Pregnant Hormones

[youngnihilist]

pregnant women are nuts (not that women aren't nuts already but even more so . you cant know for sure but hormones are undoubtedly at work.

 

[tx_doc]

my sister had her last son at 47. She was crazy all the way from her 20s until recently. She had a hysterectomy. I like her so much more now. But I also suspect that because she's been non stop breast feeding for over 20 years, that may have had to do with the crazy too.

 

[MindBlast]

It's not your problem.

She's turning it into an issue inside of her head. She'll get over it eventually.

 

[luminum]

I agree with MindBlast, though I recognize that it's sort of standard advice.

It's probably less because she's pregnant, though. My parents flipped out when they discovered I told my entire school and my cousin. It didn't matter that my peers accepted me and all my teammates and friends, and my cousin stood by me. They passed it off as them just "being polite and not saying anything."

The truth is that to them it was unthinkable and now that I'm older, I can see it less as them being awful people and more of being concerned and angry that I had made myself vulnerable to attack by anyone (in their perspective).

It's really all based out of their own prejudices and I suspect that so is the case with your mother. She may get over it eventually when she sees almost nothing bad happening, or she may just get over it in general, or give up, or she may never get over it. But that shouldn't stop you from being out to those you love or care about. It's your life and no matter how much she may feel "hurt" it's not hers to control.

It may help, however, to speak to her and just lay it out to her that you need support and that you have support from your peers, since it may not be coming from home. As an individual, you have the right to be happy and to be who you are and that as her son, you would expect her to support you just as you would for her, your father, or your brother. Explaining that coming out to those who can give you support in your life is not "about" her is important to at least say inorder to try to clear up any misunderstandings she may have. If she feels "betrayed" or "hurt" or "concerned" it is not your intention to cause those feelings, obviously.

None of this may ever get through to her, but at least you can know that you tried your best and presented her with the truth, whether she decided to absorb it or not.

 

[MindBlast]

I agree with MindBlast, though I recognize that it's sort of standard advice.

It's probably less because she's pregnant, though. My parents flipped out when they discovered I told my entire school and my cousin. It didn't matter that my peers accepted me and all my teammates and friends, and my cousin stood by me. They passed it off as them just "being polite and not saying anything."

The truth is that to them it was unthinkable and now that I'm older, I can see it less as them being awful people and more of being concerned and angry that I had made myself vulnerable to attack by anyone (in their perspective).

It's really all based out of their own prejudices and I suspect that so is the case with your mother. She may get over it eventually when she sees almost nothing bad happening, or she may just get over it in general, or give up, or she may never get over it. But that shouldn't stop you from being out to those you love or care about. It's your life and no matter how much she may feel "hurt" it's not hers to control.

It may help, however, to speak to her and just lay it out to her that you need support and that you have support from your peers, since it may not be coming from home. As an individual, you have the right to be happy and to be who you are and that as her son, you would expect her to support you just as you would for her, your father, or your brother. Explaining that coming out to those who can give you support in your life is not "about" her is important to at least say inorder to try to clear up any misunderstandings she may have. If she feels "betrayed" or "hurt" or "concerned" it is not your intention to cause those feelings, obviously.

None of this may ever get through to her, but at least you can know that you tried your best and presented her with the truth, whether she decided to absorb it or not.

What I gave was indeed fairly common advice, so mayhap I can offer up another bit that basically continues the same idea as you said, but spelled out a bit more clearly:

You are not responsible for anyone else's feelings.

She owns her own feelings. We each own our own feelings. Nobody 'makes' us feel anything. Their actions might induce us to feel a certain way, but the way we feel is something inside of us.

 

[Atomw7]

This reminds me of a Katt Williams Quote:

Bitches need to stop blaming all your problems on us. Stop tellin' a nigga,"You fucked up my self-esteem". Bitch it's called SELF-ESTEEM! It's esteem of your mothafuckin' self. How am I gonna fuck up how you feel about you simple bitch?

 

[luminum]

What I gave was indeed fairly common advice, so mayhap I can offer up another bit that basically continues the same idea as you said, but spelled out a bit more clearly:

You are not responsible for anyone else's feelings.

She owns her own feelings. We each own our own feelings. Nobody 'makes' us feel anything. Their actions might induce us to feel a certain way, but the way we feel is something inside of us.

Sorry, I wasn't trying to call you out, just expand on the idea you gave. Apologies.