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Premature ejaculation fears and embarrassment

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Hello! Just needed to ask and vent about this because I'm super embarrassed right now. I've never been in a sexual or romantic relationship but I've been curious about these Zoom rooms where guys jack off with each other (knowing the risks of using Zoom and hoping the moderation in the subreddit is enough for people to comply) and tried it out of curiosity especially when a specific horny mood arises. I end up trying it twice total seeing as some of these rooms are accommodating of the chubby body type and some even seek it out which makes me less insecure.

Problem is... the two times I've tried this I came not even two minutes into the session. It's just the excitement of doing a sexual activity with another guy turns me on so much that it's hard to hold it. I've left these sessions feeling too embarrassed to actually fully enjoy them.

So now I have this fear that if I ever pursue a sexual or romantic relationship in the future, this might hinder the enjoyment of sex. Idk if this is irrational or not. Do I need to work on this as early as now? Is this fear irrational and something I could easily get over with time (after all, I'm still in my early twenties)?
 
There are quite a few guys that I've heard talk about their first experiences with sex and admitting that it all happened too fast and was over far too quickly. It is very normal for inexperienced guys to struggle with what could be described as the "Goldilocks effect": either they come too fast or they can't come when they really want to come. And yes, being young and inexperienced plays a part in it. It gets does get better as you get older and you gain more experience.

Camming with guys is one way to experiment safely however it is not the same as having sex. It might be a good time to give some thought to what you're looking for in these sessions. Some guys are camming for the excitement of watching other guys. Some guys are camming for the experience of showing off for other guys. Some guys just want to get off.

If you're having issues with enjoying the experience and not coming too quickly, try jacking off and coming a few hours before your cam session. This may relieve some of your horniness and make it easier for you to take your time, enjoy the experience and find out what you enjoy about it.

However, camming is not a replacement for having sex and relationships with other guys. Always keep that in mind and don't use camming to substitute for in-person experimentation.
 
Thanks for the reply! I think what I really wanted was to try just about anything sexual because of these horny spells and the Zoom thing was the closest I could find that involved more than just myself. Like some peiords just jacking off by myself feels lacking. I will have to examine if I really want to do that or if I was just rushing into it. I did feel some excitement from it but perhaps was too hasty.
 
No need to feel embarrassed at all. If you cum fast, you can start over without pulling out, some guys can do that five times or even more & many bottom guys like it a lot.
 
Agree with the replies above. It does get better with trials / experience. It is possible though that despite practising online or virtually, you would cum very quickly when you experience it in real life. My first time lasted barely a minute ;) normally, the 2nd round will take more time. Once the novelty effect is gone in subsequent times, it does take longer to reach orgasm.
 
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