Is there any guy out there that really learned to control himself? how did you learn or what techniques did you use? and I mean 'to control' not 'to delay'. Maybe your testimonies will help us
You are really asking that? I have twice given the answer.
It starts with yourself - when you beat off. It is not a fucking race. Maybe people got bad habits because they thought Mom was going to walk into the room and catch them so they beat off fast and furious -
or from stupid circle jerks where the "winner" was the guy who came first --
or whatever.
Its all wrong.
If you can't take time to please yourself, you won't be able to take time to please your partner.
So you start by conditioning yourself - this is old Masters and Johnson technique which I am glad I read before I get sexual - take your time, practice with different speeds, different positions, different angles, different pressure points, whatever - and practice the mind control as well - when you get close, slow down, do something different, and see how often you can get close and change what you are doing and get close again - how long you can make it last.
Once you've mastered the half hour hand job the next step is thinking about partner sex. I remember my former partner and I - he was at the time maybe 53 and I was 45 - talking to a gay couple friends aged 21 and 19, discussing how long sex took. They couldn't remember a time longer than 30 minutes. We couldn't remember a time shorter than five hours (and we were pretty daily sex partners - we lived together, start at 6 or 7, you can go until midnight or 1 and still get a good night's sleep). I am not bragging - its just the Pointer Sisters taught it all a long time ago -
"I want a guy with a slow hand, I want a guy with an easy touch..."
The best sex I have ever had has been with guys who thought we were going for duration and quality, not speed. I'd fuck my lover for 45 minutes - change positions, change speed, change angles, etc - I've been fucked the same length of time (in front of the mirror, side view, on all fours, upside down, by the window) and it is great, the only way to do it.
I ain't no one special but it turns out that after a long evening of delayed cuming, I can get off 4-5 times in a row - damn my partner would wring me dry - and then I'd work on him - it was a special point of the evening, the "now we get off part" at the end of very long sessions. That is when you discover what climax is - climax - the ultimate, not a thing to rush for. I can keep going after those multi orgasms, my partner couldn't, so he'd take care of me first (and pride himself on the number of times he'd get me off) and then me him knowing he'd hold back and my pride was in getting beyond where he couldn't hold back any longer. And even then we'd still kiss (swap cum) and other shit for 5 - 30 minutes -
the key there was thinking we had a long evening ahead, let's use it all and see all the stuff we could do each other and cuming wasn't allowed until the end - damn it takes some mind control at time - and all my lengthy beat off sessions were great practice.
Two last comments. I had a buddy - our first time, went like three hours and then he said it was late, he had to get home, but next time he'd be sure to tie me up and see how many times he could get me to the brink and forbid me to come - now that was the best "I'll see you soon" thing I ever heard - man always got a warm welcome at my place.
I had two friends, one was a really hot stud, quite a bit younger than me, and beautiful, and he thought that 30 minutes was long enough, suck suck and out. He had a great mouth, one of the best ever. I gave him the "slow down, change the speed" hand sign and he took that as I wasn't coming at all - I was saying, this is so damn good, I want to make it last for a long time. (And one always repays that.) You can suck like a vacuum cleaner and get someone off fast - or you can take your time and offer them exquisite long lasting sessions - develope the hand signs - take the time to say "I'm close" which does not mean stop, it means, take a new approach, switch to the balls or work the shaft and lay off the head for a while, tongue tickle the piss slit or kiss the pubic hair or lick that area underneath the balls, crawl up the stomach, french kiss the naval, suck his tits etc - keep it going in a different way to make it last - the constantly approach-but-not-go-over the climax level makes it so much more fantastic when you do hit it.
So Mr 30 minutes was a real bum sex partner. When I moved, I met his ideological brother who thought 30 minutes from time in the door to getting naked to sucking each other off and him out the door was good because he was on his way to grandma's house. I told him, let's take time. Next time he thought going 45 minutes of suck suck suck done was more than enough.
You condition yourself in your mind that you aren't some fucking animal that does it for speed and that's it. Hot male on male sex means fucking like hot male animals who think the measure of their manhood is how long they can pleasure their partner, and be pleasured by. It's getting creative - discovering toys, discovering S&M (ever been wrist hung from the ceiling and have your partner sit in front of you and just toy with your throbbing cock? Just taking his time, playing... the torment is so fucking sweet -
So now that I have come off as the most arrogant asshole ever (which I may be, it is just my job to teach sex to a new generation) - check out the Masters and Johnson's sexual therapy techniques. If you won't try that, get three novels all by A. N. Roquelaure (real name Anne Rice): The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty, Beauty's Punishment, Beauty's Release - filled with great tips on extended sex and holding back orgasm until it erupts hours later as the climax of a great lengthy sex session - that book has male on male and male on female and some female on male sex instruction - or her more tame Exit to Eden (listed there as author Anne Rampling) all which can be found here
http://www.amazon.com/The-Books-of-Anne-Rice/lm/34P3P9BTFVY40
Get naked with your partner and read aloud to each other and learn from her - act out and riff off of what she describes (in some of the most literate hottest incredibly explosive porn ever) and you will condition yourselves (you and partner) to those long long evenings.
Or hire a navy guy who ho'ed himself in San Diego, most of them know a lot of tricks and let them do their learn on you and learn from them
and I am done with this thread, my work is done, and I must be like the biggest asshole to ever post on this board - but you asked
