maybe you could steer him to someone that can.

 

[KaraBulut]

...I said this confirms MY doubts of organized religion and the certain hypocrisies I have encountered throughout my life that have caused me to be at a point where I am slowly disconnecting from it. If anyone was offended I am sorry…but I’m not sorry for having doubts. That’s just something I have to work out on my own.

Don't confuse "church" with religion. Religion is a personal thing while church is more a social thing.

Churches are composed of people. People are imperfect. Expect no less.

Now about the prejudging the pastor and the holy oil thing. You would have a point to say that I am being a jerk and judgmental if I just assumed he hates gay people and would throw holy oil on his kid and that there would be no chance of him understanding gay people without actually seeing him do it in action....There was a kid who got shot in the head in Camarillo because he dressed like a girl and he was gay, and my pastor went off on a tangent sermon about how basically…. It was the gay guy’s fault. I know that it is an impossibility that all people of my religion are like this. But that’s not the point…I KNOW they hate gay people.

Now about the PK. ...if my suspicions are true…I cant handle being constantly bothered by that, not only cos I don’t want him to be suspected of, but also, quite selfishly…I don’t want him to blow my cover.

The kid who was shot in school in Oxnard was murdered. While the Bible is vague about homosexuality, it's pretty clear on murder. That should give you an idea of the credibility and authenticity of this minister. These guys exist because their congregations pay them- without a congregation, they can't survive. Don't support this hateful minister. Find a more gay-friendly, positive church and go there.

My comments about PKs were intended to be sarcastic although most of us have some pretty good PK stories. There's a reason that PKs have a reputation- they're under a lot of pressure from their parents and from the expectations of the congregation.

At 17, it would not be unusual for any kid to be awkward and socially inept. It would also not be unusual for him to have an adolescent man-crush. If he is gay, he's going to need all the support he can get with a father like his.

If you do leave the church, keep in touch with this kid. He's going to need a supportive friend.

 

[texan_slant]

this confirms my doubts about organized religion, though i was pretty much on the edge anyways.

Over time, and adulthood, I hope that you are able to take a step back and think about whether or not religion would work for you again.

Most of the hypocrisy stems from people using it as a crutch rather than as a resource; using it as an excuse to "sin" because you'll be "forgiven"; and is usually best when one approaches religion on his own terms - rather than as something one's parent's did.

 

[beatleshead]

I think someone is developing a crush on the PK or is it's just me who thinks that.

you know what...your probably right...but i dont want to.

 

[silentalk]

If you hate him so much, why are you still there?

Wouldn't it be more comfortable for you to leave?

I dunno... just a suggestion!

 

[beatleshead]

As long as I want to be welcome in my parents home and not be on the streets, i will have to go there. And im very much tied to the church which i dont feel like explaining, but all you need to know is i cant just leave. thank you for reminding me